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base line: what made me successful is also what women don’t like about me
detached from my emotion; there is no such thing as work, only missions (so i never know when to stop working); wasting time is a sin, so little things like going for walks, feels terrible. Lack of empathy towards people’s emotions
worst thing of all, nobody has told me this but im sure its not liked, since im the successful one, you are on my schedule, not yours.
i think the only benefit i provide is being a provider and the ability to get stuff done.
When I worked with Oracle, I had to recruit one of their geniuses for position that paid 250k annually, so the manager and I were going through the list of projects these geniuses have completed in their career. This one tech, stood out, he had nearly triple the amount of projects and not only that, his projects were of the highest complexity almost inhuman and what the manager said after shook me to my core, he didn’t say he was hard working or motivated, he said “yeah he must have gone through some kind of trauma to make him want to work so much” and i find it true, so whatever trauma he went through is also going to affect his ability to be in a relationship.
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The ultra-wealthy and super-rich struggle with problems that most other people do not. One of these issues is chronic isolation.
“Most people can’t understand how rich people can have problems. They dismiss rich people’s mental health concerns as insignificant and of diminished importance,” clinical psychotherapist Paul Hokemeyer, who has lots of experience working with the rich, told CNBC.
“They live in such a rarified place of the top 1% where there are very few people who share the realities of their world.”
Meanwhile, psychotherapist Amanda Falkson adds that the rich may not be lucky or happy, no matter what outsiders tend to think. The rich face emotions like grief, trauma, losses, and challenging relationships, on top of stressing over how their money is spent and who (not) to trust.
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I found the opposite. Most days he worked just two or three hours a day. We had lazy breakfasts, long lunches, and he did hobbies most evenings.
All we had was time. So much of it.
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“Wealth can be pretty isolating … sometimes all eyes are on you to see what you do with your money,” Falkson says.
Meanwhile, Hokemeyer emphasizes that there is additional pressure if you are wealthy, but your spouse is not. You might feel that you’re being used for your money. Moreover, your spouse might feel looked down on or portrayed as a gold digger, even if they aren’t.
Kids are affected by massive wealth, too. Calda Clinic points out that children in wealthy families suffer from anxiety 20% to 30% more often than normal. Other common issues include substance misuse, depression, eating disorders, cheating, and stealing.
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Getting rich overnight or marrying into wealth might sound like a dream come true, but it comes with its fair share of challenges. Just recently, someone in Illinois won the Powerball jackpot worth a whopping $1.04 billion. The winner can either take a lump cash payment of $450.5 million (pre-tax) or have the annuitized prize paid out over 29 years. Most Powerball winners choose lump sums over annuity payments.
The issue with overnight success and having a wealthy spouse is that you cause other people a lot of envy if you openly flaunt your cash and success. Suddenly, you can no longer be sure whether someone wants to be friends with you or reconnect because they care about you or because they want access to your assets. Meanwhile, you might find yourself the target of lawsuits, scams, investment ‘opportunities,’ and desperate pleas for help.
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Do you know anyone who married rich? How have their lives changed, and what do they struggle with? How full of drama are their lives?
If you happen to be well-off, how do you make sure that the people closest to you aren’t just trying to use you for your wealth? What are some green flags that someone is being genuine and authentic?
Let us know in the comments at the bottom of this post.
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One thing that surprised me was that he had a relatively small home, didn’t plan on updating it when I moved in, never bought expensive clothes, we rarely went out to eat, only on very special occasions.
The only thing he spent money on was travel, but only on getting to very far away untypical destinations, and continued his modest lifestyle when we got there.
I even questioned how much money he had at a point because he only hoarded it. The reason I know, is that he passed away a few years after we broke up, and his siblings inherited all his money. One was a nurse and one was a teacher. Both bought huge, beautiful homes in an expensive neighborhood, and drive very nice cars, so I guess he was rich all along.
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The common con is that they can be really busy but all of our fiancée/husband makes time for us, especially on special occasions. You also need to learn to give them space when they are stressed out because most of the time wealthy men works in highly stressful jobs.
Of course there are self-destructive wealthy men as well. They mostly come from broken dysfunctional families. They cheat, lies and have substance issues. I know few like these through my fiancée.
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