60 Times A Partner's Mask Slipped And Revealed Their True Psycho Nature

He looked me straight in the eyes and lied about something very serious (related to our kids safety) and I had this moment where we were staring into each others souls not speaking for a couple minutes just staring and he knew that I knew who he really was and I think it freaked us both out. We’re not together anymore.

When we were driving home from a ceremony where I got an award and instead of congratulating me, he told me how much hearing people say nice things about me made him feel bad about himself

Somehow that stands out even more in my memory than him punching holes in walls.

My neighbor stuck his head into my garage to tell me his 98 year old mother had passed away. She was a lovely woman and was my neighbor for years.

My gf at the time threw a fit because I didn't introduce her to my neighbor. I even tried explaining it didn't seem like the appropriate time for introductions when he was grieving and wanted to share the news of her passing and funeral dates. She wasn't having it. I found that, troubling and odd.

Maybe not a psychopath but certainly a sociopath.

So many little things to choose from...

Here’s one:

In order to walk from the bedroom to the kitchen, I had to walk through the living room. This involved me walking in front of the TV. I had to walk in front of it to get to the kitchen. I always did it super quickly, but I always got screamed at. Sometimes I would have to wait 20-30 min before I was allowed to walk past.

One day, while my husband was out (he’s my ex husband now) I decided to rotate the entire living room. I put the Tv on a different wall and moved the couch so it faced the TV. Basically the living room was exactly the same, just rotated 90 degrees. The living room was a square so it functionally made no difference, except now when I walked from the bedroom to the kitchen, I didn’t have to walk between the couch and the TV.

When my husband got home, he saw the living room, said nothing about it. We ate dinner and he watched TV as usual. Then we went to bed. The next morning he refused to get out of bed or talk to me. He refused to leave the house, go to class, go watch TV, anything. He would not say one word. I kept trying to get him to tell me what was wrong and he wouldn’t. For three solid days he only got out of bed to grab food or use the restroom. He would not talk to me, would not make eye contact, or acknowledge my presence. I was panicking thinking he was having some sort of episode. It might seem obvious now but I had no clue what I had done wrong.

At the end of three days he said he felt like I had adequately been punished for re-arranging the living room without asking. He even told me to keep it that way. It made more sense and he liked it better like that. He still had to punish me for what I did though.

Edit to answer some commonly asked questions:

1. Was he mentally ill? He was never diagnosed but I would assume something was certainly wrong with him.

2. Did he have autism? No. I have a masters degree in Special Education and am trained to recognize it. I can see how it might appear that way from one story but I can assure you that he did not have autism.

3. Why did you marry him/stay? Did you know he was bonkers? There were hints he was a bit of a jerk but I had no idea how bad it was or would get. I had very low self esteem and felt I deserved to be treated badly.

4. Don’t you know it’s a jerk move to re arrange furniture without asking? I guess so? I didn’t think about it. I most likely should have asked. I still do not think I deserved his reaction. I was just trying to problem solve and maybe didn’t think it over as much as I should have.

5. Did you get out? Yes. I caught him cheating on me for the 7th time and he stopped letting me leave the house because he was afraid I would revenge cheat or leave him. One day we had no clean clothes so I left to wash them at the laundromat. While I was gone he called me and told me if I didn’t come home he would leave the baby home alone. I rushed home. The next day I went to the laundromat and took the baby with me. He was arrested for warrants due to unpaid speeding tickets. While he was in jail I changed the locks and never let him back in.

6. Are you happy now? Yes. I’m remarried to a wonderful man. My daughter is 9 and very happy and healthy. She’s smart and my husband treats her like his own child.

7. Why didn’t you crawl across the floor to avoid walking in front of the TV? I was very pregnant.

8. Where is he now? He found another girl to mooch off of and mistreat. Knocked her up too. She kicked him out and he couch surfed for a while before becoming homeless in Cleveland.

9. Does he have full custody of your daughter? No I have sole custody and he wants nothing to do with her. He once told me he didn’t want her unless he could have me too.

Was seeing a girl for a while I thought I really hit it off with, We were into the same stuff, etc. but something in my gut was telling me something was off, so I broke it off and tried to remain friendly with her.

Found out later from her roommate that she was playing a long con with me and was only pretending to be into everything I liked in an attempt to domesticate me. Also learned once I broke things off she got so angry she smashed a shot glass against their door, and when her roommate went to sweep it up said “No, leave it. Those are the shattered pieces of my heart.”

Safe to say I have no regrets and have never doubted my gut instinct since.

He sent me to pick up a present he got for his friends baby shower at Kids R Us. I went there and asked for it and they said they didn't have an order. I called him and gave my phone to the cashier. After a moment she gave the phone back to me saying, "I will not be talked to like that" I was so confused. She said he was very rude to her and refused to help me. I left the store.

When I came home he denied being rude to her and got mad at me for taking her side. Later he told me I had ruined everything and we wouldn't be going to the baby shower and that his friend was very upset.

I was confused and felt awful so I called his friend to apologize. She had no idea what I was talking about. I realized he lied about the whole thing to make me feel like a bad person and it made me realize he was gaslighting me our entire 3 year relationship. Making me feel bad about things he made up to make me feel crazy.

Edit: I'm a guy btw lol and yes I did say he gas lighted me.

Driving a girl home from a nice date, she started crying right before we got home. I asked what was wrong and her response was "This is who I am, I'm drama".

My friend found a psycho. Met her at the bar and ended up taking her home. She decided it should be more than just a one night stand and suggested a date the following weekend. He obliges. Their first date was meeting her parents, where she told them how they were going to spend the rest of their lives together, where they were going to buy a house, the names of their two children etc etc. He dated her for about a month and after they broke up, she started stalking his friends, not him..his friends. She'd somehow find out where we would be and threaten us with law suits for 'ruining her life'.

My ex-girlfriend would wake up in the middle of the night and wake me up just to accuse me of cheating on her.

Not me but happened to a friend - his GF had been taking trips to a specific city for months because her mother had been diagnosed with lupus and apparently needed a lot of care. One day, before leaving for another trip to go see her mother, she broke up with my friend because she felt she “was being a bad gf and couldn’t devote enough time for him.”

My friend takes it like a champ and wishes her the best. She even leaves the door open for a possible continuance of their relationship once her mother gets better. She even spends that weekend texting him about how hard it was to take care of her mother and how she had gotten no sleep because she spent the night at the hospital. This whole time my friend is being crazy supportive and texting her studies on lupus and all this other stuff.

A few days later my friend is randomly checking his FB and sees one of those 360 degree panoramic pictures posted by someone that he knew had also had a fling with his ex. The picture was taken at popular music festival that happens to be around the city his ex’s mom lived, so my friend pans around and... yup, there’s the ex, partying it up.

Turns out instead of visiting her sick mom she had gone to this music festival instead and hooked back up with this guy. He found pictures of her there all weekend which means she was at the festival *the whole time*, and all that texting about being at the hospital was complete BS. He’s not even sure if her mom ever even had lupus and she was just hooking up with this guy for months.

He immediately confronted her and her response was to just ghost him. Absolutely insane. My friend wasn’t even that angry - he mostly just felt sad for her. She could have just broken up with him months ago but instead decided to launch a massive campaign of lies so that she could eat her cake and have it too. I really wonder if she feels any remorse about it at all.

Edit: since this kind of blew up, I want to add just a few things: my friend has started going to therapy and is doing really well. He knows he’s going to have some latent trust issues moving forward and he wants to nip those in the bud ASAP. I’m really inspired by how emotionally well he’s taken this situation.

He threw me across the room by my neck. Then proceeded to threaten that he would accuse me of attacking him if I were to tell anyone.

Edit: After reading the comments I thought perhaps I should add some more information here.

• I have been to the police about this they have charged him and the case is working it’s way through the judicial system now.

• He supported his threat with self-inflicted injuries.

I trust the system in my country to reveal the truth of that night and respond accordingly despite his best efforts to undermine that trust with his threats.

She was just manipulative. Should've listened to her friend who warned me not to date her. But I did... twice. Just all sorts of stupid things to get me to buy her things. When I finally just closed her out of my life, she threatened to get her dad involved, she was in her mid-twenties, come on.

Then she bragged about using me for money to mutual friends. I don't generally hold grudges, but for her, I made an exception.

Kept talking on the phone and texting his mother during the date. She passed years ago.

Spat on, kicked, punched, hit, degraded, insulted. Cheated on. I was trapped as I was living with her in another country, having moved down there to be with her. I had a job. I didnt want to leave her bc then she wouldnt be able to pay the rent. I also couldnt just pack up ALL of my things and leave. Until I finally did, and just left the stuff that wasnt important.

We meet at the bar scene. Hell I love a good drink and she did too. I could finish a 5th of vodka in an evening and so could she. Granted she weighed 135 lbs . She would stay the night a lot we would jacuzzi and drink or watch movies and drink. Then I would wake up to her pouring shots at 5 am in the bedroom. Well I decided to reduce the amount of alcohol I had in the fridge or else she would be drinking most of the day. One morning I was out of alcohol she demanded I take her to the store and get her a 4loko. I was already running late for work and tried to take off. Well she was just wearing her robe and jumped in the passenger side and wouldn't leave until I got her a 4loko. I passed the nearby 711 and she got pissed and threw my car in park as I was going 40 mph.. Crazy hot scale was true on that one. 9 hot 10 crazy.

I went for a shower and he was in my college bedroom along with my phone, came back to him saying he's leaving and was visibly upset. I asked what was wrong and it turned out that he had looked through my phone while I was gone. He went into my deleted pictures and saw a picture of my male housemate that I had deleted along with more in order to free up space on my phone. He knew my housemate and knew we were friends (very platonic) and yet this caused a huge fight about him believing I was cheating. Tried to break up with him then but he changed completely and begged me not to.

Been free of him 2 years now and I've never been happier!

When him cheating and getting caught was some how my fault. After that he harassed me and threatened my life multiple times. All because he cheated and I found out 😂 Like how is that my fault? Your side girl showed me the proof!

I should have realized when it happened, but he laughed in my face when I accidentally hit a small wild animal with my car and was sad about it :’).

An ex of mine was pretty controlling and showing psycho behaviour for a long time but I largely passed over it thinking I was happy (I wasn’t). She then got too drunk one night, hit me to the point I had bruises and blamed it on me the next day.
Noped outta there after that.

When he strangled me...twice.

And acted like it never happened. Both times.

I was just.... overreacting or some chit according to him.

Oh and when he put a blow torch inches away from my face for telling him no I could feel the heat x.x.


Also never happened according to him.