“Most Blondes Aren’t Real Blondes”: 55 Myths Women Believed Until They Grew Up

The biggest beauty lie is that we have to try and be beautiful, especially for others. My husband says he prefers me without make-up, thinks my graying hair is fine, and encourages me to just be my natural self. Of course once in a while to get dressed up and put on some make-up can be fun and I’m sure it changes my appearance in a pleasant way, but this obsession with being beautiful every single day and having to do all these things to work hard at it is damaging to people in my opinion. The idea that you need products and to put a ton of time into to be beautiful is the lie.

Getting Botox doesn’t make you look younger. It makes you look like someone your age with Botox.

You can be beautiful and still never take a good picture.

Conversely, some people look amazing in photographs/on video and very odd in person.

I used to think I was the only woman with facial hair. My whole face is covered in peach fuzz. Now that beauty influencers talk about shaving their faces, I realize all women have facial hair to some extent. Also, shaving won’t make hair grow back thicker.

Important_Part_3455:
A couple of years ago I had a long stay in a psychiatric hospital to help me get stabilized and properly medicated. We weren't allowed to have much as far as "beauty" products due to the fact that some of them can be used for self harm or to harm another. So many of the women who had been there longer than I had had so much facial hair! Some even full beards and mustaches of dark hair. It was so nice to see, honestly.
I was amazed and spent not one second worrying about my lack of razors and tweezers etc. It was comforting. I later found out that " well behaved" patients could notify a nurse that they needed to shave and they would allow it under the utmost care and supervision but we were watched and security officers were always available to come if needed. I never bothered and it was nice to not focus on my appearance at all other than basic hygiene.

That many, many people wear hair extensions/clip ins/tracks. I used to think that every celebrity and other women just have naturally extremely voluminous and very long hair. Which of course some do but not to the extent shown online.

anonymous:
I have tons of hair naturally and I used to wonder how the hell I didn’t have enough hair for some styles I saw on celebrities. Turns out because their hair isn’t real!

Omg! Thank you for this question!

For me it was that you have to be skinny to dress well and wear beautiful outfits.

Growing up in the early 2000s, all the stylish girls I saw in the media were super thin. I wasted waay too much of my early teen years dressing in loose t-shirts because I felt that I wasn't thin enough to dress well.

Finding a style that suited my body and genuinely looked good on me was such a game changer.

That Bridget Jones in both movies was not fat.

capricornonthecobb:
A lot of those movies back then would poke fun of the "fat" girl who wasn't fat at all. Not that you should ever make fun of someone but those movies were wild to portray someone who wasn't a twig was deemed fat

That you can work against genetics lol. No matter how many miracle products you buy you're not gonna get thick hair if you have thin hair, you're not gonna have invisible pores if you naturally have large craters, you're not gonna have smooth skin if you're naturally very textured and acne prone, you can't change your hairline shape, etc. Some people just have better genetics looks wise, I learned to accept that lol.

To achieve no makeup-makeup, you have to wear A lot of makeup 😭😭😭 and most of not all beauty brands, influencers, content creators edit their pictures but claim the “miracle” product they are selling is responsible.

False-Street7628:
Yes !! More people need to realise this ! Influencers, brands etc. are ususally just lying and we don't need 39834 skin care/make up products at home 😂.
And pills for beautiful hair/skin also don't work and it's a lie 😃. Please save your money 

Aging isn’t just something that happens to other people.

I didn’t think women started getting gray hairs until at least their 40s or 50s. But now that I’m in my 30s, I’m noticing a few coming in here and there, and my friends are saying the same thing. But since most women color their hair to cover grays, I really didn’t know it’s normal for it to happen this early!

Edit: to be fair, I’ve been highlighting my hair since I was 14. Only when I went closer to my natural color did I start to notice the grays popping in, so I’m guessing it actually started happening earlier and I didn’t notice!

Empty_Till:
I started finding gray hair when I was 23 😂 I told my mom and she said “yup that’s about when I started getting them” 

uselessfarm:
My sister started to get gray hairs when she was like 17. She’s been coloring them since high school. I’m 34 and started to get gray hairs around 30, now I have a few very noticeable streaks of gray. I have very dark hair and have decided not to color them, if I start I’ll have to be covering my roots every 4 weeks forever. I’m old enough that I’m fine with it, though, I’m sure I’d color them if I started getting them in my teens or early 20s.

Veneers. Now it’s gotten to the point where they’re so big and white they look like Ross from that Friends episode.

All these white girls are not beautifully naturally bronzed! I thought there was something wrong with my pasty tush until I discovered all of them are just self tanning! Constantly! Even their faces!!! In WINTER!!!

I tried it once, for like a month (at home with lotion do not fret ya girl would never do a tanning bed) and literally you guys this is so much work omg how do y'all do this year round for literally years?!?

That beauty and being attractive aren’t a yes or no question. It’s more like you find the right match for you.

Lifting weights as a woman makes you “bulky.” I’ve been strength training for 7-8 years now (I’m 35) and I don’t even know how to bulk up if I wanted to. Most women will not be able to and if you see someone who looks bulky, they’re either on steroids or something or an insane diet and weight lifting regimen that you will never accidentally stumble upon.

All that lifting weight does is “tone” you, which is what most of us are trying to accomplish (and which can’t be done via cardio).

Also, you can’t spot-reduce fat. Both of these changed my approach to exercise + my body forever in the best way.

Acne is not just for teenagers….

not-cilantro:
Tell that to the insurance companies
When I was 25 my insurance refused to cover my acne medication because I aged out

I always thought I was bad at doing my hair because it would never stay in any style and looked stupidly sparse in braids. I'd see other girls with thick, beautiful braids and curls and wonder what I was doing wrong. Turns out, it's just my hair texture. I have *very* fine and straight hair that just simply won't do anything other than hang there.

The beauty market is out there to make you insecure in your skin that’s why it’s so big.

That I would go downhill when I turned 30. I am sooo much better looking in every way and I feel amazing too.

brokenstrings8:
Right?! 30 is where I found the freedom to discover myself and express myself. I’m eating mindfully, my job is wonderful and I worked hard to be where I am and find something that I would enjoy going to everyday. I got to raise a puppy and have a serious relationship!
Also, finding out the difference between young love and real love. It’s steady and it’s hard work but so rewarding to have that togetherness.
I’m not scared to say what I truly feel, I can stand up for myself without fear. I won’t be walked on or a people pleaser but can also say no in a respectful way. 30 really is going so much better than I thought!

The amount of foundation some women wear to look fabulous in photos does not reflect the same in real life.