"Insecurity can manifest either by making themselves invisible (If I'm not seen, nobody will notice my flaws), or the opposite, by what we call 'bragging': shouting at everybody about how wonderful they are. This is usually to try to persuade themselves that they are good enough,” the expert noted that sometimes insecurity can manifest in extremely different ways.
“Another way to counter the 'I'm not enough' is by pushing others down, sabotaging other people's success, or attacking people as a way to feel powerful so that they can control their inner pain of 'I'm not enough.' All of these strategies don't work because what they do is either internalizing or externalizing the belief 'I'm not enough' rather than changing it," psychotherapist Silva told Bored Panda that certain individuals put down others to feel better about themselves.
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"The key to becoming more secure is to change the underlying belief 'I'm not enough' to 'I'm enough.’” Learning self-compassion can help unlearn the ‘I’m not enough’ beliefs that we grow during our childhoods. As we mature, these beliefs can become deeply enrooted in us.
"Perhaps parents didn't praise children enough, or they paid more attention to the mistakes rather than the successes. As an adult now, people can give themselves a hug once in a while and tell themselves, gently: 'you're doing good,' 'well done,' 'congratulations.' Eventually, the brain will listen and slowly change the message 'I'm not enough' to 'I'm enough.’ Rather than shouting your praise at other people, it is about speaking to yourself in a loving way. When people are genuinely aware of their successes, they can become genuinely more confident without the need to impose their power onto others."
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