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One of my students was headed to prison for life without the possibility of parole. I know it sounds crazy, but he was a genuinely nice guy to me and to the other students. Unfortunately, he had gotten mixed up in g**g life, but on a day-to-day basis, he was funny, interesting, and incredibly likable.
When you take the GED test, you have three opportunities to pass it. This guy had already taken it twice and failed both times. Every time he failed, he was absolutely crushed.
I was known for having little celebrations for students who passed. They were kind of like mini graduations. The students could pick songs to play on the radio, and I would give a little speech about them. Sometimes their friends would come up and say a few words, too. This particular student really wanted to have a ceremony. I’m guessing that, in his entire life, no one had ever really celebrated him or encouraged him. Maybe he just needed to know that, at least once, someone believed in him and was proud of him.
He took the GED for the third and final time just a few days before he was going to be shipped off to prison for the rest of his life. The results came back. He had failed again (but just barely). Couldn’t look at him. I just couldn’t do it. I couldn’t look at him and tell him that he had failed for the third time, knowing he was about to spend the rest of his life in prison. So I didn’t.
I told him he passed. I figured, what did it really matter? He was never going to get out. He probably wasn’t going to have much opportunity to use a GED in prison. And I seriously doubted the teachers there were going to throw him a graduation party if he ever did pass.
So I told him he passed.and we had the party. He was over the moon. He was so proud of himself and so incredibly happy.
Was it the right thing to do? I don’t know. But I do know that, for one afternoon, that man got to feel proud of himself. He got to be celebrated. He got to hear people tell him that he had done something good.
#2

I forged an older guys signature once. He was around 80 and wanted his mortgage to be on auto pay. Our stupid system needed a physical papwerwork to be mailed, signed, mailed back, then scanned into a workflow. By that time he'd be late and he was freaking out about it.
So I found his signature copied it onto the form, and uploaded it.
I released a hold on a woman's account because their debit card was overdreafted by a merchant error. Their paycheck had a hold on it because it was sent in early (holiday weekend). I released the hold so they could get groceries.
#3

I paid for 8 months of assisted living for my grandfather a few years ago when his care needs became too much for my mom to handle and we were waiting for his house to sell (he has virtually no retirement savings due to raising 6 kids as a single parent and various other circumstances, some based on poor decision making and some just due to being a passive, gentle person who was taken advantage of). He told me at the outset that once his house sold I had to take what he owed me out of the house sale to pay me back (I am his Financial POA so I have access to his accounts to pay his various bills and monitor his funds), he even had a repayment agreement drafted up which we both signed and sent to a lawyer.
He currently loses ~2k a month out of his total savings because the cheapest assisted living place we could get him that can meet his needs far exceeds what he gets each month. I am never taking back what he owes me because if I did he would already be out on the streets, or in a h******e of a facility. So I told him, and any of my family that knew about it, that I already took the money back from him. And if he ends up running out of money, I will end up footing the bill silently because if he knew he'd never forgive himself.
Edit: Thank you so much, everyone. I don't think I'm doing anything you all wouldn't do if you were in my position, but I feel the love and I am happy to have had the privilege of sharing a small piece of myself with you!
People rarely keep secrets for just one reason. As Science Insights explains, secrecy can be a form of self-protection, especially when someone expects judgment, shame, conflict, rejection, or damage to an important relationship. A person might hide something to protect their reputation, preserve a relationship, spare someone else's feelings, or maintain control over their own story.
That can make even an ordinary mistake feel like something that absolutely cannot be revealed. The problem is that the danger someone anticipates is not always as severe as they imagine, meaning the secret can sometimes become more powerful in their mind than the consequences of actually telling it.
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My girlfriend was pregnant and we couldn't afford heat in the winter, so we were staying with my sister.
The new owner not only did not send me his own eviction notice, but did not even honor the one the previous owners sent me. He just changed the locks on the house and I couldn't get in.
I talked with him and he told me if I wanted my stuff I needed to show up during the day while workmen were there to get my stuff. I couldn't take time off from work during the day i was so broke.
He waited about 2 days and then pulled a dumpster in the driveway and threw out everything I owned. All we had is what we had brought to my sisters.
He called the cops because I was almost breaking his door down I was banging so hard. The cops came and ended up telling me I had to leave the property or I would be arrested. I remember hearing the snotty rich guy tell the cop hey, just let us fight it out in court. He ended up living on the top floor and using the bottom floor as his real estate office.
I left. I came back one evening and made multiple trips to the little corner store. For about 8 gallons of milk. Took me a few trips. I got in a lower floor window and poured all the milk anywhere I could find a hole in a wall. I had heard someone talk about something similar, and I knew the milk would freeze.
The next year they had to knock the house down and sell the property. I can't imagine what the smell was like. This was back in the early 80s. I know i can't get in trouble for it now, but to this day I never told a single person about it.
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That fear can also explain why certain secrets seem to follow people around long after the original event has passed. Psychology Today has highlighted research suggesting that the psychological burden often comes from repeatedly thinking about the secret rather than simply having to keep it hidden.
Intrusive thoughts, guilt, shame, and anxiety can make the information feel increasingly difficult to manage, while worrying about what would happen if it were discovered can create another layer of stress. Over time, this can even affect how connected or authentic someone feels around the people they are keeping the secret from.
#7

He really faceplanted, and I was worried he was really hurt. He was OK, looked all around, but couldn't fathom that a grown adult would do something like that. The girl and her friends laughed loudly.
It was a very satisfying moment.
#8

Never returned it, not gonna say what it was. Nobody knows it was me. The bully deserved it.
#9

This was before the ACA when HMOs were rampant and they would just tell people to f**k off and d*e.
Anyway, I was heading to a family where a young kid (like 3 years old or something) needed a nebulizer and the like. I already picked up her meds and was going to her house to set up the equipment.
I get a call on the radio and they tell me that I cannot give the kid the medicine (which was already paid for and was to be thrown away if it doesnt go to the patient). And they also tell me that I am to leave to premises and not set the family up with the machines.
For context, the little girl, if she didnt get the medicine, she would have had severe complications with the worst case being that she would d*e. This company was notorious for throwing away equipment because they got paid thru Medicare and Medicaid.
Anyway, I give the kid the meds, set the family up and also give them backups of the nebulizer and other equipment just in case. Told no one and they didnt even notice the equipment deficit because they throw away so much brand new stuff so they could charge the government more.
Of course, not every secret feels equally risky, and Greater Good points to several reasons why some information can seem especially dangerous to reveal. People may anticipate losing someone's respect, damaging an important relationship, facing embarrassment, or suffering practical consequences.
Past experiences can make those fears even stronger, while secrets involving moral wrongdoing, family expectations, unequal power, or relationships that matter deeply can carry an especially heavy emotional weight. In other words, the more someone believes they have to lose, the easier it becomes to understand why they might decide that silence is safer than confession.
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Then what?
Why you? Why not me? What did he want? Did he say anything? Could something have changed?
I would basically be handing him 20 new questions that have no answers and he would probably carry them until he dies. So no. People can say he deserves to know. Maybe he does. But sometimes we’re sitting there drinking, laughing about old s**t, whatever, and I remember those missed video calls sitting on that screen and I feel f*****g sick for a second. He has no idea I’m carrying this. And I think thats how its gonna stay. Some things dont need to be confessed just because they’re true.
This one dies with me.
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There is also an important difference between keeping something private and deliberately keeping someone in the dark. Therapy Changes explains that privacy can be a healthy way of protecting personal boundaries and autonomy, whereas secrecy becomes more complicated when the information could reasonably affect another person's rights, safety, or ability to make important decisions.
The intention matters, too: choosing not to share something because it belongs to your private life is different from hiding it simply to avoid accountability or discomfort. That distinction is worth keeping in mind when considering the secrets people are determined to carry with them, because sometimes keeping something to yourself is simply a boundary, while other times it can leave a much heavier burden behind.
#13

When I was around 17, my grandmother on my fathers side fell ill. My Father, not being someone to ever really confront emotions on any serious level, didn't give me much of a heads up aside from "Your grandmother's sick". I was in another room when my Father walked in and handed me his phone, saying, "Here. Talk to your grandmother, she's d***g.", before he promptly left the room to call for takeout.
What followed was about five straight minutes of my grandmother sobbing and begging me to save her. To not let her d*e. Saying she was so afraid, not to put her in the ground where she'd be "cold forever." Begging me by name to do something, anything to not let it happen.
My father just sort of came and took the phone back at some point, and told me to "move my a*s and get my shoes on" so we could pick up dinner. I don't know how much of her condition he was aware of, or if he was even listening to her, but that stuck with me.
EDIT: Spelling.
EDIT 2: Look at me go, bringing everyone down 😅. I promise, I am doing just fine at this point. I genuinely appreciate all the well wishes from all of you ❤️.
#14

EDIT: Wow, was not expecting this. Just to answer a few things that popped up... It was my biological mother who only ever existed to me in life as Mom/she/her. It doesn't feel like my place to refer to her as the name she chose or by he/him since she never came out to me directly or gave consent for me to do so. She had metastatic colorectal cancer. Her personality never changed from who she always was... a sweet, loving, mild-mannered, creative, and passionate person who everyone loved. We all would have accepted her and I wish there was the chance before she passed to be able to share her truth and live it openly.
#15

One of them has an ongoing affair since 15 years and another kid.
I'm the only one who knows.
Keeping certain things hidden isn’t always about being mysterious. It can be about protecting relationships, avoiding unnecessary drama, or simply deciding that some information is better left untouched. Whether it’s a harmless personal story, an awkward mistake, or a revelation that could turn someone’s world upside down, these confessions show just how much people can carry without ever saying a word.
However, not every secret is created equal. Some are funny enough to become a great dinner-party story, while others are the kind of information that could cause serious fallout if revealed. So, how would you handle a secret that could change everything? Would you take it to your grave, or would the temptation to finally tell someone be too strong? Let us know in the comments!
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A much more light hearted secret lol.
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Well, we used to have bags to put paperwork in that would be put in an incinerator because we didn’t have shredders. On/off for 3 weeks I’d take his hat and throw it in the incinerator just because.
The whole team got called in and a very HARSH talking to by our superior officer over it. Everyone thought it was objectively funny because again, nobody liked him.
Man, i incinerated like 6 of those things. 13 years later i wonder how he’s doing.


