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20 years later, I find out that my friend's kid is good friends with her kid. I checked out her profile and found a post explaining what an awful childhood she had with alcoholic parents, her dad hurting her and eventually being taken into foster care. Her parents hadn't paid the bills which is why she never took showers. I felt really awful after learning that.
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I’m already very much introverted but I’ve given up on meeting new people because I don’t know how bad I’ll be hurting (and have to cancel) during future meetups.
I’m only 25 and considering the years ahead feels very, very lonely at times… I wish I had friends, I really do. I feel as though life is passing me by and I am too much of a shut in, too aching to do anything about it.
To anyone reading this: if you know someone with chronic pain, please give them a little more grace and patience. The pain is so real and it affects every aspect of our life ❤️
Edit: Thank you so, so, so much for everyone who reached out and was supportive, offering to be my friend and chat together. The support is overwhelming, thank you so much for all your kind words ❤️❤️❤️.
According to Psychologs, people tend to keep secrets as a way to protect something important, whether that’s themselves, their relationships, or their sense of control and identity. Fear often plays a major role, as the potential for judgment, rejection, or conflict can feel far more threatening than the benefits of full honesty.
They also explain that many secrets involve things that clash with how individuals want to see themselves or be perceived by others, such as mistakes, vulnerabilities, or socially taboo thoughts. By keeping these hidden, people preserve an image of being capable, moral, or "okay". In other cases, secrecy simply reflects a desire for privacy and personal autonomy.
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Uhhh… well those raised an eyebrow for me. Her story and the cropped shots of his texts that I saw did not add up to the story she gave me.
**because she is full blown stalking him**
Like- true crime podcast level stalking. Anyway, I’m trying to figure out now how to cut ties w/o agitating her.
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I saw the emails on his open laptop when he went to the bathroom. I never said a word, just quietly found a new job and left him with a 2-week notice and zero documentation.
When it comes to discovering these secrets, The British Psychological Society highlights that people often discover others’ secrets not through intentional spying, but through surprisingly mundane moments. Casual remarks, accidental oversharing, forgotten browser tabs, messages seen out of context, or simply spending enough time around someone can reveal more than intended.
They note that these unplanned discoveries highlight how secrecy isn’t always undone by curiosity, but by everyday proximity and small human slips that expose hidden information without anyone actively looking for it.
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After one visit a caveat popped up in her journal: "Facial paralysis".
Don't know why I never considered that an option, even though I myself grew up with a disabled parent and felt that I was aware enough. Changed the way I think about people's back stories and personal challenges.
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Still, keeping important information hidden in close relationships can weaken trust and emotional closeness, especially when the secrecy breaks shared expectations or unspoken agreements between partners. Psychology Today emphasizes that when something significant is withheld, it can create distance and uncertainty, even if it’s never openly addressed.
That said, they also add that not all secrecy is harmful. Maintaining a degree of privacy can sometimes support intimacy by preserving personal boundaries and a sense of autonomy. Whether secrecy damages or protects a relationship depends largely on what is being kept hidden, the motivation behind it, and each person’s attachment style and past relationship experiences.
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However I noticed that they walk the dog quite rarely and most of the time just let it out for a quick toilet break outside then “play” with it inside. One day I was watching their daughter and I asked if they would like me to walk the dog since I’m taking the daughter to a park. They looked horrified and said no no no. I was weirded out but just said ok.
Once we got to the park the girl said that the parents didn’t want neighbors/people to really know about the dog. I asked why is that and she said “we’re not allowed to have one, I can’t tell my friends about it either”.
Come to find out they have a permanent ban on pet ownership by the court because of poor living conditions, neglect and mistreatment of pets they had long before I knew them. The guy had previously beaten a dog for peeing inside after being left alone for 24h and a neighbour witnessed it happening in the backyard.
Now I can’t see them as good people and it has changed how I see them. Needless to say I reported them having the pets. Reading the animal mistreatment report has absolutely scarred me.
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This head of HR was really cool. Funny, smart, fair. She was also a fundie Christian and for the first time I thought here’s a person who just lives their faith, but not in an obnoxious way. She probably thought I was going to h**l for being gay, but she never said a word to me. Just seemed to accept and enjoy me for who I am.
So about 3 years into this friendship, I find out that her husband, who I also liked a lot, had been previously married and had a daughter. But here’s the thing. The HR woman made her husband never see or talk about his daughter. HR woman and her husband had two daughters of their own who obviously didn’t know a thing about the existence of a half sister. No one knew about any of this at our company.
I’ve never felt such revulsion toward someone I’d considered a friend. It was shocking and I couldn’t stand to be around her anymore. I never confronted her, and I remained polite and professional, cause she was still the head of HR. But man was it a shock.
Just as the stories show, a single secret can completely overturn how someone is perceived when it carries strong emotional weight and feels "diagnostic", meaning it suddenly explains past behavior in a new way. Rocket Health emphasize that humans naturally place greater emphasis on moral and negative information when judging character, so revelations involving trust or ethics tend to hit especially hard.
Rather than existing alongside earlier impressions, a powerful new fact reshapes them. They note that research also shows that when new information reframes previous actions, people often reinterpret earlier moments through this updated lens, sometimes reversing long-held opinions almost instantly as the entire narrative about that person changes.
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Except one employee who had been with the company for over a decade, who adored the boss. Was a real head scratcher.
I learned that many years prior, said employee had gotten trashed at the company Christmas Party, and punched the boss in the face.
Instead of firing the employee, the boss personally paid for a stint in rehab. The employee was apparently quite the alcoholic.
To this day my brain can’t really reconcile that decision with the complete jerk I worked for.
#14
I only found out about the spreadsheet because he asked me to fix something on his computer and I saw a file on the desktop called "friendship score card".
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At the end of the day, learning something new about someone can quietly rewrite the story you’ve been telling yourself about them. A single secret whether big or small, can turn admiration into doubt, indifference into understanding, or familiarity into something far more complicated.
Of course, everyone carries things they don’t share, and not every secret is a deal-breaker. Some revelations inspire empathy, others raise eyebrows, and a few make you rethink entire relationships. So as you read through these stories, you might find yourself wondering how much we ever truly know about the people around us, and what secrets of yours might be quietly changing someone else’s perspective, without you ever realizing it.
#16
I mean... What the h**l?...
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Up until that point I had been told she was gone because of alcoholism.
It answered a lot of questions I had about his behaviour, but he actually really scared me quite a few times. His attitude towards women was honestly really strange.
You had to both be just like his mum but also nothing like his mum and also treat him like he was a child but also that's patronising and he is a MAN who would have literal tantrums with foot stomping of he didn't get his way. He also "accidentally" hit me once as well and knocked me over.
Ended up having to leave the country to get away from him, he stalked me online until I had to call the police in my home country as he was threatening to show up at my apartment.
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