There really are all kinds of people out there. Some are bubbly and fun, while others... well, they can’t stop name-dropping, oversharing, or turning every chat into a bragging session. Sound familiar?
People online are sharing the small (and sometimes cringe) behaviors that scream “insecure” and honestly, a few of them are uncomfortably relatable. From constant humblebrags to hijacking conversations just to feel noticed, these little moments might make you wince or laugh. Keep scrolling to see what others had to say—and maybe spot a habit or two to rethink.
People online are sharing the small (and sometimes cringe) behaviors that scream “insecure” and honestly, a few of them are uncomfortably relatable. From constant humblebrags to hijacking conversations just to feel noticed, these little moments might make you wince or laugh. Keep scrolling to see what others had to say—and maybe spot a habit or two to rethink.
#21
They're extremely clingy with their SO. Like always by their side holding on to them and never leaving them alone. They also have a personal vendetta against any of their SO's friends they think *might* be competition.
antonbetong:
I'm not this extreme, but I love being close to her, not because im afraid, but because I actually like her, never would i ever "ban" a friend of hers.
antonbetong:
I'm not this extreme, but I love being close to her, not because im afraid, but because I actually like her, never would i ever "ban" a friend of hers.
11points
Insecurity often wears a costume. For some, it’s a loud voice and too much confidence; for others, it’s silence and constant second-guessing. Neither approach works well in the long run. But once you see where it comes from, you can stop playing the part and start changing the script. It might mean practicing self-affirmations, setting small achievable goals, or simply allowing yourself to fail without judgment, all of which are powerful steps in the right direction.
#22
Websites served only over http, not https.
11points
#24
Daily selfie posts.
loathe_entirely:
And resharing the old selfies from your Facebook's 'on this day' every single day.
Anon:
Dude. I'm a straight guy, and when people do this - even if they're super attractive - it concerns me.
It makes me assume they're uptight about s**t that won't matter to me.
Just live your life, put the phone down.
loathe_entirely:
And resharing the old selfies from your Facebook's 'on this day' every single day.
Anon:
Dude. I'm a straight guy, and when people do this - even if they're super attractive - it concerns me.
It makes me assume they're uptight about s**t that won't matter to me.
Just live your life, put the phone down.
10points
The beauty of recognizing insecurity is that it opens the door to growth. You can build confidence not by pretending you know everything, but by being okay with what you don’t. It’s about becoming more self-aware, improving your communication, and creating spaces where both you and others feel safe to express yourselves. After all, true confidence isn’t loud, it’s quiet, steady, and rooted in self-acceptance.
#25
"Look at my new socks guys!"
*top down shot with 80% cleavage*.
BeeAreNumberOne:
In my experience, those posts are 95% insecure women, 5% women who really like showing off their breasts, for literally no other reason than that they can.
*top down shot with 80% cleavage*.
BeeAreNumberOne:
In my experience, those posts are 95% insecure women, 5% women who really like showing off their breasts, for literally no other reason than that they can.
10points
These posts are a great way to spot signs of insecure behavior: sometimes in others, sometimes in ourselves. Which one stood out to you the most? Did any of them make you pause and reflect? Maybe you've noticed a few of these traits in your own habits or in people around you? Let's talk about it, what did you find the most intriguing?
#28
When somebody speaks loudly over everyone else, as if their voices are more important rather than contributing to the conversation in a normal way
EDIT: for the 400 people asking, there's a massive difference between "having a loud voice by nature" and "actively trying to butt your opinion into a conversation, noisily".
openupmyheartagain:
That and constantly cutting you off to do it. Like they didn't listen to s**t you said because they're too busy thinking about what they're going to say and it's so important that they have to cut you off to be the center of attention. Had an ex that used to do this..
Me: "I'm tired because-". Him: "You don't even KNOW tired! I work two jobs blah blah blah." Yup not only was he a talk overer, he was also a cut offer and a one upper. They'll never find the body.
EDIT: for the 400 people asking, there's a massive difference between "having a loud voice by nature" and "actively trying to butt your opinion into a conversation, noisily".
openupmyheartagain:
That and constantly cutting you off to do it. Like they didn't listen to s**t you said because they're too busy thinking about what they're going to say and it's so important that they have to cut you off to be the center of attention. Had an ex that used to do this..
Me: "I'm tired because-". Him: "You don't even KNOW tired! I work two jobs blah blah blah." Yup not only was he a talk overer, he was also a cut offer and a one upper. They'll never find the body.
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10points
#29
People that can't be single for any amount of time. The type that get out of a serious relationship after 10+ years and are dating someone else within weeks... or days. Those are the types of people that advertise just how insecure they are about themselves.
Edit: Just to clarify I'm not saying everyone that does this is insecure. That's just what I see. A good friend of mine has either been in a relationship or activley seeking one since I first met him when we were kids. If he goes more than a week without having the title of boyfriend he becomes severely depressed and thinks that his life is over. He is very insecure about himself and is one of the only people that I know personally who always has to be with someone. So now I associate this behavior with insecurity. Obviously it doesn't apply to everyone!
Anon:
I've been single for about a year after five and a half years. While I wish I had someone I could talk to about all the crazy s**t in my head, the random thoughts and scenarios I run through my head pretty much non-stop again, it's pretty nice not having to check my plans with anyone. I do miss having someone sleeping by me during some (rare) rough nights, but overall it's pretty cool.
Edit: Just to clarify I'm not saying everyone that does this is insecure. That's just what I see. A good friend of mine has either been in a relationship or activley seeking one since I first met him when we were kids. If he goes more than a week without having the title of boyfriend he becomes severely depressed and thinks that his life is over. He is very insecure about himself and is one of the only people that I know personally who always has to be with someone. So now I associate this behavior with insecurity. Obviously it doesn't apply to everyone!
Anon:
I've been single for about a year after five and a half years. While I wish I had someone I could talk to about all the crazy s**t in my head, the random thoughts and scenarios I run through my head pretty much non-stop again, it's pretty nice not having to check my plans with anyone. I do miss having someone sleeping by me during some (rare) rough nights, but overall it's pretty cool.
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10points
#30
Arguing something when you know you're wrong. Hating to be corrected is the most insecure thing ever.
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10points
#31
Oversharing.
I compensate for feeling less than by sharing too much to make other people feel better about themselves around me so they end up liking me more, or feel bad for me so they will wanna be nice to me.
I compensate for feeling less than by sharing too much to make other people feel better about themselves around me so they end up liking me more, or feel bad for me so they will wanna be nice to me.
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10points
#32
Your partner looking through your phone because they don't trust you
Your partner telling you stories about their sexual experiences or encounters but get upset when you talk about yours
Your partner telling you not to talk with one of your friends (that's the same gender as your partner)
Your partner gets upset that you talked to the cashier (that's the same gender as your partner) about your Pokémon hoodie and said you were flirting with her.
Your partner telling you stories about their sexual experiences or encounters but get upset when you talk about yours
Your partner telling you not to talk with one of your friends (that's the same gender as your partner)
Your partner gets upset that you talked to the cashier (that's the same gender as your partner) about your Pokémon hoodie and said you were flirting with her.
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9points
#33
People who always criticize other people for how they look or how they act. But, once you criticize them they feel attacked.
Basically people who can talk c**p but not take it.
Basically people who can talk c**p but not take it.
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9points
#34
People that can only talk about themselves and that have a tendency to exagerate everything about them, in this "Let me tell you why I'm so awesome" kind of way.
For the past 3 years I've worked with a guy who says he never had bad grades, was the teachers pet and never got bullied, once got a 102/100 in a math test, used to swim 100 pool lenghts everyday, was told by his Kick Boxing coach (he's been going on and off for like a year) that he should be really careful and never get into a fight because he's too strong and he could "k**l somebody"... I could keep going for a while.
He also has this tendency to always know better than you in EVERY field. You tell him about your favorite restaurant and he'll say it's not that good, he knows the chef, and then he'll tell you about a better restaurant, he also knows the chef. I tell him about me wanting to buy some new earphones and he tells me about his earphones that are better. He drinks better beer. He wears better shoes. I might actually be colleagues with GOD guys, and I didn't know until now!...
But seriously, when I tell my GF about the new bs my colleague has spewed, she always tells me that this behaviour is a tell tale sign of insecurity and lack of social awareness, probably due to some f****d up childhood.
He is two computers away from me right now, and he is telling my other collegue how he could've been a famous athlete but he didn't pursue it because he wanted a carreer in IT Support.
For the past 3 years I've worked with a guy who says he never had bad grades, was the teachers pet and never got bullied, once got a 102/100 in a math test, used to swim 100 pool lenghts everyday, was told by his Kick Boxing coach (he's been going on and off for like a year) that he should be really careful and never get into a fight because he's too strong and he could "k**l somebody"... I could keep going for a while.
He also has this tendency to always know better than you in EVERY field. You tell him about your favorite restaurant and he'll say it's not that good, he knows the chef, and then he'll tell you about a better restaurant, he also knows the chef. I tell him about me wanting to buy some new earphones and he tells me about his earphones that are better. He drinks better beer. He wears better shoes. I might actually be colleagues with GOD guys, and I didn't know until now!...
But seriously, when I tell my GF about the new bs my colleague has spewed, she always tells me that this behaviour is a tell tale sign of insecurity and lack of social awareness, probably due to some f****d up childhood.
He is two computers away from me right now, and he is telling my other collegue how he could've been a famous athlete but he didn't pursue it because he wanted a carreer in IT Support.
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9points
#35
Making a negative assumption about someone who's attractive just because they're attractive.
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9points
#37
When someone nervously laughs at the end of every sentence.
Anon:
yeah haha
LiteralTP:
Haha yes
Anon:
yeah haha
LiteralTP:
Haha yes
8points
#38
When people posts quotes on social media in an attempt to prove their confidence or save face I can't help assuming the opposite.
For example, "A busy, vibrant, goal-oriented woman is so much more attractive than a woman who waits around for a man to validate her."
I can't help reading that and immediately thinking welp, you must be waiting around for a man to validate you....
Not to mention, a busy goal-oriented woman is probably too busy being busy.
For example, "A busy, vibrant, goal-oriented woman is so much more attractive than a woman who waits around for a man to validate her."
I can't help reading that and immediately thinking welp, you must be waiting around for a man to validate you....
Not to mention, a busy goal-oriented woman is probably too busy being busy.
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8points
#39
Taking everything you say to them as some sort of aggression regardless of how nice or innocent it might be and constantly apologizing for inconsequential things that don't really require an apology. Always putting themselves down and batting away compliments that are genuine and deserved. That and texting 100 times a day just to say hi. I know you're there and I know you love me, I love you too but I am at work and my boss doesn't love you quite as much as I do.
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8points
#40
When I was an architectural student, my professor told me I'd never be an architect, but I later became an architect anyway despite his cynicism. When my design was used for a new skyscraper in New York City, I went all the way back to Wesleyan to show him how wrong he was and how successful I'd become. Looking back on it, I guess I was a little insecure.
Jedi_Knight19:
Classic schmosby.
Jedi_Knight19:
Classic schmosby.
6points