Having someone who you can rely on can enrich your existence in so many ways; good friends can bring out the best in you, and they're always ready to give you a hand whenever you feel like your life may start to crumble apart.
However, it’s important to give back and remember that every connection has its do’s and don'ts, and there are certain ethics that nobody communicates yet everyone always follows, even if the person in question is a random passer-by:
"Girls of Reddit, what is an unspoken rule of 'Girl Code?’" – this online user took to one of Reddit’s most thought-provoking communities to ask about the unwritten rules that women tend to live by. The question has managed to receive over 30K upvotes and 7.8K worth of comments discussing the most important rules of girlhood.
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#1 You Help Other Women Who Seem To Be In Trouble
You help other women who seem to be in trouble. When I was a teenager my mom and I went to Walmart to get groceries. We split up to save time and a man started stalking me through the aisles. I finally got out to a main area and saw a lady with two kids. Walked right up to her and stood as close as possible. She was confused but when I made a motion at the guy, she understood. She loudly thanked me for getting the milk and called me honey. Also referred to her son as my brother. Once the guy left she stayed with me until I saw my mom, and then stayed where she was until I got to my mom and motioned that I was okay. That lady deserves an award for helping me that day.
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#2 If Your Dress Has Pockets, You Let Them Know
Person 1: I like your dress!
Person 2: Thanks! It has pockets!
If your dress has pockets, you let them know.
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699points
#3 If There’s A Period Stain On Someone’s Pants, You Tell Them Immediately
If there's a red spot on her pants you tell her discreetly and immediately.
EDIT: A lot of guys are asking what to do if they see a woman with a blood stain. You have two options. You could tell her yourself which may or may not be appreciated depending on the woman. Or you could simply ask another woman to tell her. I love how many guys wanna help look out for the ladies who end up in this predicament! :D
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#4 Keep An Eye On Other Girls’ Drinks When You’re At The Bar
My personal unspoken rule is keep an eye on other girls drinks when you are at the bar. Even if I don't know them. I have asked random strangers to keep an eye on mine and they are always like, "GIRL YES we have to look out for each other!"
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#5 If A Girl Comes Over And Pretends To Know You, Don’t Ask Any Questions
If another girl comes over to you and pretends to know you, no questions asked we've been friends for 30 years and haven't seen each other in 5.
And always give a tampon if you have one, and someone needs one.
Edit: never lend tampons, always give.
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#6 When You See “The Look,” You Step In
As far as I've ever seen, every girl knows 'the look'. 'The look' is a look a girl gets on her face when she is in a situation that she doesn't want to be in, it's part 'help me' and part 'get me out of here'.
When you see this look, you step in. Doesn't matter if you know the girl or not.
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#7 No Woman Gets Left Behind At The Club
No women left behind at the club. You look out for and take care of your girls and don’t let random men drag them away without their explicit permission.
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#8 Always Give Out Feminine Hygiene Products If Needed
Always give each other tampons and pads when needed.
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#9 If Someone’s Being Harassed, You Link Up And Walk With Them
If their strap is twisted, untwist it. Always carry extra feminine products, and extra hair Ties. And if she’s being harassed, you just link up and walk with her, no questions asked.
Also, my daughters have a literal code... if they ever text me the secret code, I will drop everything I’m doing and call them immediately, make up a major crisis and demand to come get them immediately. Make it 100% my fault, but give them an immediate out to any situation they don’t feel able to simply walk away from.
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#10 If She’s Dating An Abuser, Make Sure She Knows She’s Welcome Anytime
If she's dating a known abuser, take turns getting her out of the house. Play cards, shop for shoes, ask her to help you lay out the garden, make pie. Never broach the subject yourself - just make sure she knows she's welcome any time, day or night, with or without advance notice.
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428points
#11 Do Not Post Group Pics Unless Everyone Approves
Do not post group pictures on social media with friends unless everyone involved knows & approves of said pic.
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#12 If You Walk Into The Bathroom And Someone’s Being Quiet, You Do Your Business And Leave Quickly
If you walk into the bathroom and the girl in there is being quiet, you do your business and leave as quickly as you can. Girl is trying to poop!
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376points
#13 Tell Her When You See Him Cheating
Tell her when you see him cheating, snap a pic for proof if you can. I've lost friends for this but I'll still do it every time.
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367points
#14 If Someone Says They Love Something You’re Wearing, You Always Tell Them Where You Bought It From
This could be a trend across genders too but when a girl says they love something you are wearing you always tell her where you bought it and how much it was and ESPECIALLY if you got it for a discount.
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346points
#15 Everyone Is Friends In The Bar Bathroom
Everyone is friends in the bar bathroom after 11, no matter what.
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#16 Protect Each Other
- Protect each other. Don't care if it's your sister or a complete stranger.
- text your friends to check if they got home safe
- stay with them while their uber or taxi etc comes
- Check over that message she is going to send to the guy she likes to see if it sounds okay. Some communications require a group effort
- Sanitary items to all vaginal having humans who need.
- text your friends to check if they got home safe
- stay with them while their uber or taxi etc comes
- Check over that message she is going to send to the guy she likes to see if it sounds okay. Some communications require a group effort
- Sanitary items to all vaginal having humans who need.
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316points
#17 Do Not Get Together With Your Friend’s Ex
Do not....f**k your friends boyfriend or ex-boyfriend
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316points
#18 If There’s Lipstick On Their Teeth, You Let Them Know Without Making A Huge Deal About It
Lipstick on their teeth, eyeliner in the corner of their eye, skirt tucked into pantyhose. You let them know without making a huge deal about it.
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312points
#19 If You Get Breast Cancer, Let As Many People As Possible Feel Your Lump
If you get breast cancer, let as many people as possible feel your lump so they know what they are looking for! Before my mastectomy, my breast made a lot of new friends—early detection can mean the difference between life and death.
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#20 “Human Wall” A Girl If The Only Option Is To Pee In Public
Human wall any girl if the only option is to pee in public
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294points