Planning a trip with a friend is always exciting, but it doesn’t come without risks. Just like moving in with a loved one, it’s impossible to know what exactly their living and traveling habits are like until you experience them first hand. And sometimes, to avoid ruining the relationship altogether, the most mature choice is deciding that traveling with one another isn’t wise.
But after one woman tried to explain that to a childhood friend, she found herself being accused of displaying ableist behavior. Below, you’ll find the full story that was recently shared on Reddit, as well as some of the replies invested readers left.
After taking a trip with a childhood friend, this woman decided it would be best if that was their last vacation together
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But her friend didn’t seem to understand, and instead accused her of discrimination
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Traveling can be challenging for anyone, especially for those who live with a disability
Traveling can be stressful for anyone, but for the 1.3 billion people on the planet who live with a disability, it can be even more difficult. Unfortunately, the government and businesses don’t always make travels simpler for disabled individuals, The Points Guy reports. 72% of adults with disabilities say they’ve experienced major obstacles with airlines, and 65% report having issues with airports in general.
For example, there can be long queues for wheelchairs or wheelchair assistance, and when individuals bring their own chairs, they’re often mishandled by airline staff and returned damaged. Going to the toilet can also be an issue while flying, as maneuvering to and from teeny tiny airplane lavatories can be nearly impossible for some individuals. Even hotels can be laughable when it comes to disability access, as the bathrooms are sometimes too narrow for wheelchairs as well.
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But there are ways to plan ahead and minimize pain when on vacation
However, there are ways to prepare for trips to ensure that fibromyalgia doesn’t get in the way of having a great time. PassportHealth recommends planning ahead, wearing comfortable clothes, getting extra sleep and making sure that individuals just don’t stop moving to minimize fibromyalgia symptoms while traveling. Anticipate your needs, such as any medication and heating/cooling products you need to bring, and start your journey well rested.
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Even if someone is your best friend, they might not be the best travel companion
While the woman who shared this story is sympathetic to her friend’s physical needs, the real problem she had with their travels had nothing to do with her disability. Sometimes, we learn that we’re just not travel-compatible with friends, and that’s okay. If one person wants to spend all day in museums and buy cheap meals at the grocery store, while the other would rather walk around the city then spend their whole budget on nice restaurants, it might be challenging to plan out the entire trip.
According to Flash Pack, it’s simply not always wise to travel with our friends. We might be scared of hurting their feelings if we want to go our separate ways for the day, and it can be stressful if one person is exhausted, while the other wants to keep sightseeing into the night. You may also be comfortable enough around each other to get crabby and hangry and end up bickering or offending your friend the same way siblings do while on family vacations. If you’ve realized that taking another trip with a loved one just isn't worth the stress and hassle, that’s a boundary you should feel comfortable setting.
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Readers assured the woman that she had done nothing wrong, noting that the issue was not her friend's disability
