I have some other answers, but I'm going to give a super controversial one that's a little more out there:
She said that she wouldn't get an abortion if she found out the baby was disabled during pregnancy.
I have been around disabled people since the day I was born. Make of that what you will. I think that they are incredibly sweet and pure, and the nicest people I have ever met have been disabled.
That said, I cannot put into words how much constant hard work and dedication they take. How much they can ruin your life and take away from any other children you have. The money they cost. You will just be a carer for the rest of your life, and in a lot of cases it's not even rewarding because even if you raise your child until they are 50 years old... they still won't have the mental capacity to know who you are or to love you.
No days off, no more holidays, no grandchildren, etc.
To be even more specific:
Cleaning up their bodily waste for the rest of your life because they are not potty trained and will s**t on the floor even at 30 years old. Constant looks in public and comments from people, especially if tbey scream/shout. Around the clock care both night and day. Their siblings will resent them because they get all of the parent's attention/time. The dangers of an 18 year old man throwing the tantrum of a baby (imagine them throwing their weight around and how damaging that could be).
And so many more points I could make.
I accept that if I have a disabled child, I will raise it. I am also against abortion. However, if we found out during pregnancy and she refuses to abort... I would not stay in the baby's life.
Huge respect to parents of disabled children. Nobody knows how hard it really is. You guys are genuinely the most hard working, unrewarded people on the planet.
She said that she wouldn't get an abortion if she found out the baby was disabled during pregnancy.
I have been around disabled people since the day I was born. Make of that what you will. I think that they are incredibly sweet and pure, and the nicest people I have ever met have been disabled.
That said, I cannot put into words how much constant hard work and dedication they take. How much they can ruin your life and take away from any other children you have. The money they cost. You will just be a carer for the rest of your life, and in a lot of cases it's not even rewarding because even if you raise your child until they are 50 years old... they still won't have the mental capacity to know who you are or to love you.
No days off, no more holidays, no grandchildren, etc.
To be even more specific:
Cleaning up their bodily waste for the rest of your life because they are not potty trained and will s**t on the floor even at 30 years old. Constant looks in public and comments from people, especially if tbey scream/shout. Around the clock care both night and day. Their siblings will resent them because they get all of the parent's attention/time. The dangers of an 18 year old man throwing the tantrum of a baby (imagine them throwing their weight around and how damaging that could be).
And so many more points I could make.
I accept that if I have a disabled child, I will raise it. I am also against abortion. However, if we found out during pregnancy and she refuses to abort... I would not stay in the baby's life.
Huge respect to parents of disabled children. Nobody knows how hard it really is. You guys are genuinely the most hard working, unrewarded people on the planet.