We all want to show ourselves as the best versions we can be, especially when meeting new people, at work or on a date. But there’s just so much that we can fake it.
Our true selves will start to open up sooner or later, and it’s not always pretty. This thought-provoking Ask Reddit thread shone a light on the most important red flags that reveal a person may not be as nice as they pretend to be.
“What's a dead giveaway that someone is not a good person?” the Redditor Ricky1g asked people and below we wrapped up some of the most interesting responses.
#21
If they veil insulting, derogatory or generally aggressive comments as humor.
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77points
#23
When a person needs to explain to you in a conversation that they are actually a good person.
70points
#25
They don't put the shopping cart back in the corral once they're done with it
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69points
#27
Treating people well only if they can benefit from them in some way. If they treat you well, but treat random people like s**t, they aren't good people. And they'll treat you like s**t too if you ever stop being of use to them.
66points
#28
Thinking that their own convenience is more important than others inconvience.
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65points
#29
There's a lot of hints
A very subtle one is them walking on wet floors in front of the cleaning person without apologizing
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62points
#30
I’ve always held that if someone gossips TO you then they’ll most surely gossip ABOUT you to others.
Also, if someone tells you something that they were told in confidence then you absolutely cannot trust them to keep anything you tell them to themselves, even if asked to.
Big red flags.
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62points
#31
People who are always trying to manipulate a situation from the smallest things to the bigger issues. It is exhausting to be around them.
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55points
#33
Idolizing serial killers. I was perplexed when I saw fan pages for Jeffrey Dahmer, Richard Ramirez, or the Columbine Shooters on Twitter.
Or, Kicking your child out of the house for no reason once they turn 18 years old.
Also, I'm not sure if this is a controversial take, but if the Bible or any religious stuff serves as your source of morality, you are not a good person imo.
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51points
#34
A former coworker of mine showed herself to be completely psychotic on her first day.
The entire day everything seemed normal, then right at the end of the day she came into my office laughing hysterically because she had to show me a video.
It was a video of a guy jumping off a water tower. She said "He bounced real good" with the most maniacal grin on her face. She didn't last long.
The entire day everything seemed normal, then right at the end of the day she came into my office laughing hysterically because she had to show me a video.
It was a video of a guy jumping off a water tower. She said "He bounced real good" with the most maniacal grin on her face. She didn't last long.
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43points
#35
A lot of times they’ll straight up tell you. Anybody who gleefully tells you “I’m such an a*****e” or “I’m such a b***h” is usually not joking, even if they say it while laughing.
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41points
When it comes to our interactions with others, especially in close relationships, understanding different motivations can be key.
One Redditor's query unveiling "a particular narrative of deception within a marriage" provides an insightful backdrop to discussions about honesty and transparency, which can be core indicators of someone's character.