One of the most devastating things that can happen to you in a relationship is having the man you have fallen for start pulling away. You start to question whether you did something wrong or whether you are good enough for him. Most times it has nothing to do with you as to why he has or is becoming distant, but everything to do with him.
While things can seem to be going perfectly fine and you guys are bonding on every level, spending a lot of time together and speaking about future plans, all of the sudden he stops coming around and you are left wondering what went wrong. For many men that level intimacy scares them and so before they end up really falling for you they start to pull away because they are afraid of losing their freedom. While being with you feels good there are certain things they are not ready to give up just yet.
A man who is not ready for commitment will always distant himself when things start to get serious. If you are ready for marriage don't stick around waiting on him to make up his mind. You will waste years of your life trying to get him to propose. It could be that he just doesn't believe in marriage and if that's the case let it be. Don't drag a relationship that is leading nowhere. When a man feels like he has no room to breathe he will also distant himself. Healthy relationships require space. Don't be the type of woman that because you have all the time in the world he is suppose to also. If he is busy allow him his space to handle this responsibilities, don't smother him because we all know what happens when you smother a fire...it goes out.
Another reason why some men pull away is because the sexual attraction has faded. It's not as intense as it once was in other words he was attracted to the high the relationship provided and instead of putting in the effort to keep the fire going he takes flight rather than fight for it. Some men can also become distant because there is someone new in the picture. All of the sudden he has no time for you, he is always busy, cancels plans, etc...If you experience any of these he is looking for a way out. Men are not hard to read if you really pay attention. If he spent everyday with you and now you only see him twice a week chances are someone is taking your place those other days.
Many times his job can be really demanding, but so is a relationship and he doesn't know how to juggle both. Men feel a need to provide, which is a noble quality, but some get lost in the hustle and start spending more time at work, and less time with you. That’s not necessarily bad, if you can handle it. Financial responsibility, providing for a family, and doing all the things that men are required to supply in a relationship can be daunting. Once the pressure becomes too much, some men begin to pull away.
Whatever it is, take it as a sign that you two are not meant to be together and you don’t need to sell yourself to anyone. Be who you are and be confident in that. The right guy will love you for who you are.
