“Within A Month I’d Moved Out”: 37 Reasons People Divorced After Less Than 3 Months Of Marriage

My ex husband didn’t think I listened to the same radio show he did on my morning commute (think Howard Stern-esque). About 3 weeks after we got married, the two male hosts were sharing stories people wrote in about the best oral s*x they’d ever received. Idiot didn’t even bother disguising his name, admitted to having just gotten married, and described - in detail - the best BJ of his life.. received the night before our wedding, by his best friend’s wife. They thanked him for sharing his tale after throwing some cheeky insults directed at me while having a good laugh over it.

As soon as I got to the office I hacked my way into the f****r’s email and went straight for the sent folder. He sent the email to the radio show the morning prior, within 10 or so minutes of us having a morning shower together (that kind) before parting ways to head to work. I shared the email to Facebook, tagged all relevant parties, and had the papers filed within 24 hours.

Immediately after getting legally married, he became crazily possessive and physically abusive. He wouldn't let me out of his sight, wouldn't let me talk to anyone, work, leave the house, said that as his wife I was basically his property, etc. Then he started saying he wanted to have a kid ASAP. I got the f**k out as soon as the first opportunity presented itself.

My exSO got super controlling, like a switch just flipped, after we got married. He didn’t want to go out for any activities, but I couldn’t go two houses down to be social with the wives next door (he was active military and we lived on base).

At one point, it got so bad that he accused me of cheating with one of the neighbors husbands (even though all the wives only ever stayed out on the patio, no SO’s hung out, and we all never went into each others homes when any SO’s were home). So we went to the chaplain on base for marriage counseling. It was suggested that we should attend a marriage “camp” 200+ miles away in…….Las Vegas NV.

The pressure to go to this camp + it being located in Las Vegas = a red flag for me. So I told my ex that we either need to find a licensed marriage counselor, because something about the conversation with the chaplain just was not sitting well with me at all.

He did not want to listen to my concerns about the counseling we has already had at the time and was not willing to meet me anywhere for any counseling help. So he served me divorce papers, cut off the joint bank access, and told me to find a way back to my home state on my own.

No job, didn’t have a separate bank account, my parents were financially unable to help out, and I had to move out within 2 weeks with no where to go. An exbf of mine (we hadn’t spoken in 2 years at that time) happened to reach out to me to check in and see how I was doing, told him what was going on and within 48 hours he was on a flight out to help me move. About 6 months after the divorce was finalized, exbf and I started dating again. We’ve now been married for 9 years and still going strong.

Found out 17 days in that she had been talking to another guy and was only marrying me for my insurance and because I was in the process of trying to donate part of my liver to her.

Sounds like my cousin. She married a really decent seeming guy. When they got back from honeymoon, he presented her with a handwritten list of things she must do. Most were household tasks like cooking, do the washing, etc, but as the list went on it got more creepy.

She had to cut all contact with family, couldnt see her friends, wasnt allowed out unsupervised. The sad part was she went along with it and it took her family ages to convince her that this wasnt healthy behaviour.

He went to jail twice for domestic violence, had a pregnant girlfriend on the side, had 2 children he hid, and he ended up having 7 counts of sexual exploitation of a minor.
Luckily my dad's a divorce attorney and got me an annulment in a place where that's regarded as extremely unusual.

This happened to my grandmother. In her early '70s, she decided she wanted companionship and started seeing an old friend who felt the same.

After the wedding, he started expecting her to wait on him hand and foot. She never did that for Grandpa while he was alive and wasn’t going to start now. It wasn’t even a month before she had moved back out and to her place again.

In a nutshell, during our honeymoon right after the marriage, i found out she was cheating. Didn't end it on the spot because i didn't fully understand what was happening and we still had 1 week of honeymoon to go..

After gettin back hone i did some sneaky research and found out she cheated on me since 8 months... wasn't funny at all to confront her but it had to be done...

We don't talk to each other anymore

I'll answer for a friend of mine.

This girl was an ex that he had been in love with for years, even though she cheated on him and used him for his money.

Anyway, she came crawling back to him and they were married within the first month of her being back in his life. Super dumb, I agree, but it wasn't my choice though I shared how stupid I thought it was.
Well, the first two weeks of them being married she managed to spend sixty thousand dollars of his money.

I asked, "Did you get a prenup?", he said no. I laughed and said, "She's going to cheat on you again and take your money." Absolutely insensitive on my part, I agree 100%, it was a d**k move. He stopped talking to me for a week, then called me to hang out. He caught her cheating, again, with the same dude she cheated with before. I can proudly say I didn't drop an I told you so, instead I advised he get it annulled immediately so she can't go after any of his savings, investments, or assets.

So there it is. Bonus story, when he took back everything he bought or that was in his name, she broke it first. 10/10 classy broad.

Not me but an old coworker. His wife (third, I think) literally changed overnight after the wedding. Once she got him home she sat him down and explained all the rules, now that they were legal. Home 30 minutes after quitting time, no hanging out with friends, no drinking, never speak to another woman, yadda yadda yadda. I am paraphrasing as it's been a while, but she viewed MARRIED as a whole other thing and she expected him to obey all her rules. She pulled a hard bait-and-switch on him. I think that lasted less than 3 months.

I understand that SOME things change after marriage, and they should, but that was extreme. I've seen a ton of lesser cases in this sub, often based on s*x.

It was a fairytale kind of day in good ol Vegas. Never saw it coming. He decided 19 mins after we got back to our hotel that he was going to choke me up against the wall. He had never put his hands on me before this, not even a raised voice. Both of us were in the military, as well as my coworkers who joined us for the ceremony. He wanted to do his own thing instead of joining us. He left his ring, his phone and his wallet on the nightstand and disappeared for 4 days.

He popped up on our last day, as we were walking to the parking garage to head back to San Diego. He, a Marine, went on a 4 day coke binge. 9 days from getting married, I went back and filed for an annulment, never even consumated, which is grounds for an annulment/divorce apparently. Checked off more than 3 of the reasons for separation.

He drew it out for 7 months, tried to get me to pay him spousal support and help him pay off his debt (30k) and bought a very loaded Mitsubishi Evo. He only took it seriously because his fiance was very pregnant and wanted the papers so they could get married. She was 7 months if not more so clearly I missed something while we were living in separate cities.

He literally went into hiding so I wouldn't be able to have him served with the papers Never showed up to court, eventually after he played his I want marriage counseling/don't want to divorce when he did respond. It didn't take long for the judge to be over it and eventually granted it once he missed 2 court dates in a row. I could go on but that's the gist of it.

I got married at 18 because we were both joining the military and wouldn't be stationed together. After 3 months he decided he would rather be single... we decided 4 months in to get divorced. I met my current husband the next month even though I didn't plan to get with anybody. Then my ex ish husband was mad that I had moved on when HE'S THE ONE THAT WANTED A DIVORCE. He dragged his feet on getting it, I couldn't file because I wasn't a resident anywhere as I was still in school. I drove 6 hours to his state to file as the defendant so that I could get the ball rolling and it still took him 3 months to do his part. Technically we were married for 10 months but only voluntarily for 4 ish. My current husband and I got married after 6 months of knowing each other and we've been together for 12 years now with 4 kids.

I like to say I made the same mistake twice, it just worked out for me the second time.

You don't get out of the military without a divorce, article 15, or alcoholism...

Not exactly the three months timeline you asked for, but I knew I had to leave within 6 months of getting married. It took me a lot longer to actually get out, but that’s a different story.

I married my longtime SO within weeks of graduating college and getting a full time job. We were already engaged and had been for a while, but money was tight and my new insurance was good and we decided to just go ahead and go to the courthouse and have our wedding later when we could afford one. Our dynamic up until this point had been him working full time and me taking care of the house while I finished college and worked part time. I didn’t think a whole lot of it since I was home a lot more than him and it made sense. I knew he was lazy with housework in general, but for some reason I expected things to equalize now that I was matching/exceeding his income and work hours.

Obviously, I was wrong. He demanded everything I’d previously done for him to continue, and I was caught in a loop of getting off of work and rushing home to wake him up (GENTLY! He’d yell at me if I woke him up too suddenly), make him breakfast, pick out his clothes for him, and get the dogs walked before going to sleep for the day. When he got off of work, he would repeatedly call my phone until I woke up to talk to him while he drove home, and I had to get up, make dinner, do dishes, grocery shop, etc. until I went into work while he played video games. If I had cash for whatever reason, he would take it away and not give it back. All of our finances were joint and he spent a decent amount of my money on his expensive hobbies while asking if anything I got for myself was really necessary. He got mad that I was making friends that he had no control over, friends that made me realize that he was demanding and controlling.

The moment I knew I had to leave was when he made a total mess while hooking up a washing machine in the rental house we’d just moved into, and told me, “There’s water all over the floor in there. You’re gonna wanna clean that up.” For some reason, the way he said that made it crystal clear how he actually thought of me. I wasn’t a person to him. I was a servant and he would never admit it, but he felt like he owned me. And so that was when I started making plans to leave. I got stressed and depressed to the point where he couldn’t gaslight me into thinking this was a normal, happy life anymore.

My cousin found out her husband was getting off to photos of her body…but with her sisters face covering her own.

I got divorced after three months and tbh it was the best decision of my life. I truly believed in no sex before marriage and so my ex and I had never gone down that road.
Fast forward to the wedding night and boy was I disappointed. He had a micro penis and it didn’t matter what he did it just didn’t satisfy me at all. I tried to stay and make it work as he was a nice guy but then there were problems with his mother. One day I just felt like I’m so young (26 at the time) ‘how could this be my life from now on??’. I was paying half of everything and working full time and doing all the housework. One day he started saying I need to this that and the other and wear this and that and not speak to any other guys (even colleagues). Well sorry mate that’s not me and I won’t be dictated too thank you. Then the abuse started and so I left.

I left, even though my family were horrified I was the only one to ever get a divorce, and served him divorce papers.

Fast forward four years (I made sure I healed from this) and I got married in 2019 and were still together three years later. I have a son (1) and I am so happy with my decision back then. It was hard to go against the norm in my family and culture, but it was the right thing for me.

I have a friend who divorced after 11 months. She was addicted to the party and idea of being a Princess for a day, not the idea of actually making a marriage work. She remarried another man 14 months after the ink was dry on her divorce. Another big party and another dress. She told me she walked away from the first marriage with a $12,000 Debt, most of which was her half of their big wedding. It blew my mind that entering into a new marriage, already in debt from the first, she'd choose to go big again. We lost touch so I have no idea how long the second marriage lasted but my guess would be not long.

He got a woman pregnant while deployed in Japan. We got married a week before he left

My wife’s best friend got married in October 2021, January 2022 the husband opiate habit and massive debts to everyone she knows blows up the marriage and she threw him out and did a diy divorce. Dude was pocketing the rent and blaming her to the landlord. It was pretty shocking to be a spectator to all of it.

For me my first hubs slept with his best friend and she was also his grooms woman.I was fine with his bestie being a girl. I trusted him, didn't matter if I trusted her. Took me awhile to see it, but divorced within a year. Think he's actually more poly, I hate that he wasn't honest with himself and could have spared me and my son the heartache. We would have still been friends in that case . I was happy it was quick, he was an awesome step dad to my son, I still don't think he thinks about us however. It was hard on my boy but found a very loving husband soon after. Been 24 years now. Still happy.

A friend of mine was with this guy throughout high school and college. They got engaged and married- as she was packing to move in with him out of state (about a month in), he called her and told her they made a big mistake and should not have ever been married. So they got divorced shortly after that, she was quite literally broken and he was REMARRIED less than 2 months later.