“I Lost All Respect”: 59 Things People Did That Cost Them A Friend

I got cancer and was in hospital on a ventilator (although awake) for five weeks and he didn’t come visit me because the one free day he could visit was then double booked later for a last minute second date with a girl he met online…

That said other friends not as close before really stepped up in his absence so I learned who valued our friendship most moving forward.

Best man in my wedding 29 years ago. He became very right wing and knowingly brought his 80+ year old father to his house while he had Covid. Father got Covid and died within a couple weeks. He rationalized it by saying “he was old, not in the best of health, and was going to die sooner or later”. Mind you, he was a Covid denier AND far right “Christian”.

She's an alcoholic and started drinking again and it causes her to be delusional. Started accusing me of things like calling her late at night from a hidden number. I just had to block her everywhere. Been friends for 53 years and have had to cut her off every time she starts drinking. I love her so much but my mental health is more important.

I found out he was beating his wife. That's a big nope, police was allerted, and maybe he accidentally tripped. :).

She ghosted when I told her I had a tumour.

No idea what that was about but at least the trash took itself out. 🤷‍♀️.

He broke up with his girlfriend, our mutual long time good friend, because he didn’t see a future with her. Fair enough. Then he posted dozens of intimate photos they took together. She was super traumatized from it and when I called him out on it he only tried to explain why it wasn’t a big deal. So I called it. .

I said "no" for the first time in our friendship, over something benign. Many angry messages, hurtful emails, and embarrassing group chats later, I had fewer friends.

Which. Good riddance. That's not a friend, and her yes men were a waste of time.

I took her on a trip to Portland for her birthday 3 years ago. I drove the whole time, put about 3,000 miles on my car in 3 days (she picked the itinerary), paid for our hotel room (even though she said she would pay half), and then at the end gifted her a Polaroid scrapbook I spent months working on. The last page was blank so we could take a Polaroid when I gave it to her and do the last page together. She didn’t seem excited about the gift and didn’t want to do the last page, which hurt my feelings but hey it’s her gift. Two weeks later she say she feels like I don’t care about her, and friend dumped me.

I was the only one reaching out, inviting them for barbecues or birthday parties. They only reached out when they needed help.

I stopped reaching out or inviting them over, that's it. When I stopped drinking and smoking the last friendships disappeared.

I have now 0 friends to hang out with, but a beatiful family so everything is fine.

He was always the type of guy who would "claim" women. We'd walk into a bar or a club or a party and within 15 minutes he'd have pointed out and basically staked a flag in every one of the most beautiful women present. We were at a pool party once and I actually counted SIX women with whom I was "not allowed" to flirt. They were his. Simple as that.

I shrugged it off. I'm good-looking and have never had issues meeting women. Every now and then, one of the women he would essentially block me from would make her way through whatever obstacles he'd erected and we'd talk. Sometimes we'd hit it off, sometimes we wouldn't.

One day, after ten years of friendship, he confronted me and said he couldn't take it anymore. Told me that I targeted "every woman" he had interest in. I sat and listened to him unload on me for a solid ten minutes. Then he confessed that he never let me meet his girlfriends because he was afraid I'd try to "take them" from him.

I apologized profusely, hung up, and blocked him. I was so overcome by just....total and utter disgust for his lack of self esteem....that I deleted him from my life entirely and in that moment. I spent the next few months wondering how I'd allowed a man with so little respect for himself become my best friend. I have since discovered, through the grapevine, that he regularly talked trash about me to the women we both knew.

He slept with my wife.

She was my best friend, but I was just one of her friends. I would have been okay with that, but it turned out that I was also the least valuable of her friends to her. So she would cancel stuff with me last minute to go hang out with someone else (which I usually learned from her IG story). The second time she stood me up without any excuse or apology, I realized where I stood with her and disengaged.

He started drifting further and further alt right. it started with friendly debates but it got to the point every conversation he had to prove something and he would steam roll people just to be the loudest voice in the room. One time i showed him proof that something he said was wrong and he said "Well I don't want to believe that's true." I lost all respect and stopped contacting him.

From back in highschool.
Dude wanted to come out of the closet with a dramatic oppression story. Although I was his only real friend, I never discriminated him, I actually didn't even suspect it.
He instead discriminated another friend of ours who came out first(I remained friends with both).
I was and am very religious, but that didn't translate to gay bashing, far from it.
But he decided to make up stories about me discriminating him and my mom pressuring us to not be friends.
I found out weeks after he had spread such lies.
My mom had even invited him over for lasagna knowing he was gay.... Literally no discrimination from us, but still he felt we were fair game to turn us into the villains.

I realized he didn't even deserve a reaction. I deleted him on all social media and apparently that got him pissed off.
But it's fine, he's the one who had a hard time making friends, college to me was amazing and not knowing from him enhanced the experience.

When I got sober, but she wouldn't.

We stopped being friends because communication just faded. It wasn’t one big fight or anything our lives just went in different directions, and we slowly drifted apart.

Friends since childhood for many decades. He is a strong Trump supporter and i cannot even talk to a person with such hate in their heart for humanity.

When she couldn't be happy when I was getting married and activity tried to sabotage any joy in wedding planning. Some people just love to spread their own misery to others.

She was such a miserable jerk I had to kick her out of the wedding.

He married a woman who hated all of his friends. Within a year, he hated all of his friends.

I was the best man at his first wedding, I wasn't even invited to his second wedding.

Different views on the world and I don't like being around grumpy people.