Not every friend can blossom into your BFF. It’s rare to find someone who wants to sport matching bracelets, stay up all night exchanging secrets and give you a key to their apartment that you're free to use any time you want. And that’s fine! We need relationships that are low-stakes too; that doesn’t make them any less meaningful.
But something no one should make space for is a toxic friendship. Threads users have recently been revealing how they found out a former “friend” wasn’t actually a fan of them at all, so we’ve gathered their most heartbreaking stories below. Keep reading to also find conversations with the woman who started this thread and Amanda Diaz, creator of Friendship With Intention. And be sure to upvote the stories that hit home for you!
#21
When she took sides with my a***ive ex.
57points
#22
When I got engaged and instead of saying congratulations she asked how? You’re so mean how did someone propose to you she asked. I’ve known her since 14 yrs old.
54points
#23
Last minute invites. Never supported my business. Never went to my Mom’s funeral…secretly dated my then boyfriend….list is lengthy
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51points
#24
When I came down with a bad virus with a fever and endless diarrhea so I couldn’t attend her gender reveal party. She blamed me for not being there for her… and honestly any doctor would have said for me to stay away because it is a mortal sin to purposely bring an illness like that around a pregnant lady! Not sure she has forgiven me yet. And I had to cry over being sick AND losing a friend for it.
51points
#25
They kept planning things without me & purposely leaving me out of things
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50points
#26
When the subtle subliminal remarks started slipping into conversations, laced with just enough truth from my past to cut deep. When the energy shifted from support to silent competition, and the jealousy started seeping through in backhanded compliments. When the distance wasn’t just physical but emotional, like she couldn’t stand to see me evolve beyond the version of me she was once comfortable with. That’s when I knew.
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49points
#27
When she defended my stalker and then completely ghosted me when I brought it to her attention.
49points
#28
My short dissertation: my best friend left my wedding early without saying goodbye. Haven't seen her face to face since. It's almost 11 years 🥴
47points
#29
When I was crying in her car and she didn’t even bother to ask what was wrong
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45points
#30
When they made ME the “problem” a week after having a traumatic miscarriage.
41points