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I went to law school for this.
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The father then argued that this was "discussing the court proceedings with the child" and tried using it as an excuse to deny any further access.
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I don’t know about you, but one thing that’s blatantly evident from most of these stories is how strongly these ex-couples hate each other. When love disappears, relationships can grow extremely bitter. And humans are almost professionals at hurting each other. Or rather, driving them nuts by pulling off something extremely petty.
What they don’t realize is that it just drags their cases out forever. I mean, they could easily get rid of the previous person by pressing stop on the drama. But sometimes, they care more about their pride. Petty moves can also affect the other parent’s case and give them an advantage, especially in custody battles.
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Divorce coaches Pegotty and Randy Cooper list 4 major reasons divorce makes good people act badly. They claim that marriages often start with unspoken expectations that you never actually shared with your partner. When those hidden assumptions don’t match up, it’s easy to feel betrayed and blame your ex. But the real issue is usually that neither of you was ever on the same page to begin with.
Also, divorce triggers a primal “fight or flight” response that can make you feel like you’re in danger, even though you’re just navigating a life change. This stress shuts down the logical part of your brain, making it hard to communicate, make good decisions, or even sleep.
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The lawyer on the other side came back with "Respectfully, I'm not going to argue over second hand meat in a freezer".
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I do know the judge chewed both parents a new one when this issue came up, but ultimately could not make a call on how the "wish" would be granted. I believe the child ending up refusing the wish on account of the argument it caused between the parents.
Just hearing about the details of this case messed me up for awhile.
Edit: formatting.
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One of these pieces of discovery was a "detailed account of the mother's timeliness." Basically, if the mother was late to pick up her son, they would time it and document it. Which would make sense if it was significant. But I'm not exaggerating, over a 6-month period, she was late for a TOTAL of 33 minutes. Seeing as they met to exchange the child three times/week, it means she was late by about one or two minutes once a week. It was the most insignificant piece of data that I have ever seen in my entire life, but the client was adamant that we use it in court to prove that the mother was irresponsible.
They also speak about how divorce often strips away your sense of control, forcing you to make big decisions while relying on expensive lawyers you barely know. This dynamic can quickly turn a difficult situation into a war, where communication breaks down, and both sides feel they’re getting the short end of the stick.
Lastly, they stress that entitlement also plays a role. They explain that divorce often turns shared possessions and memories into a bitter battle over who deserves what, driven more by ego and emotion than logic.
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My mom worked a boatload to put my dad through school and him not working a day in his life. He got a job with a huge paycheck, nice retirement benefits, the works. So he immediately divorces my mom.
Judge rules that because she financed his school and supported him throughout, my mom gets spousal benefits such as her own retirement plan from the company, a good deal of his money, etc.
My donor knew my mom was pretty broke and he wasn't, so he hired an expensive lawyer and told her he would drag the divorce out until she had not a penny. Fought to get full custody of me when he honestly never wanted to see me again because he had partying to do. A real jerk.
He told my mom that he would stop if she signed away all her rights to a retirement package, income, etc. Eventually she did.
I grew up dirt poor and a lot of nights my mom went without dinner. All because he wanted all the money. I hate him for what he did to her.
According to a study, divorce has negative effects on physical and mental health. Researchers explained that “conflict” was one factor that had a big influence on divorce.
“Across genders, higher levels of divorce conflict were found to predict worse mental health, even when accounting for other socio-demographic variables and divorce characteristics,” the experts added.
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Just. Let. It. Go.
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She's discussed how she likes one twin more, that twin has coped better with this messy divorce. The other one has definitely shown some behaviors (my mom babysat for the husband who is a close friend when he was trying to figure out his schedule) good news is, looks like dad might be getting full custody!
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The dad had visitations on every Saturday. Mom would keep the kid up all Friday night so all the kid would want to do during dad day is sleep, as opposed to any bonding father son time.
Research also emphasizes that divorced and separated individuals have significantly higher rates of depression and anxiety than married counterparts, roughly twice the rates. In fact, mental health tends to worsen after divorce for most people, with gradual recovery over 2-3 years for most individuals. The period of highest psychological distress is typically in the year immediately following separation.
It adds that divorce activates sustained physiological stress responses that, over time, affect physical health. It could lead to elevated rates of immune dysfunction, cardiovascular disease, and sleep disorders among divorced individuals. These petty conflicts could also add to the stress.
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Surprisingly, some parents don’t realize that while their petty fights affect them, they also harm their children. Experts highlight that children are particularly vulnerable to insecurity because they rely on their parents and other family members for food, shelter, emotional well-being, and any number of other things.
“When children see their parents fighting, they may feel less sure about whether their parents can provide all of these important things, including love and emotional support. Worse, when children witness conflicts between their parents, they often worry they are to blame, even if the conflicts don’t involve them at all. If children blame themselves, they may also worry that their parents will reject or resent them for causing problems in the family,” they add.
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Broke my heart.
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