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Relationships don’t just end on their own; it usually happens due to a bunch of issues that build up over time. One of the biggest reasons is often a lack of communication between partners. When people keep their feelings to themselves and don’t open up to the other person, it can lead to a lot of pent-up emotions that may suddenly come out all at once one day.
Another common issue that many folks face is due to unrealistic expectations. They might get into the relationship thinking that it will be like a fairytale, and then be shocked by the reality of it all. Such bonds need a lot of work, but if people aren’t prepared to put in the effort, they might not be able to work it out.
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Everyone knows that the divorce rate is almost 50%, but most folks don’t know that the breakup rate is also equally high. This is typically the case in casual relationships or in cases where both folks have only been together for a short time. What’s surprising is that women tend to initiate breakups nearly twice as often as men.
What’s even more shocking to note is that approximately 70% of straight unmarried people in relationships break up within their first year. This is probably because it takes a while to get to know the other person, and in that time, they may realize what they like or don’t like about them.
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As you can probably tell from this list, many folks find it hard to deal with a breakup. This might be because it represents the sudden end of their relationship and connection with a person they cared about. It might also mean a loss of support and care or a change in routine that might seem daunting.
That’s why people react so emotionally to their relationships ending. It’s natural to feel a sense of grief, pain, or overwhelm. Some people may find an outlet for these emotions in negative ways, like a few of the examples on this list, while others might take time to process it and figure out their next steps calmly.
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It’s a popular trope to hate one’s exes and wish for their downfall, which is probably why so many folks are okay taking revenge on their previous partner. This impulse may be natural, but it might actually end up causing us more pain in the long run.
This is because the consequence of those vengeful thoughts is often unpleasant and might cause pain or harm to the other person. Very often, folks are blinded by the thought of one-upping a person who hurt them, without realizing how much pain they may end up causing someone they once loved.
To understand more about this, Bored Panda reached out to James Preece. He is the UK's leading dating coach, helping singles from all over the world to find their dream partners over the last 20 years.
He said that the need to get revenge on an ex "usually stems from resentment and not understanding how to process the negative emotions they are experiencing. It's natural to feel helpless and upset as breakups are a lot like a death: all your plans and dreams vanish. Anger is a big part of this, especially if it's a betrayal."
He added that "they want a quick way to feel better and find their power again, so lashing out can appear to be the solution. In reality, revenge doesn't help as you are focusing on the breakup rather than the healing process."
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As hilarious as some of these stories seem, it’s clear that many of the folks on this list were hurting after their breakup. With no constructive way to deal with their feelings, they decided to lash out at the other person. It probably didn’t lead to much satisfaction, but hopefully they’ve healed from the hurt now.
James shared that “if possible, the best thing is to have a proper conversation with your ex. It’s often the confusion caused by the sudden shock or lack of closure that builds into resentment. Communication can help you process what’s happened in a calm way.”
“If you can’t do this, then write a letter expressing everything you feel. Every pain point, every disappointment, and let out all your emotions. Then, at the end, tell them you forgive them. This is the hardest section to do, but you need to release this in order to move on. The secret is not to send it, but to make a big deal about burning it and setting it free,” he added.
Have you ever wanted to get—or gotten—petty revenge on your ex? We’d love to hear your unhinged stories next.
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