“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having

I tend to overthink a lot which sometimes makes me my own worst enemy.

I am lazy af and procrastinate like a b***h. It's my worst flaw. It affects my health, my relationships, and is now magnified by my depression.

I don't communicate my needs and then get frustrated when they aren't met.

I don’t set boundaries with people which leads to me becoming angry with them at a later date because they are taking advantage of my being too nice.

I'm very cynical and mistrusting about peoples intentions. Always thinking they have ulterior motives when they're friendly to me. Basicaly I have no good faith in humanity.

I dont always speak my mind for fear of being emotionally abandoned and it has NOT served anyone well.

I am one of those people who will jump full blast into a brand new hobby but then promptly quit when it turns out I am not immediately great at it. This has led to a lot of credit card debt, unfinished projects, and unused stuff around the house.

edit: yes this is definitely due to ADHD, I've been diagnosed twice in my life but am unfortunately not currently medicated.

I create ridiculous situations in my head and allow my anxiety to control and cripple me. I'm working on it and actually making lots of progress but it's caused me many problems.

I also get incredibly defensive if I feel like I'm being looked down on in any way.

Edit: Definitely a self esteem thing which always makes you take a good hard look in the mirror. If you experience this go to therapy/start finding ways to build yourself up. It goes a long way.

I’m not good at cultivating relationships, reaching out to check on people, keeping track of what is going on with far-flung relatives. I’m not sure if it is a self-esteem issue or a self-protection issue. I vacillate between it being either one.

Narcissism. Didn't even know the term until a few years back, and then I started to learn all about it. Now I realise I have picked up so many traits, I am trying to unlearn them and be better.

I don't talk to myself in a positive way. I've gotten better at it, but as the saying goes we are our own worst critics.

Inflexible. I want to do things my way. Trying to learn to overcome this but old habits die hard.

I expect people to treat me like I treat everyone.

I don’t talk about my feelings at all. It’s hard to know if I’m sad or mad about something.

I’m very complacent, just because I don’t like making a fuss or making people feel upset. For example, if something is $20 but I get charged $25 i’ll just pay the $25 rather than even attempt to argue bc I don’t want to be rude to anyone. I need to get better at putting my foot down and saying no, or not just capitulating immediately.

I let anger take over. It affects my kids, my husband, me.

I don't really say anything when it upsets me to try to keep the peace. Then all of a sudden, one little thing can make me become a total b***h which hurts my relationships.

Perfectionism that leads to an unwillingness to forgive myself for my own mistakes.

I’m trying to work on it but I have a really hard time prioritizing myself when it comes to things like saying no to helping people or picking up extra at work when I really don’t have the mental/physical energy to do so.

Self-Sabatoge. Whenever I have expectations placed on me, I immediately fail at the task regardless of whether doing the task is good for me or not. Failing becomes a habit and confidence is shot. Then any goal becomes not worth pursuing. It becomes a cycle of self-harm.