30 Rich People Reveal The Dark Side Of Having Money That Most Of Us Don't Know About

The worst thing is when people *judge* your character by how you spend and donate your money.

That I should be happy. I have all the resources in the world, so I should be able to afford the things that make me happy including the top mental health professionals.

I'm f*****g miserable and really hopeless because I have tried everything and don't feel better. Literally my doctors are now just telling me to keep holding on and that apparently breakthroughs in science are coming that would help me.

And other people make me feel guilty that I'm not happy because I'm so privileged. People assume I'm not grateful or that I'm spoiled. But really I'm just sad and empty. I've been called "poor little rich girl." I just don't think thats fair because I think about suicide all the time.

I would do anything to have my only problem be money. I don't think people realize what a luxury that is. It sounds like paradise compared to depression.

But back to your question. It is the expectations that others have for me. I just can't live up to them. I'm a waste of an opportunity.

People expect you to pay for everything and they will invariably order the most expensive things (food, liquor, etc). I don't mind paying at all and I know how bad this sounds, but to me, the cost is irrelevant. But when people make zero attempt to pay, it's very disheartening and I will rarely meet up again with someone who does that.

When I meet someone who could be a potential friend, I am vague about where I live, lifestyle, etc because I want to let the friendship grow without the issue of money. Eventually the person will figure out my situation and the best people are the ones who don't change as a result, but some people simply get weird around you and it can be uncomfortable. Rich people often hang out with other rich people simply because it's less complicated, not because they may like the person a lot.

Due to different circumstances I'm quite wealthy considering I'm a student, and despite doing my best to hide it to prevent people being false friends, and judgemental, people inevitably clock on to the fact you've got a bit of money. They then judge you, and constantly drop snide comments, about really petty things. Example, I don't have to buy rock bottom price own brand spirit / drinks / food. I don't go buying grey goose or w/e which i've seen people do to simply show off, I'm not buying tables and ordering moet in clubs, but just because I can afford to buy premium vodka or branded drinks, don't take it out on me simply because you can't.

Same for food, I'm in the fortunate enough position to not have to buy aldi / lidl, and can afford to buy the food I like even when its not on special. I can go to the more upmarket shops and afford their ranges. I don't flaunt my money or brag about it, I don't even discuss it, I just keep to myself and buy the food that I like. But the amount of times i've had people dropping snide comments about what I eat, and the brands of food I eat, petty s**t like that is too many times to remember. (I wouldn't even mind if I was buying gold plated beluga caviar, but I'm talking like, regular s**t). Like, I'm well aware that I can get a spaghetti bolognaise ready meal for a quarter of the price in aldi, but I don't want it, and preaching at me about it every time I go to get something out the fridge is just poking your nose in where its not wanted.

Like also I can afford to get the train to uni, which is more expensive than getting the bus. Again, snide comments. Or getting a cab home from a club at 4am instead of walking back for an hour, then if someone can't afford it, offering to pay for them, but they'll decline my offer and get funny over the fact I got a cab home.

Its just petty s**t like that that really gets to me. Its unnecessary. I don't flaunt or waste money at all, I don't look down on people for buying own brand if thats what they want to do, its their prerogative and its not my place to comment on what they eat. I just keep myself to myself, yet people can be so quick to judge and pass comment.

Edit: Romantic relationships can be very difficult as well, like whilst people may not know you've got a bit of cash when you start dating, soon after they realise, and 9/10 times their attitude changes, and you're expected to suddenly cough up for everything they want, at which point you have to dump them because you begin to realise the only reason they stayed with you was for money. I had a relationship that was quite serious once, and I really opened up to her, and when we were discussing the future, I mentioned that given my situation, my family have written clauses into trusts that I must have a prenup, but it shouldn't be an issue cause I know your not here for that. Yup, she upped and left the week after because 'we weren't going anywhere the relationship was dead.'

Sometimes other people feel like they're entitled to my money. Its kind of hard to explain. For example, Im supposed to pay for everything else and if I don't then its a problem. Or, all shop owners or whatever sell me everything way over priced. If i try to bargain I get a death stare, and if they're rude enough they will actually say that I'm rich and it wont matter to me if I pay a bit more. That's not how it works!!!

I'm not rich, and never have been. In fact, I used to be poor as f**k. All that being said, I am at times very sympathetic toward rich kids, because they always had a "safety net" that hinders the development of their work ethic. If I am truly honest with myself, it is not my "work ethic" that got me my first few jobs. I hated that s**t. The cover letters, the interviews, the waking up early for a newspaper route, the days where I spent my weekends mowing lawns while my wealthier friends went to the beach. Fuckkk That. But I do believe it was my lack of a "safety net" that has conditioned me to be the hard worker that I am today. Rich kids are born without the choice of being rich or not, but due to their environment, if they didn't get a job they still had a source of income or some sort of support. If I didn't get a job, I was homeless.

Being born rich or poor is out of our hands. I believe being born poor comes with a huge advantage that rich kids don't have and that is the necessity for a work ethic. Being born poor means you are born within an environment where not working is not an option. It was my environment, not me, that developed my work ethic that is invaluable in my own life today.

Disclaimer: obviously I made some huge generalizations about rich kids and families. I have known multiple rich kids that grew up to have excellent work ethics. But as a whole, this is what I have perceived to be true in my own life.

This is going to get buried because I'm late to the thread but here goes. My dad founded a tech company about 10 years ago now it's grown in size and is publicly traded, the market caps gone over 1billion before but it's only worth about 400milion.I don't know his exact income but it's a lot. But anyways I have to say the worst part is being "rich kid" in my group of friends, I go to public school and almost all dirt poor like they live in trailers and s****y houses and whenever they come over to my place for the first time it always makes them view me entirely differently.

The second worst part I got to say is everything is always related to my dads work. Everybody seem to know me as Mr. Boss guys son. For example as I'm typing this comment my dads hosting a party at our house. There's several hundred people here, tons of employees for the party, and a lot of people who have worked for my dad and their family's. I originally walked around with a name tag that just had my first name on it and only a few people talked to me/knew who I am. But then my mom said I should put my last name too and everybody suddenly started saying "Oh you must be Mr.boss guys son." And then they would start talking about what the company is up to and various things my dad is involved with. I felt so out of place I just hid in my room and went on reddit. Still contemplating whether I should back outside.

Sounds like I'm bragging but I'm not but I've more money than I'll need and tend to be generous, paying for my daughters' groceries etc but I'm sure both of their partners think I'm showing off, throwing my money around.

Two physician family:

#1: ENT+Ophthalmologist~$1m/y

#2: Family doc+Pediatrician~$300k/y

Neither poor by any measure, but insanely different realities with the same expectations.

People think your private plane is a f*****g free taxi service. They get so angry when you don't lend it out as such. I get requests to use my plane on a weekly basis from people I know. "Hey Panther, it would really make my wife's birthday more special if our group could use your jet to get us to and from Vegas." I shut them up by telling them I will have the pilot call them to arrange things. He then tells them how much it will cost to charter the flight and they usually drop the request pretty quickly. Only once have they called back expecting me to foot the bill.