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"What 'Family Secret' Did You Learn That Totally Shocked You?" (32 Answers)

You can choose friends, lovers, partners in crime, friends and best friends, enemies too, but you cannot choose a family. The one you have is the one you are with forever. That includes a fair share of best moments, childhood nostalgia, reunions, and not-so-happy memories of dinner table arguments, clashing beliefs, and you know how it goes...

But since we are so sure we know our family members so well, we can easily miss the fact that it’s possible we know very little about them. How come, you ask? Well, this illuminating thread from Ask Reddit has some answers.

“What 'family secret' did you learn that totally shocked you?” one Redditor asked, and the result is thousands of spilled family secrets that were not meant to reach the daylight. Below we wrapped up some of the most shocking ones people shared.

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#1

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I was adopted by the man I always knew as 'Dad'. I was always asked "did you think of him differently after you found out?" My response has and always will be yes. I respect him a h**l of a lot more than I ever did before.

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Ages ago I arranged a meeting with the local dope dealer through a real half a*s friend and surprise surprise it was my dad. Needless to say major questions were asked on both sides. My god the look on our faces must've been priceless!

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My mom married my stepfather in the mid 80s. My mom and dad had been divorced since my birth in the early 70s. So, living primarily with my mom, she would of course go out on dates, and eventually I would get the old boyfriend introduction which usually went well. With my soon to be step father, I always knew there was something a little off. Couldn't ever really pin down what it was, but he was just off, if ever so slightly. But hey, my mom really liked this guy, so I was in. Made my way through some awkward teenage years with him, and off to college. Still, I felt like I was missing something with him. Then, in 1997, and my mom and step dad divorce. Towards then end, he would grow very impatient and I guess they would fight a lot, but I wasn't around to see it as I had long since moved out and had my own life to lead in a different state. Didn't ever hear him come up much in conversation after that. Now, fast forward to 2007. My mom, unfortunately had cancer and it was nearing the end of her life. I spent the last two weeks with her at her house, just talking and letting her know how much I loved her and what a great mom she had been. For those that have never seen a loved one pass away from cancer, it's not very pleasant. They tend to get a little loopy, forgetful and generally speaking, aren't 109% with it. So, sitting on the couch next to her on one of these days, she exclaims "Well, I suppose I can tell you about your stepfather now". My eyes perked right up, I knew it I knew it, something was off about him! Maybe he went AWOL from the Army? Maybe he had a kid I didn't know about? She continued on "Your stepfather was a gay

star in the 70s". This, I had not expected.

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#4

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Found out when I was 22 but apparently I had an older sister. She died very young due to a heart defect or something before I was born but yeah no one in my (very very large) family ever let it slip the whole time. I only found out because my other 2 older sisters found a letter buried in a closet one day years ago and they told me about it way after the fact. Never asked my parents about it, I can only imagine what kind of old wound that would dig up and they don't need that - I just quietly visited the grave by myself once to leave a flower. It was a pretty unreal feeling.

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That my "mom" is actually my grandma, my "dad" is my step grandpa, and my "sister" who is 13 years older than me is my mom. And my biological dad was 21 when he got her pregnant.

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My great grandpa murdered one of his own children. The family was a bunch of poor backwoods hicks and having trouble feeding their kids. My great grandma was pregnant and didn't learn until delivery that she was pregnant with twins. Great grandpas solution was to bash one of the babies heads against the wash basin. My grandpa wrote a letter to my mom on his deathbed and this was one of the things he wrote about in the letter. When my mom told me my blood turned to ice water. The sheer evilness completely shocked me.

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#7

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My family owned black slaves. We're Native American.

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So, ever since I started living in apartments for myself, I've had these big pink towels, and every time someone brought it up I've told this story. When I got the first apartment, I went to visit my grandparents with my mom so we could raid her basement for stuff she had lying around that I could use in my new home. And among the stuff that we found were these giant boxes of big pink towels and jasmine incense. Now, the towels I didn't question, but my grandparents didn't seem like the type to use incense, let alone in bulk, so I asked about it. And when I did, my mom and my grandma shared a look and one said to the other "I guess he's old enough to know." So the story goes that my grandpa, amongst other things, ran two shopping centers. At one point, one of these shopping centers had a massage parlor. They seemed alright and always paid their rent. Then one day my grandpa gets a call that eyewitness accounts went something like this: "Hello. Yes, this is .... ....... . Yes. Yes, what... A WH*REHOUSE?! WHAT DO MEAN I'M RUNNING A WH*REHOUSE?!" Apparently, this was a "full-service" massage parlor and the owner split once the cops got wind of it, leaving behind the whole operation. So my grandpa technically became the owner of a very large supply of pink towels, jasmine incense, baby oil, and tissues. And, never one to throw things away, he kept all of it in his basement. And they were pretty good towels, so I took a bunch and some of the jasmine incense. I may call them for more at some point.

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My father had an affair with his brother's wife so my cousin is also my brother. my cousin doesn't know though, grandma let this slip whilst wasted

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My great uncle who never "settled down" and died of "cancer," was actually gay and died of AIDS in the 80s.

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I didn't find out until recently, in my thirties. So at this age pretty much nothing shocks you. But it would have shocked me in my teens, when my mother was super religious, warning us against premarital [intimacy]. In my early twenties, she tried to stop my girlfriend and I from living together when we moved to a city where we knew no one. (Obviously, we lived together. But we had to hide it from her when she came to visit.) When some unmarried friends of mine had a baby unexpectedly, and the child was born with a physical handicap, she even insinuated to me that it was punishment from God for having a baby out of wedlock. So guess what... a few months ago, my aunt mentioned in passing that the reason my parents got married after only knowing each other four months was because my mother was pregnant. (She ended up miscarrying, which is why we'd never figured it out before.)

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#20

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That the women that my dad was having [intimacy] with (cheating on my mom) were all men. Bonus: They are still married 30 years later.

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