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Will not watch their movies.
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A person experiences a variety of emotions throughout their life, as psychologist Jonice Webb lists in her article. This includes feelings like love, fear, sadness, joy, and boredom, to name a few.
What’s interesting about emotions is that you don’t have to experience them one at a time. They can mix, creating mixed emotions, hence the name. Or they can create an entirely new feeling.
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I've never been back. So 24 years for me.
For example, emotions such as anger, bitterness, and other negative ones can form a feeling called a grudge. According to the dictionary definition, a grudge is “a feeling of deep-seated resentment or ill will.” But as always, dictionary definitions tend to be pretty dry, don’t they?
That’s when we turn to more “human” explanations. Essentially, yes, a grudge is a negative feeling that we experience, but it’s more than simply that. Basically, there’s always a context for why we feel this way, a story behind it. Feelings, especially the bad ones, don’t just appear for no reason.
If it seems like they do, it’s always worth looking deeper into it – it might be due to someone hurting you way back in the day and those feelings catching up right now. Or it might be some kind of mental illness, you never know. But hey, acknowledging it is always the first step in getting better.
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It was at that moment that I realized how meaningless, arbitrary b******t can stand in the way of maximum effort, and I never tried hard in school again.
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Then there's stupid s**t like how movies aren't allowed to have villains use iPhones, how they forced U2's album on everyone, and once you go Apple you're stuck in proprietary hell.
No thanks.
#9
1. Nestle. Over 30 years for exploiting public water for profit.
2. Scott’s/Miracle Gro aka Monsanto. Close to 20 years. Reason-Monsanto. Do I need to say more?
3. Amazon and Chic Fil A are a tie at about 10 or so years. I think their reputation speaks for themselves.
4. Home Depot. About 4 years. Former employee so I know lots of dirt. Plus I don’t like their political donation track record.
What’s interesting about a grudge is that it can be pretty hard to let go of. After all, when we talk about it, we usually phrase it as “holding a grudge,” which suggests that we tend to hold onto this feeling.
Today’s list is a perfect proof of that – it’s full of stories about exactly that. Mind you, some of these grudges are decades old. It just proves the point that it can be hard or even impossible to let go of.
#10
After my first fender-bender as a teenager, I expected them to raise my premium. Instead they dropped me completely.
They were not there for me
They were not a "good neighbor"
Edit to add: Good lawd, with these other stories I'm surprised they're still in business.
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I wasn’t a fan before the Affordable Care Act and tended to avoid shopping there just on vibes. But when the ACA passed, Wal-Mart decided that it was cheaper to pay the fine for not providing insurance than it was to just insure their employees. Never crossed their door again.
I currently live less than a 15 minute walk from a Wal-Mart and have told my husband that - if forced - I’ll shoplift from Wal-Mart but I’m not giving them a dime of my money.
But why is it like that? You see, our brains are wired in a way that they like to hold onto negative feelings, even though it hurts us. And we motivate them to do so by ruminating, as this way they don’t turn into the thing of the past and remain present in our heads.
Perhaps this way we’re trying to protect ourselves – if we remember the negative thing and details about it, we can ensure it doesn’t happen again, as we can avoid it. It gives us a sense of self-control, even if in some cases it’s just an illusion.
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Sidenote, it’s kind of funny because no matter what why you say that a local Boston College or a local Boston University? It kind of screamed at which of the school I might have gone to
let me continue so we go into the store and both of us were already let’s just say young adults of means and the girl working the store or the boutique looked at us and told us to walk right back out because they did not dress fattiies at Betsy Johnson and even if we had squeezed ourselves into something she wouldn’t sell it to us because they had an image to uphold.
So I don’t remember which store on Newbury Street we might’ve gone to Toppers and blew all that money on hats who knows but it definitely wouldn’t be spent at Betsy Johnson.
Years later, I was called to a gate because the gate agents and the and the supervisor and the lead we’re all straight men, and there was a little weirdly, dressed lady who someone said was a fashion designer behaving a little badly at a gate because her flight was delayed and they weren’t sure who she was or why people thought she was important so I got called to assist and lo and behold. I got to tell her that I was well aware of who she was and she needed to dial it back a bit if she was planning to travel our airline that day and I would gladly refund our ticket and she could go over to Delta or American or whoever she wanted to in another terminal.
The irony behind the whole thing is now Betsy Johnson has a plus size line for the cool fatties I guess. To quote Cyndi Lauper I guess money changes everything.
I wouldn’t wear anything of hers, even if it meant my own death, but I might be convinced to burn something of hers for warmth.
Edited to app sorry for typos or weird phrasing. I’m having to use talk to text because of an arm injury.
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Yet, many people argue that we should strive to be more forgiving. All these negative feelings hurt us. It not only damages our minds, but can bring bitterness, mistrust to relationships, and just makes us overall sadder than we should be. And that sounds nice and all, but sometimes it’s easier said than done, isn’t it?
Do you have any grudges you've been holding for a long time? Please, share them with us!
#16
And Dell because it's owner is a piece of s**t.
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It was so long ago that I was starting a business and wanted an ad in their local Yellow Page phone book. I paid them the money but it didn't show up in the book. Took me over a year to get my money back.
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Credit unions probably aren’t completely innocent, but I’ll choose them over a bank any day.