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30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
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30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers

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Having a place to call your own is a dream come true for many—if not most—people around the globe. Renting is fine, of course, but when you truly own the property, there’s a lot of freedom and security that comes with this. Not only can you unleash your genius interior decorator, but you also don’t have to answer to a landlord.
However, purchasing your first property can be absolutely daunting. You’re putting down a huge amount of money, and you want the house or apartment to be great (or, well, at least good). We’ve collected some of the most hard-earned lessons from first-time homebuyers from an interesting discussion on r/FirstTimeHomeBuyer, including the things they regret the most. Scroll down for their nuggets of wisdom.
Bored Panda wanted to find out what people buying their first homes should be aware of to minimize future regrets, so we reached out to G. Brian Davis, a real estate investor and the co-founder of SparkRental.com. He was kind enough to share his insights and advice, which you'll find as you read on.

#1

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
Unless you have concrete plans to get engaged and married soon, I would not buy together. People break up all the time, and sorting that out and selling a home you co-own is a nightmare—especially if you are not equally contributing to the down payment and monthly mortgage.
51points

According to Davis, from SparkRental.com, homebuyers should understand the concept of 'breakeven horizon.' "Owning a home comes with tens of thousands of dollars in closing costs, some on the front end when you buy and others on the back end when you sell. It takes years for a home to appreciate enough in value to offset those costs," he explained to Bored Panda.

"Exactly how long will depend on your local market conditions over the next few years. But as a general rule, expect it to take 3-7 years on average for you to break even on your home. That makes homeownership a long-term commitment. Only buy a home if you plan to live there for at least five years or so. Otherwise, you’re probably better off continuing to rent and enjoying the flexibility it provides," he said.

#2

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
It was midnight. Our third night in the house. The chirping began.

It was the highest smoke detector in the vaulted ceiling in our living room.

Luckily we had 9-volt batteries and had bought a ladder that day. We lucked out.

Make sure you have 9-volt batteries. Even hard-wired smoke detectors will beep when the backup batteries die.

My boyfriend says every homeowner needs a ladder and a shop-vac.
50points

#3

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
Water. Look out for the risk from water. Can be invisible risk for years. In a mostly flat landscape, the water risk from being near low points can be invisible. The local creek may have been buried in a sewer system. But when there’s torrential rain, suddenly the sewer system will back up into the basements of all the houses near the low points. Closely examine the basement for evidence of earlier water damage which has been buried behind new Sheetrock or wall to wall.
43points

Davis suggested that homebuyers keep their future needs in mind, not just their current ones, when choosing a home. "If you plan to have children, that urban rowhome might not make sense. Likewise, if your kids are about to leave the nest, it may not make sense to buy a large suburban home. If you aren’t 100% sure about a city or neighborhood, try renting there for a year first to make sure you want to commit long-term. How do you feel about the noise level? Traffic? Commutes? Safety? Walkability? Taxes?"

He advised that you should spend a week renting an Airbnb in the prospective neighborhood if you can't spend a year living there. "Get a sense for what it’s like to live within a few blocks where you’re thinking about buying. Live your regular routine as much as possible, including both workdays and weekends," he told Bored Panda in an email.

#4

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
The location is more important than you think. Your realtor is not looking out for your best interest.
40points

#5

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
Pay for the sewer scope. Just closed less than a month ago and just found out we have to replace most of the plumbing. Yay homeownership.
37points

#6

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
Do not underestimate the amount of work required for a “fixer upper”. Yes it sounds fun, but it takes a special kind of buyer. In hindsight, I’m very glad I chose a move-in ready home, there’s enough work to do as-is.
37points

We asked Davis how someone can be sure that a property is 'good enough' for them. He said this holds true if a property meets all of your needs and most of your reasonable wants.

"Get extremely clear on both. Write them out alongside your partner and then prioritize your wants. Make sure you and your partner are both on the same page, and if you’re not, keep negotiating until you get to a place where you can both live with the compromises—without resenting the other partner," the co-founder of SparkRental.com explained.

"Finally, scope out the local schools well before buying, if you have school-age children. Physically visit the schools, talk to the administrators and teachers. Speak with parents whose kids go there. Post in local community forums asking parents for their candid feedback. Check the ratings on Greatschools.org."

#7

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
When I bought my first home I was given some good advice. Which is to wait 6 months on any Non-Absolutely necessary project. If you think it is still important after 6 months then do it. .
34points

#8

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
Make sure home inspector actually gets into the attic during inspection. 🙄 Apparently my inspector had MS and didnt. I didn't know that until my ceiling sprung a leak 5 weeks after closing. Needless to say repairs were covered and I got an inspection refund and an apology. But that could have been catastrophic for my $178k first home purchase! I was pissed!!!
33points

#9

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
Start learning small repairs. Such as changing a wall outlet or switch, covering a hole inside or outside, installing a door or door k**b, leaky faucet, change a toilet handle, etc…

The more you can do on your own, the more will save you from calling for a repair service. Most just charge to come out and inspect/assess the issue and then give you a rate. And some services charge extra to come out on a weekend, like AC repair.
31points

If you’re flabbergasted by property prices in your local area, you always have the option of buying homes in Italy for just one euro (a little over a dollar). CNN reports that in Penne, Italy’s Abruzzo region, you can buy abandoned homes extremely cheaply if you commit to restyling them. The goal is to stop the depopulation in the area.

“The only requirement is that buyers commit to restyling these houses in three years, but we ask for no downpayment guarantee to start the works. We really want to encourage and support those who come to revive the ancient neighborhood,” Penne’s mayor, Gilberto Petrucci, told CNN.

#10

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
Road noise sucks. If you can at all avoid it, do so. Location matters. The better a location you can buy in, the more appreciation of your home value is possible. Also, if you choose to sell, it’ll sell quicker if it’s in a better location.
29points

#11

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
Best advice I got on buying a house: don't listen to your parents

They're too out of touch with what the current market is like for first time home buyers.
28points

#12

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
I went into my first home without a single dollar on a credit card. Not so much anymore....those Home Depot and Lowes card got quite the workout for the first 8 months. It's settling down now.

Until something breaks.

I will say, learn to be handy if you aren't. I saved hundreds of dollars cleaning my own gutters and replacing a thermocouple on my furnace. I learned a lot too. YouTube is your friend!
26points

“We have a team of architects and experts who may advise and support in the renovation works, finding builders and surveyors, showing buyers through renderings what their home will look like once fixed, and advising throughout the renovation stages,” the mayor added.

The starting cost to do some basic restyling for a small to medium-sized house, according to Petrucci, is around 20k euros (nearly 21.7k dollars at the time of writing).

#13

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
F**k home inspectors. Hire a tradesperson that you trust — an electrician, a plumber, a roofer, etc. and pay them their hourly rate to come out and do an inspection and give your their honest opinion about the shape of things and if the work was done well. I wish I had done this. My home inspector came highly recommended and he honestly didn’t know a d**n thing in retrospect.
26points

#14

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
"What's this stain/spot?"

"Oh, not sure, been there since we moved in."

Water damage from an active leak. That's what it is. Trust no one. Don't trust the realtor, don't trust the bank, and trust the sellers and their agent least of all. Assume everyone is a lying piece of s**t trying to unload onto you what the last lying piece of s**t loaded onto them. Everyone is lying, just assume that out the gate. No one cares about you. You're not paranoid. You're not being a hassle. You're not being rude. Trust no one.
26points

#15

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
Be mentally prepared for how much furniture costs, and how long it could take to arrive if you’re buying something new… lots of furniture is back ordered or takes 3-6 months to ship.

The first few weeks you’ll notice a lot of things that feel urgent but after a while you may get used to the quirks of your house. I had to adjust to how cold it is without heating on all the time, or how long it takes for the water to heat up. We were considering installing a water recirculation or instant heater but eventually I got used to just waiting longer for the water to heat up.
25points

The thing to keep in mind when buying homes—and, well, doing pretty much anything else in life—is that there is no such thing as ‘perfection.’ It’s good to have standards and to know what you want in life. However, you have to be practical, reasonable, and flexible when you can’t get exactly what you want.

If you keep chasing perfection, you might ignore other high-quality opportunities that come your way. You need to consider whether the house or apartment matches most of the qualities you want without focusing too much on the tiny details. If the core aspects of the home are good (the foundation, plumbing, wiring, etc.) and it feels like a good long-term investment, you shouldn’t get too hung up on the color of the walls or that the layout doesn’t 100% match your daydreams.

#16

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
Diatomaceous earth. You will need it eventually. I had ants one summer and a roach setup shop in my fridge in the fall. Diatomaceous earth meant the difference and bought time while I waited for the exterminator appointment.
25points

#17

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
If you like an appliance and listing says it’s included, take pictures and try and grab the serial number so it can be included in future at closing. We had the sellers switch out a high end appliance with cheap used one.
24points

#18

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
It’s way more expensive than just the closing costs and monthly payment. We bought a few months ago and have already spent over 50k in various projects we either wanted or needed to do. Thankful to have the income to support it, but I know a lot of people do not think beyond the closing costs and monthly payment when buying.
22points

In a similar vein, if the house is decently priced, near good schools, close to work, and in a safe neighborhood, that’s what matters more than the molding or roof tiles being a different style than you want. If you have enough spare resources and willpower, you’ll be able to change those details to your liking after you’ve bought the home. But for now, focus on the essentials.

Again, it’s good to have standards and you shouldn’t buy the first thing that comes your way. You need to put in the time and energy to do a thorough inspection of the property (hire a professional if you don’t have any experience here) and the neighborhood.

But whatever happens, it’s likely that your first home won’t be your dream home. Eventually, you’ll look for other properties, especially if you start making more money, have to move for work, or decide to start a family. Your needs and wants will change, so you’ll look into buying a home elsewhere.

#19

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
Get preapproved before you do any searching so as not to get your hopes up and waste you and your agent’s time.
21points

#20

30 Hard-Earned Lessons Shared By First-Time Home Buyers
Stressing so badly about mythical problems that don’t exist (yet) is a problem that you need to work. Relax, build your savings and you’ll be prepared for anything.
20points
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