“TikTok Caused My Split”: 79 People Share Why Their Marriages Actually Ended

You know how some people sleep differently? Like I sleep on my side but I toss and turn sometimes from one side to another. Well my now ex wife would sometimes sleep on her stomach, and other times would sleep with other people while I was at work. I didn't like that so I left, not amicably.

She had an affair with a married friend of ours. 3 months after our wedding. They blew up 2 marriages. It was not amicable. But at least I kept the dog. He’s a good boy.

I had cancer, and maybe she didn’t want to deal with it? Long story short: We divorced, she took all I had except our (now my) car and that is that.

Some years later I now have a dog, my own apartment and might even be cured of the cancer (“cure” needs me to stay cancer-free for 5 years… I’m at 4 years now, just 1 more hehe).

He had a bad day at work. The 5 month old puppy was excited to see him when he got home, he punched the puppy for wanting attention.
I knew I was next if he would hit a puppy. I moved out with the puppy while he was working. It was far from amicable.

Edit: Thanks for all the well wishes. So puppy is 6 now. She's grown up into such a sweetheart. After I moved I found a vet and told her that ex hurt her. The vet wrote up letters for the divorce and helped me get puppy to trust people again. If she doesn't like someone I trust her.

I went to therapy as well. Since then I've met someone puppy likes, and can say that I absolutely feel safe around them and trust them. Therapy is amazing if you find the right therapist.

As for my ex. It's been 3 glorious years since I've heard from him. I wish him the life he deserves.

I believe with every fiber of my being that TikTok caused my split.

My ex and I had a whole host of problems. We got married too soon and too young, and had kids too early. We each grew into different people by our 30s. She was very insecure and accused me of cheating a lot, but my time was spent exclusively at work or at home.

By the end, I was doing all of the domestic responsibilities. I agreed to this because she wanted to homeschool and that's more than a full time job. But then she would spend time on TikTok watching other women complaining about the mental load. While I provided all of the income and did everything except school and doctors appointments.

And then she told me she would rather be a single mom!

I said, "Ok," and I helped her pack her things and move back in with her parents.

She has become more and more angry with me over time. She refuses to admit how much harder her life is now. She had to get a job and her parents aren't super happy with how lazy she is with housework for someone living rent free.

Oh well. Not my problem anymore.

He was unfaithful.

The divorce was hilarious in hindsight, man got soooo petty. First he was super offended that I stated the reason for divorce was him being unfaithful - despite having admitted it to my face previously, and having moved directly from living with me to living with her, so we had to rewrite the reason as “irreconcilable differences” for his fragile ego. Also he spelled my name wrong in the filings on purpose.

But I got the last laugh, because my lawyer was amazing and got him to pay for “half” the cost of the proceedings and then just waived my fees. Something he’ll never know.

She decided to have an affair with one of the recently divorced dads at our kids' school.

Then she decided to agree to marriage counseling only to get to the 10 year anniversary point (a couple months after I found out about the affair). At our 10 year anniversary dinner she flatly stated she only agreed to counseling so that I wouldn't move out till after "today". In CA10 years means lifetime alimony. Fortunately the judge saw through such things and used the start date of marriage counseling as the end date of the marriage.


Anything but amicable. There was a 9 year long battle in court from file to final.

I won't say what, but her attorney made a mistake and nobody but me caught it. Not her, not the judge, not my attorney (would be ethically required to disclose the mistake given the type of mistake it was.) I took Napolean's very good advice of "Never interrupting your enemy while they are busy making a mistake." Again, I won't even hint about what it was, but it was very good for me.

She came out as gay it was very amicable.

It was amicable at the time because I was led to believe it was JUST about us not being on the same page regarding kids. I don't want any, she does. After the divorce was final I learned from a mutual "friend" that she'd been cheating on me for months before bringing up divorce. Haven't spoken to her since calling her out on it almost a year ago.

She went full MAGA.

Anti-vaxor, science denier, believes the FDA is actively culling large parts of the population. Once told me she had a friend that had some "interesting ideas" about flat earth "theory" that I should talk to.

Told me that my relative with stage 4 pancreatic, liver, and bone cancer could be cured by simply changing his diet.

He started a relationship with his business partner and then tried to open our relationship to move her in. Then gave her half his business without a buy in. Then I found out he’d taken like $50K out of our retirement accounts and spent all his savings without telling me. Could have still been amicable but he flipped out after we were separated and started getting really aggressive. Haven’t talked to him in years.

He was 28, I was 20. When we got married, I was 18, he was 26. When the baby arrived, I had just turned 19, he was 27.

He was sleeping around, and his mommy was covering for him. He also liked to get physical with me, even when I had the baby in my arms, and let his mommy and granny threaten me.

I finally had enough and packed up me and my baby, and left him.

It was NOT amicable. He tried to fight me on everything for a year. When he got married again, he got mad when I met my now-husband, and we got engaged, and he tried to take me to court for custody. He lost. Spectacularly. He ended up with the police removing my daughter (I will NOT refer to her as his child - you have to be involved more than being a high conflict person who thinks that you can do as you please only to hurt the other parent to be considered a co-parent) from him.

We moved to the other side of the country. Once we were away from him where he couldn’t get to us without a four day drive or a plane trip? He didn’t [care] anymore.

My daughter hasn’t spoken to him in about 13 years. She’s not likely to do so ever again. And she’s in her thirties, married, with kids of her own.

He got someone else pregnant. We'd just bought a house. This was followed by a year of stalking whilst the divorce went through. Admitted to family he'd been physically [mistreating me] during almost the entire relationship.

Far from amicable.

Was married 20 years to a wonderful asexual woman. But that time took its toll on me. I felt unwanted. I wanted to feel desired, but didn't. At her suggestion, we tried opening up our relationship. I loved it. She hated it. I realized it was best to separate. It was tough for a year, but we're very amicable now. We have a daughter together, and we co-parent really well, and sometimes the three of us hang out still!

He was cruel to me throughout our 9 year marriage. Little things would set him off and he would yell and make me feel like [garbage]. It was a constant thing. Then he got into the right wing side of politics and started spewing hate. But the last straw was a domestic violence incident at my house and having 7 cops walking around in my house. It was not amicable.

My first husband neither worked, nor did chores, no yardwork, no cooking, no money.

I did everything. It lasted 2 years. The divorce cost $150, we had nothing to split, and it was amicable. I signed 1 document, and he left. Whew.

She decided on her own she didn't want to work anymore. I didn't agree to it. She's still bitter.

His alcoholism and refusal to find a job. All of them were beneath him for some reason. I realized life wasn't going to get better with him, and I was tired of carrying the financial and emotional load. He was the only one surprised, even his family reached out to day they understood. Amicable because we had nothing to fight over (no kids either). I bought out his share of the house after he discovered no one will give you a mortgage without any souce of income.

He transitioned and we simply were not compatible anymore. We still text every day like we used to and his mother gave me a pretty good lump sum to cover the fact that I paid for the majority of rent & bills during the marriage.

Couldn’t have kids, she wanted her own kids, not adopted.

It could’ve gone better and we’re good friends now, but at the time it was a very, very bitter process. I only started talking to her again because me and her dad remained friends and she bumped into me at his place during an unannounced visit.