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From Missed Travel To Bad Habits: 29 Regrets People Have From Their 20s

From Missed Travel To Bad Habits: 29 Regrets People Have From Their 20s

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When does someone truly become an adult? In many countries, turning 18 is a turning point in the eyes of the law that unlocks all sorts of privileges. But as this Reddit post will show, many agree that we’ll continue making all sorts of dumb mistakes throughout our early and mid 20s!
The truth is that different people mature at different rates. Furthermore, the question of when you actually become an adult can really vary depending on whether you ask a lawyer, a doctor, a psychologist, or your parents! As you read this list, we invite you to reflect on your own life - when, if ever, do you think you “grew up”?

This question got people to share some of their deepest regrets and mistakes

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#1

From Missed Travel To Bad Habits: 29 Regrets People Have From Their 20s
Drank my way through my entire 20s. After 25 it wasn't really fun anymore but that didn't stop me. Drank for another 5 years. My 20s are a total blur splattered with some fun times here and there. But mostly just me running away from things with alcohol. Almost 17 years later and not one drop. My 30s and 40s are exceptionally better.
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Grand of you to think that I stopped doing dumb things after my 20s!
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#3

From Missed Travel To Bad Habits: 29 Regrets People Have From Their 20s
Moved in with a girlfriend before finding out more about her preferences. We had been dating for a year but I didn’t realize how much of a problem she had sharing until we lived together. We did for 5 years and never shared a bedroom, had everything split down the middle including the pantry and fridge, even when it came to spices she insisted on me getting my own. She hated it when I would be in the same room as her unless it was under “her terms.”Whenever I asked to make our relationship more of a shared experience I was gaslit into believing I was wrong for not allowing boundaries. She moved out a month ago and I couldn’t believe how quickly my mental health improved simply by not having that toxic influence around anymore.
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In a legal sense, adulthood is primarily a cultural question. It reflects when a society believes young people become sufficiently competent to do certain things and can vary from country to country or, in the US, even state-to-state.

#4

From Missed Travel To Bad Habits: 29 Regrets People Have From Their 20s
Not getting help for my depression sooner. Spent the entire first half of my 20s in the darkest place I can imagine, and all I needed to feel better was some meds once a day
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#5

From Missed Travel To Bad Habits: 29 Regrets People Have From Their 20s
Assumed climbing the corporate ladder is the way to do life
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#6

Let myself get overweight
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Depending on where you are in the US, people may be able to start driving at 16, 17 or 18. The US allows people to sign up for military service at 18, but only allows alcohol consumption at 21 years of age. In Europe, many countries allow alcohol and tobacco consumption at 18, but a few allow people as young as 16 to legally consume alcohol.

#7

From Missed Travel To Bad Habits: 29 Regrets People Have From Their 20s
I had good teeth for most of my life, until I fell into a very dark, depressed place in my late teens and early 20s — at which point, I didn't care about anything, including my teeth. I got the help I needed a couple of years ago and have been doing much better, mentally speaking, since then, and I've been taking care of my teeth. I do all the right things: brush twice a day, floss, avoid sugary drinks, etc., but no matter how hard I try to stay on top of them and keep them in good shape, they're continuing to get worse as I haven't been able to get the previous damage fixed due to financial reasons (dental work is expensive [very]). Moral of the story for anybody reading this: TAKE CARE OF YOUR TEETH, or you WILL regret it!
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#8

From Missed Travel To Bad Habits: 29 Regrets People Have From Their 20s
Everyone wants to hear about dumb stuff like driving eight hours to get with someone you liked only for it to end up being a [late call]. However, I personally think it was my general lack of effort to build any good habits like exercise. Your body likes routines, and my routine of gaming for 15 hours a day was not one I should have cultivated.
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#9

From Missed Travel To Bad Habits: 29 Regrets People Have From Their 20s
Not standing up for myself and let other peope walk all over me.
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The question of marriage and consent is also an important and touchy subject. While some cultures and religions around the world may embrace a younger standard for marriage or even parenthood, most of the West considers people to be fully mature at 18. This viewpoint embraces not just physiological aspects, but psychological, emotional, and legal considerations as well.

#10

From Missed Travel To Bad Habits: 29 Regrets People Have From Their 20s
Beg to be loved.
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#11

Turned 30. Should have just stayed 29. So stupid.
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#12

From Missed Travel To Bad Habits: 29 Regrets People Have From Their 20s
Whilst partying with some construction guys at my new office building one Friday night, I let them hold me by the ankles, so I could lay flat on the crenelated stone roof opening and admire their handiwork. Unfortunately, I had my purse on my arm, and my wallet fell out, unbeknownst to me. I'd just come from the store, where I'd cashed my entire paycheck. I was upset all weekend. Come Monday morning, my supervisor called me into her office. She handed me my wallet and said, "The maintenance guy spotted your wallet on the roof of the parking garage. I don't want to know how it got there, just don't ever do that again." All the cash was still inside. And I never let construction dudes dangle me from a rooftop again. Nice stonework, though.
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But what does science think? Well, most of us reach the peak of our physiological development in our early to mid 20s, and our brains stop developing by around age 25. Our capacity for logical reasoning develops at around age 16, but much of the other mental characteristics we need to successfully navigate life can appear later.

#13

From Missed Travel To Bad Habits: 29 Regrets People Have From Their 20s
Sold my body for money and allowed myself to be abused and humiliated on nearly a daily basis.
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#14

Went to Italy and forget to eat pizza
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#15

From Missed Travel To Bad Habits: 29 Regrets People Have From Their 20s
Worked way too hard and burnt out. Sacrificed family time. Sacrificed health. Need to pace yourself at the age of 20-30.
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Some like to point out that people in the past were forced to mature much faster than adults in the West are today. That may be true for people living in rural areas or subjected to pre-child-labor-law industry, but it wasn’t universal.

#16

From Missed Travel To Bad Habits: 29 Regrets People Have From Their 20s
I took powerlifting way too seriously. I spent 7 years in gyms, for hours every day, skipping every social occasion and holiday. I didn't get as strong as I wanted to. I just got all sorts of physical issues to deal with for the rest of my life now.
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Developed a drinking problem in undergrad that evolved into full-blown alcoholism in grad school. Stopped taking care of myself. Went from a 200 pound muscular 6’2” to a 300 pound slob. Got a DUI in my late 20s. Stopped drinking for a bit, then thought I could maybe drink socially again. I could not. Gained 10 more pounds. Thankfully about 2 years ago I stopped drinking, got diagnosed with ADHD and procured the meds associated with it, and am able to unwind with an edible if I need it as opposed to booze. Dropped down to 255 and am back in the gym. I can’t recover what I lost, but I can do my best to make sure it doesn’t happen again.
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#18

From Missed Travel To Bad Habits: 29 Regrets People Have From Their 20s
Not studying properly. At the time studying for 2-7 years seemed like a life time, but now at 30 I wish I had done it. Don't have the money or flexibility to do it now
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In a fascinating piece in The Atlantic, the author reminds us that famous author Henry David Thoreau published his first book at 31. Until that time, he had been quite aimless, living with parents or friends and working any job he could get his hands on.

#19

From Missed Travel To Bad Habits: 29 Regrets People Have From Their 20s
Got married, followed by the smartest thing I ever did, got divorced.
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#20

From Missed Travel To Bad Habits: 29 Regrets People Have From Their 20s
Got married to the wrong woman. Never get married to someone who isnt sure if they love you. That person is damaged and needs space.
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