As you can see from the posts, the pressure of an increasingly demanding work culture can be a huge burden on our mental health.
And while a healthy work-life balance means different things to different people, it's usually not so much about splitting your time 50/50 between career and leisure but rather making sure you feel fulfilled and content in both areas. A healthy balance might look like this:
- meeting your deadlines at work while still having time for friends and hobbies;
- having enough time to sleep properly and eat well;
- not worrying about work when you're at home.
"I used to use alcohol, junk food, television, video games – whatever I could to avoid facing the fact that I was an unhappy employee who felt caught in a rat race," career and business coach Ben Fitzgerald told Bored Panda.
"I thought a lot about work-life balance back then. In reality, I had tons of time to myself and the real reason I felt worn out was that I was faking enthusiasm for the work I was doing. The performance of it all was exhausting."
"If you feel like you need more work-life balance and you're not putting in 10+ hours a day, it might be a sign you need to take responsibility for defining what you enjoy, what you don't enjoy, and then make significant changes to how you spend your time," Fitzgerald explained.
There are plenty of people who glorify the grind; it can be tempting and even easy to normalize long hours at the office or being under a toxic boss, facing an extreme amount of stress, especially if you've been doing it for a long time or all your colleagues are in the same boat. Our assumptions and habits around work can become deep-rooted unless we take a step back once in a while.
Plus, it can be hard to make changes: if you're on a zero-hours contract you might not feel comfortable speaking up, for example, or you might need to put in extra hours to earn enough money to pay your bills. But for those who can do something about their predicament, recent research suggests regularly checking your work-life balance.
Pause and ask yourself questions like: what's currently causing me stress or unhappiness? How is that affecting my work and personal life? What am I prioritizing? What am I losing out on? Be honest with yourself. We often don't take the time to reflect on work until something major happens to us, like the birth of a child or the loss of someone close to us. But just pausing and thinking about your priorities and values can help you discover whether the way you’re living and working fits you.
Acknowledge your feelings. Now that you're more aware of your current situation, how does it make you feel? Are you fulfilled and happy, or sad, angry, and resentful? Being aware of your feelings can help you decide which changes you want to make.
Reprioritize. Think about what you need to change. For example, you might want to ask yourself if working long hours is worth losing out on family time, or whether working weekends is worth sacrificing your hobbies.
Consider the alternatives. Is there anything at work you can change to meet your (new) wishes and goals?
Finally, make changes. Whether it's asking for flexible hours, being allowed to use all of your annual leave, or disconnecting from your corporate email at the weekend, chase what's important to you.
Ben Fitzgerald said there's a lot to gain from realigning your work to your personal and professional development goals. This introduces challenges, activates your curiosity, and shifts the focus to one of personal responsibility - instead of working in service of someone else's vision you're working in service of your own. Just a simple tweak in mindset can work wonders.
"Devoting your time and attention in service of someone else without any expectation of reciprocation is a great way to feel more purposeful and fulfilled," Fitzgerald explained. "Try adopting this mentality with your manager in mind and see what happens."
There's a huge difference between living to work and working so that we can live.
