30 Green Flags You Should Look For In New Relationships, As Shared By People In This Online Thread

Bored Panda wanted to get dating expert Dan's opinion on some of the green flags to look for early in a relationship. For starters, here are some of the signs that indicate things are on the right track if you're a guy who is going out with a woman: "She treats you well, loves you, cares about you, and is interested in your life. You don’t secretly think about leaving her for another woman," the expert told us what people should look for when taking an honest look at their partners, as well as themselves.

"She is your type physically and emotionally. Sometimes a guy isn't physically attracted to a woman, but she eventually grows on him due to them spending time together (e.g. coworkers, friends, talking for hours at a bar). In cases like that, his attraction for her will fade away in the relationship and it will end up feeling more like a friendship. Many guys get dumped in a relationship like that when the woman eventually tires of not feeling loved and wanted the way she wants to be," he said.

Something else that's important is that your partner loves you the way you are. However, it's also vital that they inspire you to be a better version of yourself because of them. "When a man finds a woman that he is sincerely attracted to, she will often bring out the best in him and if he approaches the relationship correctly, he will also bring out the best in her. They will become better people because of the relationship and their life will improve greatly over time."

Meanwhile, the dating expert explained to Bored Panda what the green flags are that women look for in a man. A quality guy is someone who has honesty and integrity, is respectful and considerate, and is confident as well as determined. The cherry on top is that the guy is fun to be around.

Some of the things that should make your inner alarm bells go off include your partner not really caring much about you or your life. What's more, Dan stressed that some other red flags include habitual dishonesty, being less happy than you were before you met your partner, feeling a sense of awkwardness when you're around them, and lacking a spark between you two.

He added that people should be honest about themselves when it comes to their partners. A vivid relationship red flag is when your partner is "not really your type and you’re just with them for now, or for something to do." He said: "As a result, you likely won’t feel motivated to put in the effort required to make a relationship work in the long run."

Open and honest communication lies at the core of any good romantic relationship, as do boundaries. Both partners need to respect one another and be genuine in their affection. Believe it or not, relationships are a lot of hard work: things don’t simply fall into place without putting in the effort.

Relationship and self-love coach Alex Scot explained to Bored Panda during a previous interview that transparency is vital for the long-term health of relationships.

"If it can affect your partner or family, there absolutely should be transparency. Whenever in doubt, put yourself in the other person’s shoes and ask yourself what you would like if you were in their situation," Alex said.

"If it wouldn’t impact them, then you have the option of keeping it to yourself. The difference between privacy and secrecy is that secrecy has a sense of shame, guilt, or knowing that your partner or family member wouldn’t be ok with whatever took place,” the relationship expert pointed out to us that this is how you can gauge if you should be honest or not.

According to Alex, rebuilding lost trust is “always a challenge” in relationships. Once it’s been broken, it will take time and effort to rebuild it.

"For smaller offenses, it will take less time, but for larger offenses, be prepared to be overly transparent for a time and hire a therapist or coach to walk you through the process. Trust takes consistency to rebuild and consistency equals effort over time,” she explained.