#1

It's been a week now, I haven't been able to have a good shower and I'm on my period so I feel absolutely disgusting; the kitchen is useless because of the boiler and the fire and I'm supposed to be at a really important thesis meeting over the next two days but my landlord just called and said the plumber won't be able to make it until next week.
Called my husband, we're moving out.
UPDATE: Ok, I've gotten a lot of messages about an update, but I couldn't give one earlier because of the ongoing investigation, and subsequent adjudication, we were advised by our solicitor not to say anything.
My husband and I moved out; we found a lovely flat, overlooking a large park, and with an office for when we decide to work from home, so we're quite happy about the move.
When we moved out we made an application to get a refund on our security deposit; in Scotland the security deposit on a flat has to be held by a neutral 3rd party, who then decides how the deposit is divided when the tenants move out, this has been the law since before we moved into this flat. When we were making the application we quickly discovered that, not only had the landlord not put our security deposit into the 3rd party holding account, he actually wasn't even a registered private landlord, and hadn't put into place any of the safety precautions/requirements of a private landlord in our flat.
We took all of our evidence to the charity 'Shelter Scotland', they advised us to make a complaint to the 'Private Rented Housing Panel', or PRPH who are meant to oversee all investigations into private landlords, however we were told that they wouldn't be able to help us recoup any of our losses, and that we would have to pursue that with our own solicitor.
We contacted a solicitor (luckily my husbands father is actually a properties solicitor, so he was able to recommend a great guy), who helped us build a case to have our rent and our security deposit returned to us; (we were lucky/smart and had a 3rd party surveyor come and investigate and document the damage in the flat before we moved in years ago, and again as we were moving out). It was pretty much an open and shut case, didn't have to go to court or anything; adjudication only takes a short time as well so it was quite quick. The adjudicator pretty much sided with us on everything, and the landlord has been ordered to pay back our deposit + rent for the period that the flat was considered uninhabitable; which was basically determined to be the entire time we were living there because of a few problems with the flat and the fact that the landlord wasn't registered.
After about 2 months of fighting, we've gotten a huge pay off which has gone straight into a savings account so that we can buy our own place and never have to deal with s**t landlords again.
#2

The next day at work, I get a meeting invite for what I expected to be an exit interview. I walk in, and HR and the corporate lawyer are there. The lawyer demands to know where I'm going to work, and starts shouting threats to ruin me with legal action for violating the non-compete agreement (I wasn't).
At that point, F**k a smooth transition--I spent the next 2 weeks taking 3 hour lunches, chatting with friends in the halls and doing ZERO work.
#3

Boundaries are everything. They’re fundamental in every aspect of your life if you want to be happy and healthy. If you don’t have any boundaries or lack the will to enforce them when someone ignores them, then you’re basically putting your wants and needs on the back burner. The result is that someone else takes advantage of you and profits (financially, emotionally, or otherwise) at your expense.
And, to be very blunt, that’s no way to go through life. Yes, life is often unfair, but you’re in the driver’s seat. You’re responsible for working toward a better, brighter future for you and your loved ones, even if not all of your efforts will give you the results you want.
#4

#5

He informed me of the exact evening he was going on a date with some new girl and that he'd let me know by the end of the week if we were back on.
Amusingly he got offended when I told him I felt disrespected.
The idea of a healthy adult relationship with this man is futile. Feels so good to be done with him.
#6

The key is to figure out where the line lies between a truly toxic situation that’s actively harming you and one that’s merely challenging and has the potential to teach you valuable life lessons and toughen you up. A good rule of thumb to follow is that if your physical, mental, and emotional health are suffering every single day, you need to change something. A bit of stress can be healthy and energizing. Too much chronic stress, however, and you crumble. It can increase the risk of health problems, burnout, poor sleep, headaches, digestive problems, a weakened immune system, and low self-esteem.
Verywell Mind suggests that you consider quitting your job if there’s a lack of growth opportunities, you’re unmotivated, your mental and emotional well-being is suffering, and you’re stuck in a toxic work environment. Your inner alarms should also go off if your boss asks you to behave unethically, in a way that goes against your personal values or the law.
“Some jobs can be admittedly stressful for various reasons. Feeling constantly on edge, being filled with dread before heading to work, and coming home utterly exhausted each night are not just 'part of the job.' It's a sign that something needs to change,” Verywell Mind urges.
#7

I had vacation approved and planned for a while. Hotel was paid for, and the day before I was supposed to leave she tells me she changed the schedule and put me on a double in the middle of the week, I will also be fired if I take my vacation.
F**k it, I'm done.
#8

#9

My family and I arrived at Drum in mid-October and there was about 2 feet of snow on the ground. That's pretty normal for that area. As the next few months progressed, I got used to shoveling pretty hefty overnight snowfalls in order to get to work the next day. It was not a big deal.
One day in particular though, a blast of Arctic air descended on the region and sent temperatures down to -22F. We got an early morning phone call from our leadership saying to report to physical fitness training as normal. So, we went out that morning with snow everywhere and a wind chill of -44F and ran for 4 miles.
I told my supervisor that I'm retiring in the next six months and would fill out the paperwork over the weekend. He laughed at me and didn't take it serious.
That packet was completely filled out and on his desk at 0530 that Monday.
F**k it. I'm done.
EDIT: I realize that it's actually against Army policy to have outdoor PT at temperatures below -20F. The senior leader that made the decision to hold the run gave no f***s and said as much. None of the other senior NCO's said a d**n thing in protest either at the time or afterwards. This type of BS is one of the myriad other reasons I said, "F**k it. I'm done.".
A few of the main signs that your job may be toxic include things like:
- Dreading going to the office
- Constant negativity
- Worrying about backstabbing coworkers
- Overly critical bosses
- Unrealistic demands and deadlines
- Lack of trust
- Gossip culture
- Sabotaging colleagues
#10

Yeap f**kthisville.
#11

#12

One day, the mom was late to get me and drop me off at work. She came in with me bc she knew i was scared of this girl and would get yelled at. She went up and apologized for me, said it was completely her fault, I nanny her kids, she got stuck in traffic, it wont happen again, but please dont take it out on me. This girl loses her mind!! she calls the mom a b***h to her face told her to F off and went on some rant that i dont remember because i was in utter shock lol The mom looked at me and said "you done here? I think you're done here." Turns to this crazy girl and goes "you are the rudest person ive ever met. I'm sorry for how insecure you must be to act like this. She quits!" She grabbed my arm and we stormed out! I was SHOCKED and horrified... at the time I thought she had ruined my career lol by quitting my first job for me. Looking back i think its hysterical and wish I had a recording of it.
Meanwhile, when it comes to toxic people, you should be suspicious of ‘friends’ who are:
- Always selfish
- Highly critical
- Overly competitive
- Manipulative
- Untrustworthy
- Drain you instead of empowering you
- Unreliable
- Prone to spreading drama
- Narcissistic
- Isolate you from the other people in your life
#13

#14

Over a long holiday weekend, I was working - alone - for a full day shift. I had a list of tasks to complete, several of which I'd done before, which my supervisor figured would take me all day. I was being paid time-and-a-half since it was a holiday, and the store's owners were very conscious of this.
I managed to get everything done by mid-day, and proceeded to do more busywork. Stacking, folding, taking out garbage, inventory, labeling, everything I could imagine would be useful.
My next shift was the following weekend. When I arrived, the owners asked to speak with me in the office. I came in, and one of the owners asked me to sit. He was a very short, fat, Italian chap who had a reputation for power trips. The chair was on its lowest seating position. I was berated for being lazy on my last shift. Apparently one of the other supervisors caught me reading papers (my list of tasks) and standing around (labeling) or simply sweeping (cleaning), instead of "doing any real work". The owner railed on me, telling me this was unacceptable. His speech ended with a typical "this is not the kind of attitude you should have if you want to keep working here."
F**k this, I thought. Then it came to me in a flash. The words I'd wanted to utter throughout his tirade. And so I said it: "Well, I don't anymore."
The owner's eyes bugged out. He ordered me to repeat myself. I did, and said I'd have my two weeks' notice in by the end of my shift. He told me to leave, now. I got up, stood in front of him and smiled, handed him my passkey, and strolled out to the parking lot. The drive home that day was one of the sweetest feelings I've ever experienced in my entire life.
#15

What is the biggest ‘eff it, I’m done’ moment that you’ve ever had in your lives, Pandas?
What was the final straw? What made you snap? What did you do, how did you take back control of your life, and what was the fallout like?
If you feel like you’d like to share a bit from your past, you can do so in the comments at the bottom of this post.
#16

Accepted another job offer 2 days later, haven't looked back since.
EDIT: She owned the company, so there was no "going to her superiors." Also, justice/karma...another employee quit the same day as I did. It was a small company and almost put her out of business. Hopefully it was a wakeup call?
#17

#18

And I was reprimanded!
The director got a nice report after that, and he was fired two weeks later.
#19

#20

Safe to say we didn't get back together.


