"What Are Examples Of 'Being Picked Last In Gym Class' As An Adult?" (37 Responses)

A few days ago, a thread appeared in the AskReddit community, which now has over 8.8K upvotes and around 3.1K various comments. It has stories, memories and discussions. The question, "What are examples of ‘being picked last in gym class’ as an adult?" from user u/Infamous-Echo-3949 in fact turned out to be truly important for netizens and worthy of their close attention. And for us, of course, too.

Of course, in the era of the Internet and social networks, these feelings have changed significantly. Now, while we often replace live human communication with numerous chats and video calls, and you can work and live a full life without even leaving your apartment, various awkward moments associated with direct communication, of course, go away.

But, as they say, a holy place is never empty, and new situations appear. When, for example, you wrote to someone in a messenger a long time ago, the message is marked as read, and the person is online—but there is no reaction from them. Offended? That's the word!

There are also situations when people whom you sincerely considered to be your friends, or at least good acquaintances, go on a picnic somewhere out of town en masse—and they don't even bother to invite you, let alone inform you about it. It happens when you sadly realize that in fact you were needed by people only because of some of your qualities—professional or financial.

"In fact, friendship in adulthood is not only selfless communication, it's also a choice of a person based on some qualities useful to you," says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, with whom Bored Panda got in touch for a comment here. "In the end, if you are interested in communicating with someone—this is also a useful quality, isn't it?

"Trust, loyalty and fidelity are incredibly important in adolescence—you can have a huge social circle, in real life and online, but only a few people will be of real importance to you. And if there are no such people, then in adulthood it's a serious problem anyway."

"The skills of adaptation to new people are actually an incredibly useful thing at any age, and in any case, getting attached to one or several people throughout your entire life, disappearing into them, is not always very good.

"Because, for example, these friendly feelings may not be mutual. In any case, you shouldn't withdraw into yourself if there's an opportunity to find a new social circle, new people who will be important to you," Irina sums up.

By the way, some experts advise analyzing yourself in such situations—maybe it's our communication features, or the underestimation or overestimation of ourselves that prevent us from making friends? In the end, understanding yourself is always a universal tool that helps in most cases. Because the most important person for us, and the person who will always be with us, is actually ourselves.

Well, we sincerely hope there will be as few unpleasant situations and stories like these in your life as possible, but if they ever did take place, we would also highly appreciate you telling these tales in the comments below this list. In the end, maybe in the discussion of these comments you will find yourself a new friend, who knows?