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"The key to becoming more secure is to change the underlying belief 'I'm not enough' to 'I'm enough.’ "The way to do it is with self-compassion,” Silva advocates for an acceptance of one’s own flaws until we fully internalize that we are good enough. That, in turn, leads us to treat other people better.

Insecurities, according to the psychotherapist, often show up in childhood. They entrench themselves in our character as we grow. But, as we mature into adults, we also gain access to the self-awareness and tools to change these underlying negative beliefs.

"Perhaps parents didn't praise children enough, or they paid more attention to the mistakes rather than the successes. As an adult now, people can give themselves a hug once in a while and tell themselves, gently: 'you're doing good,' 'well done,' 'congratulations.' Eventually, the brain will listen and slowly change the message 'I'm not enough' to 'I'm enough,'" he said.

"Rather than shouting your praise at other people, it is about speaking to yourself in a loving way. When people are genuinely aware of their successes, they can become genuinely more confident without the need to impose their power onto others."