Probably many of us have dreamt from our teen years to have a love story and live happily ever after as we have seen in films. However, as we grow a bit older, we understand that such perfect love stories that we always saw on TV don’t really exist. And to keep a relationship healthy and long-lasting, it requires a lot of effort from both of the partners.
However, sometimes it may seem that we have finally met the person with whom we are going to spend the rest of our lives. But well - all it takes is for them to do something that makes us immediately realize that this person is in fact, not “the one” for us.
If you enjoy stories on why somebody broke up - buckle up! One Reddit user started a thread online asking folks to share things that happened and led them to realize that their partner, in fact, is not their person after all.
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#21
When I celebrated their growth but they were angry at mine.
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65points
#22
She was away for college when suddenly she stopped responding to my calls and texts. Turns out she got pregnant by someone else. I was with her for 5 years.
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64points
#23
When I asked why she showed me no respect at all in private and in front of others and she said “oh like me respecting you is so important”
I saw her as a completely different person from then on.
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63points
#24
When I realized the idea of marrying him one day secretly disappointed me.
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62points
#25
When he couldn't even name ONE thing that he liked about me after 4 years of him constantly asking reassurance from my end. Don't know how I stayed for so long in the relationship constantly begging for him to actually like me even when we were together.
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59points
#26
She hated when I wasn’t with her, and she wasn’t happy when I was.
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55points
#27
When he “jokingly” threatened to cheat because I hadn’t given him any in a while due issues we were having. Finally realized I didn’t love him like I told myself I did, I just held on to the fact he was my nostalgic love from middle school/high school.
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55points
#28
Years, decades, too late.
She wanted a goat that would live in the house with us. One that would go hiking with us & graze. I was vehemently against this idea. We still hadn't recovered from all the chicken s**t in the spare bedroom.
The goat she brought home was crippled. It would never graze. It would need to be hand fed for its entire life. She tried to bargain with me using [intercourse].
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49points
#29
She thought that the way to fix our problems was to separate temporarily. She ended up pregnant by another dude within a month.
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49points
#30
Saved my money for 6 months to buy her a ring to propose when we were about 21ish... proposed, got laughed at and told by her, that she had been cheating on me for the past year. That hurt.
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48points
#31
Well it was about that time that I noticed that the she was about 8 stories tall and a crustacean from the protozoic era. .
43points
#32
When I finally realized that she wasn't and never could be the person who I wanted her to be.
Love a person for who they are in the moment as they truly are, not for what you think they may become.
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42points
#33
I don't know. I think I knew for years, but I was still holding onto the thought that you don't just *find* a happy relationship, you need to *built* one. Was kinda oblivious to the fact that you need both partners to do the building though.
What really struck me was that I was talking to a therapist once. I was seeing them for having far too much stress - which I now realize was mostly due to my wife - and when the troubles of my marriage became the topic for just a moment, the woman tried to cheer my up by suggesting that this was most likely a mere rough patch.
Sure, we had issued, but they were mostly external burdens that were very taxing to work through. So I should not loose hope and hold onto the things I loved about my wife, and the reasons for why I had married her.
I nodded "yeah" and put on a weary but brave smile like you are supposed to in that moment, but in my mind I realized there weren't any.
There weren't any.
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41points
#34
When she saw no issue with the fact that she would be texting her ex husband (now current husband if that makes things clear) giving him emotional support particularly when we were watching tv together or driving to a restaurant for date night. Her excuse, "I still consider him my best friend (she may have said one of my best friends) and I dont think there is anything wrong with talking to a friend." 5 years later we divorced and she remarried him 9 months after that.
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40points
#36
When I got an STD after 12 years of marriage and was faithful to her the entire time.
It went away after a week of antibiotics.
But I became a different person that day.
Don’t know if I like who I am now.
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28points
