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"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act

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Suspecting that your significant other is unfaithful to you is hurtful enough. It’s a whole other level of hurt to walk in on them physically cheating on you. That kind of experience is so devastating that it might still haunt your relationships years down the line.
Today, we’re featuring an extremely honest and brutal AskReddit thread where folks opened up about how they caught their partners red-handed. Keep scrolling to find out what happened. Who needs soap operas when you have real life?

#1

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
I was 16 years old and had been with my boyfriend for 6 months. He was my world. I was typically 16, madly in love and of course i thought we would be h**h school sweethearts forever and ever. He was 17 about to turn 18.

So we go to a girls 16th birthday party and we're all having a good time. I've never been a drinker, so I'm hanging out looking after my drunk girlfriends. I can't find my dude, so I go with my best friend looking for him.

Open the door of the bedroom of the girl who's party it was, to find them f*****g. Of course. They didn't notice us. Walk into another room with my best friend and discuss this issue.

I decided to go for the metaphorical jugular. I went and found her dad. He burst in the door, saw exactly what I did and lost his s**t. My then ex boyfriend got a hit to the head and was literally thrown out in his underwear. The party was over after that, everyone had to leave, she wasn't allowed to see him anymore and wasn't allowed to go to parties for months afterwards.

I dumped him the next day (he'd taken off after being thrown out) and of course, he blamed me for the trouble he was in because I told her dad, who got hold of his conservative Christian mother, who grounded him too.

I was on cloud nine knowing I'd caused the both of them so much misery.
54points

In a piece in Psychology Today, psychologist Mark Travers, PhD, explains that, based on a recent study, cheaters have been found to use over 53 different strategies to hide their infidelity. Up to 70% of unfaithful individuals use 7+ of them at the same time.

Some of the most common strategies that people use to hide affairs include things like:

  1. Showing you more interest than usual and being more affectionate
  2. Deleting digital evidence of the infidelity, including messages, emails, and call logs
  3. Having a burner phone or email account to hide their online infidelity
  4. Using passwords to keep their online activities hidden
  5. Being discreet in meeting their affair partners in a very calculated way

#2

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
I'll try to keep it short: They were sleeping as I got home in the morning after working all night. I grabbed a guitar, sat on the edge of the bed, and played a really bad country song that I made up on the spot. She was yelling at me. I'm just singing at the end of the bed really badly and loudly. He had the cover over his head probably wondering if I was going to hit him over the head with the guitar.
52points

#3

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
S**t this just happened to me not even 2hrs ago. So it was her birthday tonight and she was having a get together with a couple of friends. When I get there she is messing around with this guy like nothing. Just f*****g touching, holding, and kissing each other like they are a couple. I can tell she is drunk out of her mind, but that is and never will be a valid excuse for cheating. We had only been dating for a couple of weeks, but god d**n does it still sting. I had even gotten her a cool little necklace she had seen at a store we used to frequent. I just f*****g left I don't even know if she saw me or not, but I could give two f***s. A person like that is not worth wasting my energy on getting mad for or my time on. So yeah I have not had a good night, but this thread has really helped me vent, even if only one person reads it. Thank you.
36points

Other common ways that cheaters try to hide their infidelity, according to Travers, are the following:

  1. Trying to ‘disguise’ their affair partners as new friends or coworkers
  2. Keeping the affairs brief to minimize the risk of being found out
  3. Creating the appearance of being invested in your relationship
  4. Using friends as alibis in order to cover up absences
  5. Appearing calm and collected in order to avoid raising suspicion
  6. Acting in a way that seems ‘normal,’ including sticking to routines and usual behaviors

A good rule of thumb to keep in mind is to analyze your partner’s recent behavior. Drastic changes in their behavior, routine, and communication can indicate that they’re being unfaithful to you. (That being said, these changes can also be brought about by other things, like major stress at work or other issues.)

#4

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
My boyfriend and I were hanging out at our apartment and some girl came over. He'd met her on craigslist looking for a friend. A bit weird, but okay. Talked to her a bit, then went to bed. I THOUGHT I heard her leave not long after that.

At 4:20 am, the cats came in b******g about something and woke me up. I figured, what the h**l, I'm kinda thirsty, so I got up and went to the kitchen to get some water.

They were in the front room kissing. In disbelief and shock (we'd been together nearly 5 years!) I made a racket getting a drink of water. They quickly separated and pretended they'd been talking.

I went back to the bedroom, and waited a few minutes. Should I confront him? How?

A few minutes passed, and she didn't leave. So I confronted him.

"It's 4 in the morning." I said.

"Oh, she doesn't have a car and the busses aren't running."

"So you can drive her home then."

"I'm to drunk to drive. See? Are my eyes shut? Everything is fuzzy. I just can't tell." And he sat there, looking at me with his eyes wide open.

"It sure didn't look fuzzy to me when I saw you kissing her." I said.

I wanted to scream at him, but his kid from an ex was visiting and was sleeping on the couch.

"She'll go home when the buses run again." He said.

I went to the bedroom and cried for a bit. Then I called my mother and told her I was moving back home.

After a while he came back in and asked if he could sleep in the bed. Since it was either that or out front with the w***e I said yes.

I moved my stuff into my car while he was sleeping.

When he woke up, he asked if I was leaving. "Take her home and we'll talk about it." I said.

"If you're leaving why haven't you packed up your stuff?"

"I have! But I can't get to the xbox when SHE'S sleeping in front of it!"

"So I'll move her to the bed."

"EXCUSE ME?"

"You're leaving... so why should she?"

And so then I had to spend several hours in her company being civil because his kid woke up, and move out while she was there.

What was worse was the whole time I was moving out he was so paranoid that I would take something that was his. "Are those my pills?" "No! They're mine!"

"Hold on! What game is that?" "It's the game I PAID FOR." "But you bought it for me!" "I did not! I bought it and you started playing it!"

Ugh. This was only a month or so ago. I'm still in the process of getting my name off the lease.

I know this will never get read, but it feels good to vent.

tl;dr; boyfriend cheats on me with a craigslist w***e while I sleep in another room. I have to move out with her there because he has utterly no respect for me even after 5 years.
36points

#5

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
This is about my buddies gf. So I went to my buddy daves house one night and thought he was home from work and as I was walking up to his house I seen his gf on her knees in front of some guy standing there with his pants down so I hid behind the bush next to there front window to get a better look but unfortunately I couldnt get a good view of the both of them. So I called my buddy dave and was like "Dude your gf is blowing some guy in your house" and he flipped out like any normal guy would do, so he's heading home and I got in my car and met him at the end of his street and and followed him up his driveway, and its only been 5 minutes since I called him so we both get out of our cars creeped up to the window....so this time his gf is bent over with her head to his d**k now with both hands in the general area...but we both happen to look at the dudes face and it looks like hes f*****g crying and me and dave look at each other like WTF...so dave gets up bust in the house and says what the f**k are you doing and walks closer...end then it all unfolds he gets a better look and finds out this guy is her real close GAY friend and he zipped his d**k in his pants zipper in the bathroom and it was like bleeding and s**t and he asked her to try and get his d**k free while screaming and crying. I went outside with my buddy and we both laughed our asses off.
35points

#6

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
Few years back I lived with a buddy in a large apartment and we always had parties. I was flying back from Florida and wound up getting home when the party was "winding down". Everyone was under blankets on the living room floor. Saw my "buddy" with what was obviously a figure halfway down his sleeping bag doing SOMETHING to him. He gave me a wide-eyed look and I c*****d a smile at him until my girlfriend of two year's head popped out from the sleeping bag. I was in shock for a few seconds, and Tyler went to talk. I cut him off and said "you can keep her". Drove across town to my moms that night, dun cried like a b***h too.
28points

As per Choosing Therapy, some of the most common signs of cheating to look out for include things like your partner suddenly having drastic changes in mood and behavior, and them appearing extremely stressed all the time.

What’s more, cheaters tend to switch up their routines massively, begin acting secretive, change how they communicate with you, and are either more or less intimate with you. It’s also very suspicious if they suddenly disappear and can’t be reached.

#7

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
Came home early from my 2nd job to spend time with her and our infant son. I noticed an extra pair of shoes in the entryway so I creeped in and up the stairs. I hit a creaky one and I hear them both jump up and she meets me at the door zipping up a sweater, her pants still unbuttoned. He is still putting his pants on as I look into the room and start yelling. She pushed at me to go downstairs so we could argue somewhere other than outside our sleeping sons room and once we are in the living room I started yelling harder than I ever had before.

I don't remember what I said, I kinda blanked it, but I'm sure I referenced how we were engaged and he was my best man and them trying to calm me down. I stormed out of the house and walked up the street to where his wife (her maid of honor) was working and calmly asked her to come outside to talk. I told her what happened and left her to deal with him as she saw fit. I then called up a buddy of mine and told him to meet me at the bar so I could get drunk but not alone.
26points

#8

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
I got married far too young and for all the wrong reasons (tip for all men: jack off before making any important decisions) - we immediately went into a troubled marriage phase.

I was working long hours to make up for the loss of what little income she was making when she quit her job to play online games all day. What little time we spent together we spent fighting or ignoring each other.

A couple of months later, things are...better. Not good, but better. I decide to knock off work early to take her out on a "date" - I open the door and hear the unmistakable sound of my wife being f****d.

I walk into the bedroom and see some dude f*****g my wife and going at it good, so I just lean on the door and watch for a minute, then finally I clear my throat and panic ensues. He grabs his clothes off the floor and BOLTS out the window and runs bare added to the car parked in my neighbors driveway. My now ex wife starts crying and begging and pleasing. I just say "I'm going to my best friends house for a few days, be gone when I get back"

She decided she doesn't want to have an amicable, uncontested divorce. What she doesn't know is the dude that f****d her called me like two weeks later, wanton to meet and talk. He told me she had been flirting with a bunch of dudes in chat rooms, and was pretending she was single, which is why he was there. I asked him if he'd testify to that under oath, and he said he would.

When she saw him in court, her face went white and she immediately started talking to her lawyer. After the guy testified, the judge gave her a "you're such a w***e" look and awarded me an annulment. Haven't spoken to her since.
25points

#9

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
In college, wearing a suit and on my way to a job interview on campus. I walked by my girlfriend's house and used my key to let myself in. I had had a drink with her the night before at a bar with her friends, and knew something bad was going to happen, I could just feel it. I let myself in, walked upstairs, and found her sleeping naked in bed with a guy from the bar. I started hitting him in the face, he woke up and we tussled for a second then I demanded he get out. he got his things together and left. She followed me down the street back to my house in her pajamas crying, and I just locked her out. Then I walked straight to my interview and crushed it. Still working here 2 years later.

EDIT: It was a college bar, the guy went to school with us and knew we were dating.

TL;DR: fought a naked guy while I was wearing a suit on the way to my job interview.
24points

Cheaters also start lying about how they spend their time and money, might always appear to be busy, are less interested and less romantic with you, and gaslight you. Some unfaithful people feel so guilty that they actually accuse their partners of being the ones who are lying and cheating on them.

And it’s not a good sign if they’re overprotective of their electronic devices or constantly complain about you or compare you to others.

#10

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
Found them on the floor of her office... physically picked him up and threw him off of her.

Asked her if she wanted a divorce? she said "yes", and that she "loved me but was not in love with me".

Sat there in disbelief for 15 minutes before I went home, packed up the kids and went to a hotel.
21points

#11

Was going out with girlfriends after work. Got off early and ran home to change. I thought it was odd my husband was asleep so early. Crept in the bedroom with the light off to change. Sat on the bed and he started saying I need to go wait in the living room. I was not catching on at all. He had to explain he had someone one in the bed with him. I left, got very drunk, then terribly sad. Went home second night because we'd been together since I was 15 and I was confused.

I walk in day two and hear the bed springs squeaking. The first night I was calm and kind of laughed about how ridiculous it was. Day two. ...not so much. That chick stayed in my bed for three hours while my husband and I argued and I broke everything I could get my hands on.

I sent her a Christmas card at her parents house for several years that said, "ho, ho, ho." Now I know she did me a favor. Any woman who can take my man can have him.
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21points

#12

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
Not red handed, but I was working one night while my roommate was throwing a party. A buddy picked me up after my shift and told me we needed to talk... takes me to the pool hall, pulls off buying us a couple of beers even though we were underage, and tells me my girlfriend was cheating on me at the party... in my bed.

When I get there the part is over, everyone is gone, and she's drunk in my bed. I wake her up and tell her I already know what happebed, and she's freaking out. I tell her to calm down, that I'm not going to blow up on her,but we need to talk.

We end up having an hour long conversation about her drinking, her life choices, her promiscuity before we were a couple. She says that this is rock bottom for her, and she's ready to sober up and lead a grown up life. I commended her for the first honest assessment of herself I've ever heard her speak and tell her I can't wait to see her get back to being the kickass girl she was when we were in h**h school together. And then she leans in for a kiss.

I back up, and right into her open mouth say "whoa, that doesn't mean we're not over after this though."

She freaks, and I tell her to sleep it off on the couch because I didn't want her driving home like this, give her keys to my roommate, and take off for the night. It's twelve years later now... I'm married to the girl of my dreams with two kids and a big house with a pool, so despite my heartbreak it all worked out for me. I hear she's got several kids herself, but is doing alright with husband number two.

Still felt great when, last year, a mutual friend told me that she still talks about that night being her wakeup call, and that losing me was the worst mistake she ever made.
20points

Has anyone ever cheated on you, dear Pandas? Have you ever caught your partner being intimate with someone else? Were there any overt or subtle warning signs that something wasn’t quite right with your relationship?

If you feel like you’d like to share your experiences with the other readers, feel free to open up in the comments at the very bottom of this post.

#13

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
I now a guy who was on his way to his mother's funeral, realized he forgot his wallet, and stopped back home, to find his wife in bed with another man..

That's a rough day.
20points

#14

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
I once missed out on a party at my friends house that my girlfriend was was at. We had the same friends. D**n homework. Anyway, I just had the feeling things were going on since she wouldn't text back or answer her phone. Then my phone goes off and its my buddy. Turns out its a video of my ex in the bedroom with some guy. My buddy c*****d the door and got like a full 15 seconds of it without her knowing.Her excuse was that it wasn't her. She cried when I sent her the video of herself.
19points

#15

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
Went to a party with my girlfriend. She was doing her own thing with her friends and I was just drinking with mine having a good time. Later in the night I went looking for her and couldn't find her. Oh well, it was a bigger house. Went into one of the bathrooms and saw her blowing some random dude in the shower. My first reaction was to punch him but instead, I just laughed and walked out. She ran after me and tried to apologize. I just ignored her out the door and my sober buddy drove me home. We were her ride, but f**k it at that point. I haven't said a word to her since, almost 2 years ago.

Edit: Glad alot of people agreed with my decision, as I think it really was the best course of action. I didn't even know the guy and I'm positive he didn't know me. The look on his face was priceless and the sound of her saying "oh f**k" with a d**k in her mouth was even better. When I told my friends what I saw that's when I got driven home. I wonder if she went back to finish? Probably did, w***e.
18points

#16

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
I saw my (then) girlfriend on the street with some guy. They were physically comfortable, holding hands, butt touching, etc. After a while I decided to confront her. She tells me he's only her cousin. Turns out he was actually her cousin.
18points

#17

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
I found my exboyfriend in the same bed with my ex-best friend. I was suppose to be at work, but they said they needed to cut hours and let me go home early. Wanting to surprise my boyfriend, I stopped at his house with some tacos and beer. I noticed my best friend's car in the parking lot, but I didn't really think much of it because they were friends and we all hung out from time to time.

He had given me a key to his house a week earlier, with the instructions to just "stop by and let myself in." So that's exactly what I did. Found them on his bed in the living room (yeah, he was weird, kept his bed in the living room), naked, sweaty and clearly just finished s**y times.

I f***k and yell. He says they had gotten drunk the night before and rather than drive home, she crashed there. Would have been cool, if it weren't for the fact both were BUTT A*S NAKED! I looked at her, told her we had been friends since 7th grade, and that I deserved the truth. She said they f****d and had been f*****g for several months at that point.

I threw the tacos and beer at my ex-boyfriend, grabbed a garbage bag and packed up whatever c**p I had left at his house before. I hadn't spoken to him since then.

I decided to forgive my friend. We had been best friends for far too long, but then I found out she was f*****g with my next boyfriend, and I wrote her off as a slutty w******g. She still tries to talk to me occasionally, but I tell her to f**k off every time.
18points

#18

I caught him cheating, but not red-handed. I had known something was up for a while and collected my proof. I confronted him and got a little crazy... We had been together 6 years. Common law marriage in other states. The girl was about 18 where he was 27.She lived up north and they communicated through text and phone (he said it was his cousin), and a fake Facebook he made up. Anywho. He's an unemployed b*m battling a*******n at this time, so I decide to live with my sister and let him run out the lease on our apartment which I paid for. I needed something from the apt one day and headed over. The chain is on the door and he won't let me in. She's there. Living. My apartment. Sleeping in my bed. Petting my g*****n cats. I lose my s**t a little and call the cops. His name is on the lease, too, so they can't help me.
A few days passed. I asked my sister to come with me. I'm getting my stuff. I went in the early afternoon. They're both lazy f***s, so I assumed they were asleep. I opened the door, chain is still on, but there's no sound or movement. Yep. Asleep. I know the hardware on the chain and just popped it off with a screwdriver. My sister and I systematically and quietly grabbed all my stuff... TV, Xbox, cats, dishes, modem, router, anything we could fit in the car. Finally, just to be an a*s, I snuck in the bedroom and ripped the blankets... my blankets... off of both of them. My ex tried to get gruff and follow me out the door, but stopped dead when he saw the TV was gone. The sound of astonishment was priceless. If I could go back, I would have handled it differently, but crazy me is satisfied.
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#19

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
My dad walked in on my mom and his best friend f*****g in my mom and dads bed. his best friend pulled a gun on him. my dad grabbed me and left. i do d***s now.

update: i was 8. im guessing the gun was in his pants? The guy died a few years later from a heart attack.
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#20

"I Just Laughed And Walked Out": 40 Stories Of Cheaters Getting Caught In The Act
I once found out my ex boyfriend had had s*x with my best friend on new yr eve.. in the same bed as me while I was asleep.. His justification.. "Thought we were having a t*******e".
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