39 Times Parents Inflicted Emotional Damage On Their Kids With The Stupid Stuff They Told Them

Your brother/sister never gives me such difficulty...

My mother told me almost every day that I was the reason she couldn't go to college and become a lawyer.

My grandma used to tell my mom in the 80s “you look frumpy, men don’t like that”. She’s made sure to NEVER say anything like that to me.

Side note, my mom has always thought she looked frumpy, matronly, and fat because of her moms words, to this day even though my grandma has been gone 10 years. It wasn’t ever true. Her damn wedding dress fit my waist when I was a normal sized 12 year old, for gods sake

My Dad called me a fat s**t when I was 15. Little did he know, I ate food for comfort because neither one of my parents acknowledged my existence.

Calling me fat was his favorite insult. I remember it from as early as 9.

Growing up my mom always told us “I love you but that doesn’t mean I have to like you” and tbh that still f***s with me at 25 😅

"Why are you so emotional"

Dad: I hope you f**k better than you cut grass or your future wife is going to be miserable

Me a 12 year old: …

"You just WANT there to be something wrong with you."

Diagnosed autism age 24 and ADHD age 29.

It was pure gaslighting because she dragged me around various pediatricians and therapists for years begging them to tell her what was wrong with me. When they couldn't give her an answer she decided I was just inherently lazy, pessimistic, oppositional. When I tried describing my executive dysfunction to her she handed me that lovely nugget.

Also, "Why can't you be more like [friend]?"

And her constantly checking out books from the library titled s**t like "how to handle your out of control teen" also made me feel a certain kind of way.

"You'll never be able to do that."

or

"You'll never amount to anything."

'You'd be so pretty if you lost weight.'

I've heard, "I brought you into this world and I can take you out of it" personally

“Stop complaining, others have had it much worse than you!”

my dad, a chaplain in the Air Force for over 25 years and a current pastor who everyone thinks is the bees knees, told me that I was too self centered to kill myself, completely shattering any illusion i had that he loved me or wanted to see me free of pain. the sad thing is I thought he was one of the most compassionate people I knew up to that point, he'd adopted my siblings and me, and i bet on that he never thought Id deal with pain from trauma like this, until he reiterated it a few months ago.

"How can you be so *stupid*?"

"We only had all you kids for the tax write-off."

Ex's dad said that to him as a teen. Thirty years later it was still affecting his relationship with his parents.

Heard the ole “men are dogs. Worse than dogs. I never wanted you. You ruined my life” spiel so much it kind of lost all its luster the older we got.

“I’ll kill you.” Like in the literal sense.

“you’re gonna eat all that?”

Both have said if they could do it over again they wouldn't have kids.