A Netizen Asked “What Has A Parent Said To You That Made You Go, ‘What The Hell?’” And 30 Delivered

I shaved my head at 21 and kept that hairstyle for the last 28 years.
My dad walked into my room when I was 26 and asked me for a comb!
He looked at me , thought about it for a second and laughed.
Rip dad.I miss you.

After I told my mother that I didn't open up to her or my dad was because I didn't trust them with my emotions, she started screaming that she hated me

Like, girl, this is exactly why I don't tell you things 😂

"Stop twitching, tapping, moving, bopping, clicking. CAN YOU JUST SIT STILL while I'm trying to watch tv and drink [yet another] glass of wine." Me with a private docs diagnoses for ADHD that my parents didn't tell me about because they were embarrassed of me and couldn't bare for the weird church cult they were part of to find out. They went private docs so it wouldn't be on my medical records. And if I talk to any of the GPs as an adult about possible meds, they just think I'm looking for a high and not actual help. A few years later, I got in bad trouble at school due to my ADHD and sensory problems[where a teacher actually shut me in a cupboard because he couldn't handle me.] and I got permanently expelled from that secondary school for hitting the teacher with piece of sports equipment, after he'd shut me in that dark closet for an hour. After that my parents told me "it is your fault that we have lost faith in god, because we prayed for you to ""get better""". But I didn't, infact this was the start of my other sensory issues and anxiety which as an adult was diagnosed as autism. I was misunderstood, mismedicated, and everything felt wrong but I could not describe or even analyze what exactly was provoking my fight or flight. This story ends at 11yo. I have more stories of my s****y childhood. But I'm not sure anyone will read this far down anyway. But I found writing this all down actually helpful and I feel a weight lifted.

The main one that gets the biggest wtf from ppl is when I tell them that during lockdown my mom kept finding my brothers baby clothes (she threw mine away) & kept sending me pics, telling me that she can't wait to be a grandma. I asked if my brother got his gf pregnant, she said she was talking about me, I reminded her I would never give her & my dad grandkids she responded with "don't worry, I'll find someone to r**e you & force you to have the kid"

"If you're like this now I hate to think what you'll be like on your period."

I was huddled in a chair, running a low grade fever and suffering diarrhea. She was angry with me for trying to stay home from school.

One, it's a field trip day, I don't WANT to stay home but hello, a*s pee.

Two, a period is a natural thing, and there are pads/tampons for that. Diarrhea is NOT natural and I can't exactly shove a cork in my colon.

Spoiler: she made me go to school and I shat myself mid fieldtrip.

"I should have aborted you." When her dryer needed cleaning because *she* didn't check dad's pockets of laundry she was doing and a grease pen melted all over it.

"Just look at you...If I looked like you, I'd [unalive] myself." To chubby 5 or 6yo old me. Like, lady, just give me a salad or some s**t.

my mom told me she wishes i'd just [unalive] myself already once she doesn't remember saying it but it's stuck with me as the most f****d up thing she's ever said

“I wish i never had kids”

My old boss said that she got jealous when her husband called their 4 year old daughter beautiful, so she called her daughter ugly and told him to stop inflating her ego. She proudly admitted it to all of us as if it was normal and it baffles me to this day

My mom told me that women pooped babies out of their butt. I believed this until I was 12 or 13. Boy, I got laughed at when I used this as my answer when asked in sex ed.

When I told my mom I didn't want to keep contact with my ex-husband as he had been abusive she told me she knew there had been some hitting in the past but that she'd never witnessed it, and he'd always been very nice to her so she'd like to go have coffee with him. Seriously?! WTF.

If I didn’t go get my dad alcohol he always threatened to ‘ off me ‘.

Once we were at the harbor , I pretended not to hear him so he pushed me , I don’t think he intended to, but I fell in the water between to parked boats.

A man who’s on one of the boats saw this and jumped in to save me ,I was 10 so I wasn’t a strong swimmer yet. My dad just laughed when the man was yelling at him.

I reminded my mom that humans deserve a basic level of respect, and that the fact she considered obedience a form of respect skews her view on how to treat people, and she told me "I don't have to respect you. You're my child." I was an adult at the time.

When I was a kid, my best friends mother was an insufferable snob,and looked down on me because my family was lower middle class. When we were about 9 years old, she took my friend and I to the library to checkout some books, and ran into a friend of hers on the way out. She introduced us to the friend. She said very loudly, that "(insert her daughters name here) is a voracious reader and very very smart, but (insert my name here) is NOT!". I was upset and said "YES I AM!" She then looked at me, then her friend, and they rolled their eyes and laughed. That was nearly 50 years ago, and I remember it as if it were yesterday, and honestly, it had a hugely negative effect on my life, it traumatized me. The only consolation for me (I know this makes me a bad person) was that 10 years later, her very wealthy husband left her for a much younger woman and she was forced to live well below her accustomed means, and was bitter the rest of her days.
I should note I am now a very happy person, in a great relationship, running my own successful business.

Wasn’t my parents but my Grandpa.

“Josh can you take me to see Marge?”
Marge was his long time girlfriend who had Alzheimer’s. My GP was in his 70s at the time and we took away his car because he was a dangerous man behind the wheel to say the least. . “Sure Papa Joe!” That or PJoe was his nickname. Drive him to the place Marge was cared for at. Stop at the front and ask “How long until I come back?” He replied with “Give me an hour. That should be long enough for us to have sex.” I start crying laughing and he leaves with a giant smirk. I could never look at him again without thinking or saying “Almost 80 and still getting after it, WTF”

I needed to take my youngest sister with me to my appointment—as I was taking her somewhere later—and afterwards she gleefully told me how beautiful my therapist was.

I thought that was super adorable, and decided to share that sentiment with my mother.

Her response? “Really? I thought she was black.”

🤦🏻‍♀️ I still haven’t recovered from that response. Like mom, you’re hispanic, you shouldn’t be like this.

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A few months ago I had gone to do a surprise visit my grandparents on my dad’s side. While I was driving up their property I saw them walking in their groceries and witnessed seeing my dad for the first time. I had never met my dad in my life but knew my grandparents.

I walked up greeted my grandmother and she ushered me over go talk to my father. As I went to greet him this dude threw his hood on and jumped in his truck and locked the doors and said no words to me. Never in my life have I witnessed a grown man run away like that.

I would often visit the kitchen to watch how my mother cook. One day when my father saw me coming out of the kitchen, he said “you keep visiting kitchen, your d**k and balls are gonna fall off. That’s how girls are made.”
context: I was 7 when he said that to me and we are Korean family

Eating all your vegetables son will make the hair grow on your chest and balls. Well WTF if I don’t want hairy balls mom!

Where do I even start?! I've written alot about my mom on Reddit. She was a crazy abusive monster when I was a kid. She was controlling and completely unhinged. A few weeks ago we had the following convo- Her " I just can't imagine hurting an animal. I could never forgive myself." Me "really. I must be thinking of my other mom, but my mom [unalived] my first pair of geckos that I saved a years worth of allowance to buy because she didn't want them in the house. My mom also [unalived] my parrot by putting it out side in the winter where it froze to death." Her " I did that? I would never do that." Pretty sure you did, mom.