“My Sister Could Do No Wrong”: 30 Times Parents’ Favoritism Of One Child Came Back To Bite Them

My brother is the favourite one because he’s white skinned and more good looking. Typical asian thingy, if you must. I was also slow in development and in middle school, tested my IQ to be 80, so they kind of see me as a shame. I am a very late bloomer. My grandparents and parents prefers him. This is about my grandparents.

Being the more financially successful one while my brother struggles to find a job, I am responsible for putting the meals at the table. It’s somewhat their fault that he’s overly spoiled and lazy. Now, they are very conscious of their bad treatment in my younger days, so they are very careful not to offend me. 

Once they pushed to make me send my brother to college so he can get a degree to get a job (I do not have a degree), I told them they can start asking him to pay for their living expenses because I am not shy not leave them homeless. I did so with my mother. She begged me to help her financially because she got dumped with a child by her new husband and I closed the door on her. I honestly have zero attachment to them due to the abuse they did when I was young, including locking me up in a room so I can get better. 

They are kind of offish and afraid of me. I know they hate me but they can never say it and they are civil around me. Anytime there is a disagreement, I’ll tell them to get my brother to start supporting them. It’s mostly no argument and they will begrudgingly agree with everything I say even if it’s against what they believe. 

Some may say it’s financial abuse. But I am not abusing them. They are always free to leave. I have no obligation to take care of them but that’s what I do. And if they can’t appreciate that, then they can always go to their more favoured child.

Golden child in my family wasn't a sibling but rather a cousin.

Cousin is 3-4 years older than me. His parents werent great role models for various reasons, so he was in and out of foster care, etc. My parents tried to adopt him, blah blah blah.

When I was 16, his parents dropped him at our door to live with us for several months. While he was with us, he could do no wrong. He would verbally and physically a*****t me, he was on all kinds of d***s, so on so forth.

He never got a high school degree, etc. His entire life, he has blamed his childhood or everyone around him for everything wrong.

Most of my extended family has cut him completely off, except for my dad. Most of us will refuse to go to any family event he is invited to, because he's violent, angry, and d**g-addled. He has tried to end my life.

Last I heard, he was in prison and got himself viciously attacked to the point of hospitalization because he couldn't shut his d**n mouth.

My sister became a terrible human being and she is the only one to talk to my mom, mostly for free baby sitting. Before I went no contact with both, my mom was always complaining how mean my sister was to her and my sister would talk about how much she hated my mom. They deserve each other.

I was the golden child, but not in the way you’d expect.

I was doted on because of my looks, and my mom would pimp me out to TV stations or modeling agencies at a shot to becoming famous and escaping poverty in the Philippines. This went on for YEARS of my childhood. This backfired and I’m now a huge punk/tomboy. My sister resented me for it so she turned to her studies as a way to get my mom’s attention.

And guess what? Now *she’s* the golden child. Good career, great husband, lots of money to shower. I’m living an incredibly simple life, living it on my own terms, and she takes any opportunity she can get to criticize what I do under the guise of me possibly hurting our mom. Did I turn out f****d up? Maybe, yeah. I stay home, smoke w**d, play video games, get tattoos. But I never want to hurt anybody, ever. Funny how me reclaiming my life after years under the microscope still bites me in the a*s.

My dad was guilty of seeing my older sister as the golden child. She was extraverted and outgoing like me dad while I was the quiet introvert. How often I had to hear "why aren't you more like your sister?"

My dad didn't give a single f**k about my hobbies either, everything revolved around my sister's hobbies. I was always the "ugly duckling" of the family, the younger brother who isn't as successful as his older sister.w She was more career-oriented and has a high paying job and goes on exotic, expensive vacations.

My sister never rubbed it in and is fully aware of this and feels kinda bad about it, but when I announced that I, at 42 years of age, was able to completely pay off the loan to my house thanks to an investment in Bitcoin I made in 2016, all of a sudden, I wasn't the "unsuccessful ugly duckling" anymore.

I know money and material possessions aren't the most important thing in life, but to my father apparently, it is kind of a way to measure success. And I beat everyone at it. By just investing a couple of thousand of euro's I saved by just not going on vacation but simply staying home in 2016.

My mother was an alcoholic and a narcissist. Growing up, she clearly favoured my brother. Other family members saw it and acknowledged it, she denied it.

Eventually my brother got set up with a good job, my parents bought him a nice car, he met a nice girl etc. Meanwhile my mother got worse, drunk every now and then became drunk every weekend, then every second or third day. As things got worse, she went from emotional to erratic, then finally became outright a*****e. What really stung was that as her alcoholism and mental health issues got worse, she'd still manage to hold it together whenever she was around my brother, she *could* control herself, She just chose not to. He saw through it.

By the time my mother died, my brother had cut her off completely. She'd spent her whole life lifting him up, neglecting everyone else, including herself, and he ended up looking down at her in disgust.

My sibling turned into a grown up a*****e. They never do house work, will not pay rent if they can get away with it, will not clean up to the point where their living area looks like a hoarder lives there- and just says they will get a maid, is entitled to other people’s things and always feels like they’re feelings are the most valuable. They never admit to doing anything, never apologizes, and will cry if you call them out. They have no friends because people just don’t have time to waste on something like that. I’m almost ten years younger and they “mimic” my behavior in public, I confronted them about it and they blamed it on undiagnosed autism and a wide host of excuses.

It’s exhausting for my parents but my sibling hasn’t, and won’t, move out of my parents house. They can’t. They literally can not adult correctly becuse my parents did everything for them growing up. They have homework they’re not doing? My parents would do it. They need to sign up for college and financial aid, my parents did all of it. All of their cars were bought by my parents. Bills overdue, yep my parents paid them off.

My sibling is in her late 30s and she is stuck at a 15 year old mentality.

I’m adopted older brother is their bio child. They bought him 2 cars, paid for medical school bought him a house. He hasn’t talked to my parents in a decade after his divorce, they have to talk to the ex wife to see the grandkids. Guess how well that goes over? I barely come around anymore for reasons. Not saying they weren’t great parents. Growing up they were wonderful but I was definitely the adopted brown kid. Went to get family photos once, the photographer called me “spot” and they just laughed and laughed.

Not me, but my mom. Her brother was the golden child. He could do no wrong and my mom could do no right. When my mom got her first time of the month, her mom beat her because "she was more of a woman than her." Most of the favoritism was shown by my grandma.

Back in the 90s, her brother had to out of nowhere move from Florida back to Michigan. Turns out he had been caught molesting a severely underage girl from the neighborhood. His wife threw some money around and got the family to not take it to court. My grandma worked to bury it within the family, but we all knew because he had actually r***d some of his cousins and even my mom when he was a teen. She had a mental break down knowing her perfect son wasn't perfect. Even after that, she still preferred my uncle over my mom.

My brother in law is (still) the golden child. He ended up going to college and getting into hard d***s and failing out. Then he knocked up a lady and everyone is stuck raising his daughter. Their unconditional favoritism of him has given my wife a people pleasing complex.

Just this holiday season, he ‘micro dosed’ the whole week of thanksgiving leaving us responsible for his kid. On Christmas Eve while were wrapping and assembling his daughter’s gifts (and he was getting high upstairs) we had to listen to my wife’s mom tell us how great her brothers been doing lately.