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Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
RelationshipsJUN 16, 2023

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers

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It's no secret that much, if not everything, in this world is built on trust. We trust the state in the field of its functions, we trust teachers in the field of education for our kids, we trust our business partners... after all, in God we trust.
And without trust, there can be no successful and effective relationship, whether it is a long-term marriage or you and your significant other have just begun to share one roof over your heads. And all the more unexpected for a mother may be a request or demand to do a paternity test for their common children. So Bored Panda has put together a compilation of reactions from various women in this viral Reddit thread for you.
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#1

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
I would be totally fine with it because he was standing there beside me at each adoption. The real problem is if the test came back and they ARE his.
179points

#2

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
I wouldn't care as I know I didn't cheat.
However, I would expect a long conversation about where this idea came from, who/what has been influencing him to undermine our marriage and trust. Whatever, or whomever it is, has 100% got to go.
Then I would ask for couples therapy. Someone doesn't go from family man to "those kids might not be mine" overnight. Someone/something has been chipping away at our marriage. The positive DNA results will just be a bandaid over the rot that will spread if not addressed.
157points

#3

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
Our kid looks so similar to my husband that her face unlocks his phone.
Sure, do the test.
95points

In 1984, Sir Alec Jeffreys, a professor of genetics at the University of Leicester in the UK, suddenly made the discovery in the course of another laboratory experiment that the DNA chains of different people have unique nucleotide sequences. The sections of DNA discovered by Jeffries are not repeated - which means that on their basis it is possible to form a so-called "genetic passport" or DNA profile for each particular person.

#4

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
Do the ancestry one, then he can also see if HIS dad is really his dad. Since he’s curious.
93points

#5

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
If a man feels the needs to to prove his kids are his with a DNA test, then he's fully admitting he fundamentally doesn't trust his wife. If you don't trust your wife, don't f*****g have kids with her.
82points

#6

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
I wouldn't be opposed to the actual request because I have nothing to hide.
But the fact that he felt the need to ask 100% indicates his lack of trust in the marriage and that is the bigger issue that I would be seriously concerned about.
61points

Many people believe that the first institution that became interested in the discovery of Jeffreys was the British police, who wished to use DNA profiles in forensics. But it's not. The first to use the potential of the "genetic passport" were representatives of the British Migration Service, who thus received a powerful tool to check whether immigrants who claim to be related to a UK citizen are telling the truth. Well, then there was forensics, and a couple of years later, the first DNA-based paternity test took place.

#7

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
Cuz there's no way for the woman to test every other child in the world to make sure they also aren't his.
52points

#8

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
I’ve offered it to my bf for our one and only child to shut up all the naysayers in his family who were telling him it wasn’t his. And he said me offering is even more suspicious than not offering. Which idk how the f**k that makes any sense but whatever dude. The kid is yours. Do it or don’t. Idc.
51points

#9

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
I would def be offended and assume that meant he didn't trust me. But then I'd suggest I take the test if he let's me go through his phone. Like, if he's paranoid that's gonna make me paranoid. If he's got cheating on his mind then maybe he's the one cheating. And then I'd never be able to relax wondering if somethings going on. So to ease everyone's worries, we'd both show each other our phones, messages,etc. And do the test.
46points

But how justified would it be for a man to demand a paternity test? This question can be sensitive, so experts make up whole collections of tips on how to do it in the most appropriate and polite way. "Asking for a paternity test can be a difficult and emotional experience for all parties involved, especially if you have doubts about whether the child you have been raising is your biological child," states AlphaBiolabs, the UK-based medical center, official website.

"When starting a conversation with your child's mother about paternity testing, it is important to approach the conversation rationally, and avoid being insulting or accusatory. Explain your reasons for wanting a paternity test in a calm and considered way, whether it's just to ease your mind of any worries or to eliminate any suspicions you might have. Either way, mutual respect is important when starting a conversation about paternity testing." And yet, it all comes down to trust...

#10

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
28F here. I wouldn't mind at all. Do you know how many men get f****d over because of women who just want the money or security from that man? Men have no other peace of mind other than your words, and it can ruin their lives if it isnt theirs. I'd do it just to set his mind at ease, and have a frank and open conversation as to why he felt that he had to get the test done. The outcome of that conversation determines what happens next, but I believe it's a completely fair request.
40points

#11

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
I'm a man, but that seems incredibly insulting. Granted, my kids look just like me, so it's easy for me to have that stance.
40points

#12

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
I would not care, my husband found out late in life that he has a different biological father due to DNA testing and it crushed him. I would understand that the test has more to do with that circumstance than his trust in me. That being said, even after going through everything with his dad, he never tested our kids but I told him multiple times to go for it and I’d be totally fine!
34points

Of course, this does not mean that the reckless trust in the style of King Viserys from the recent House of the Dragon series is right (after all, if there were paternity tests in Westeros, the plot might have been exhausted after the first few episodes...). Of course, there are multiple cases of paternity fraud, and a DNA test is a proper way to avoid it. And yet, women perceive such requests or demands from their significant others differently, so please feel free to scroll this list to the very end and maybe it would be thought-provoking for some of you. Who knows, since life is totally unpredictable.

#13

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
Probably gonna get downvoted but no I wouldn’t. If that gives him the assurance he needs then let’s do the test. Also, the possibility of accidental baby switching- I’d take the DNA test too just to make sure.
33points

#14

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
I just ask my wife this ...she said "I will rip your balls off and feed them to you if you want that damn test "
So ya they care
32points

#15

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
Yes as that's suggesting I've been unfaithful
31points

#16

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
If you have this kind of distrust in your relationship, time to rethink it.
29points

#17

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
It should be standard with every birth. No one trapped by false paternity or insulted by insinuations of cheating.
28points

#18

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
Currently pregnant and not married to my partner of 2+ years.
If he wanted a test, as long as he was respectful and not accusatory in asking, I would have absolutely no issues.
As it stands, we're getting a paternity test regardless because we want our baby to have dual citizenship and his country wants proof this baby is his (Understandably)
27points

#19

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
Personally? Damn straight, because it implies that he doubts me, my fundamental character, and the relationship and family we've built together. That said, in cases where a relationship has been through infidelity and conflict, I can understand that a question of parentage needs to be resolved - for the sake of parents *and* children.
23points

#20

Person Online Asks Moms What Their Reactions Would Be If Their Husbands Wanted To Do A Paternity Test And Gets These 31 Answers
I wouldn't care. Our relationship is over, he can't possibly disrespect me anymore than he already has.
21points
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