Whenever it comes to "soap operas", people often criticize them. Sometimes quite deservedly, sometimes not so much, but the main factor of the accusation is most often the completely implausible plot twists of these TV shows.
On the one hand, just put yourself in the shoes of showrunners and writers who, day after day, have to come up with new twists to not only surprise the viewer, but also effectively compete with numerous competitors. On the other hand, real life sometimes throws us stories that no screenwriter can come up with.
Just look at this tale on the AITA Reddit community, which has all the elements of a true "soap opera" - and yet it is completely real! The original post, by the way, has almost 17K upvotes so far and over 7.1K various comments. Perhaps, weighty arguments to read through!
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The Original Poster and his wife got divorced when their daughter was 2 Y.O. as she was texting other men
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So the Original Poster is now just under 40, and the daughter from his first marriage is 19 and just started college. The OP and his ex-wife Lauren got married at a very young age, and when their daughter Ariel was born, they faced a lot of problems, but tried to stick together.
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After several years, the OP married his wife's friend and they have a son
When the girl was two years old, Lauren's friend, Tori, told the OP that his wife was actively texting other men. The OP checked her phone and found out it was true. After a family scandal, the husband demanded a divorce, and although Lauren offered to reconcile, they still broke up. The custody was split, although the father-in-law even offered the OP money so that he would refuse.
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It is still unknown what led Tori when she told her friend's husband about this texting, but two years later she and the OP started dating, and two years later they got married. The OP and Tori's son is now 13, but the problem is that, according to the OP, the ex-wife has tried to make his life a living hell.
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The problem is the OP's daughter doesn't want to communicate with his new family anyway
As the OP himself says, Lauren badmouthed him and Tori in the eyes of her daughter, claiming that he cheated on her with her own friend, resulting in the birth of Ariel's half-brother - although elementary arithmetic proves otherwise. As a result, the girl, although she communicated normally with her father, flatly refused to perceive her stepmother and half-brother in any way.
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On the days when the girl came to the OP's house, she ignored any attempts by Tori and her half-brother to strike up a conversation with her, and simply went to her room. After many years of fruitless attempts, they gave up. The father also gave up, although, according to him, he spent thousands on psychotherapy.
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The OP decided to punish his daughter for ignoring his wife and son and refused to pay for her college
And then the moment came when Ariel went to college. For the first semester, as the parents initially agreed, the mother paid, but the father had to pay for the second one. But after another demarche from his daughter, in his own words, he could not stand it and refused to pay.
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As the man himself admitted, he does not want to take money out of his household if his daughter has been ignoring two thirds of his family for many years. Lauren called the OP a jerk on the phone, and then Ariel called him the same. The father said that he had paid child support for many years, and that the daughter should consider a student loan if she won't make an attempt to reconcile with his family.
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The OP's wife backed him but other relatives criticized the man heavily
According to the OP, his wife supported him, although all the other relatives refused to, and some even criticized him heavily. So the man just decided to take it online to find out what netizens think about this situation.
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The commenters' opinions on this situation split
We must say that the opinions of redditors in this situation were split. Some believe that the OP is completely innocent of anything, but simply the daughter does not respect him, because her mother turned her against her father and his new family. In this case, commenters simply advise the man not to be too categorical.
As for the other people in the comments, they can't help but point out that it was very unwise for the OP to marry Tori - even if some time after his divorce. As a result, it was the OP's actions that largely predetermined the response of Lauren and his daughter, so now the man needs to decide something - and it is far from certain that refusing to fund his daughter's college is a really good decision.
Perhaps your opinions will be split too as to who is right and who is wrong in this particular story. In any case, be sure to write in the comments what you think about it, and how, in your opinion, the Original Poster should act now.