63 Moments That Instantly Ended A Potential Friendship

Me and my wife worked with a childhood friend she had. We all became really acquainted, we attended her baby shower, helped her out with covering shifts. Then she started sharing stuff on her social media essentially saying gay marriage should be overturned and it's unnatural. Mind you, me and my wife are lesbians and she had been nothing but nice to us to our face, but apparently thought our existence was disgusting 🤷‍♀️ took her off socials and haven't heard from her since.

My husband had a group of friends from high school that we still hangout with. One of the guys went to our high school, but none of us actually knew him then. He works with one of the other guys in the group so he became part of the group a few years ago. We went to his house for the first time for a football game, where I met his wife. She’s a few years younger than me, but she also went to our high school. Her and her husband are high school sweethearts, as are me and my husband. They got married right out of high school at 18 and had 3 kids over ten years, whereas me and my husband waited until we were 25-26 to get married and have no kids. When we were all talking, I said something about my husband was paying for something or having to split it, I can’t remember which. She immediately asked, “you two don’t share a bank account?” I said something along the lines of no, we each pay for half of our expenses but have our own accounts. She starts going on about how weird that was and then hugs her husband and says “thanks for being such a good provider for us” and really making a show of it. That’s when I knew we wouldn’t be friends. I don’t want to be friends with someone who is going to think we are in some kind of competition for ‘best couple’. I couldn’t care less what anyone’s financial situation is with their spouse.

Worked at a gender-equity nonprofit focused on women in tech, and one of the long-time volunteers made a comment about how women who use pads instead of tampons were gross.

The cognitive dissonance to want to volunteer at an org that helps women while making a disparaging comment about how some women choose to manage their periods was... weird.

Once my company was acquired by another company and my new boss, who had that Italian mob boss vibe about him, casually dropped in conversation something about how men should slap their wives around occasionally to keep them in line.

My kid made friends with another kid in school. They came over and had a play date. His Dad came to pick him up. Usually when our kids make friends, we tend to get along pretty well with the other parents. This guy immediately starts talking about how much he hates liberals and loves Trump, and it went downhill from there. I politely listened, emphasized I don't agree with all of his policies, but hey you're entitled to your opinion. The fact that I'm *very clearly an immigrant with an accent and everything* seemed to fly over his head.

Tried to steer the conversation away from politics but the guy just made everything about politics and how "liberals and immigrants are ruining America... not you though man you seem cool... anyway, freaking liberals...". Made more awkward small talk until he left.

Wonder how his kid is doing these days, my own kid and him ended up going to different schools not long after.

"My daddy told me I was a Klan princess!"

She was drunk at a funeral. I noped out of that situation so fast.

Wife and I had recently moved to a new city. We helped one of her work colleague and spouse move. I think it was most of a Saturday, like 8AM - 4PM. Load the truck, follow the truck, unload the truck.

They said "thanks" and we left. They then had a housewarming party where they invited family *and other work friends*, but not us.

We were the *only* people that helped them move. Not their family. Not the other work friends. Just us.

EDIT TO ADD: (Obligatory "whoah this blew up")

It was 30 years ago. I don't remember all the details. They might have bought pizza for lunch, for instance.

They were part of a small group of people our age at her work that hung out together. We thought this might be a way to start participating. Turned out that they (the work group) had known each other for a few years and so qualified as "real friends"

My attitude about stuff like this is that a few hours of exercise is a small price to pay to learn that somebody isn't worth your time or effort.

SFSMag:

"But guys already saw the place." Them most likely.

I remember this dude at a bar kept telling me that hockey players are morally superior to basketball players. I kept asking why he thinks that


Out of nowhere he said "look im not saying it's a racial thing"


It absolutely was a racial thing.

A buddy of mine introduced me to another friend of his and we went out to a couple of bars and thought we had a fun night. When we dropped him off at his house he sucker punched me and I ended up with a concussion. He misheard something I actually said for something else and had to punch me because "I disrespected him". My buddy tried defending him and ended up cutting ties with both of them. We were in our mid 30's/ early 40's by the way...

Edit for the story:

This was early 2011 after the financial crisis and the guy hadn't worked in a while and him and his wife were fighting about money and were close to losing their house etc. When it came time to pay the tab he was trying to figure out his portion and I said "I got you buddy, don't worry about" and tossed his card back to him (he was across the table) and paid the bill for everyone.

That was it, I apparently made him feel like so much less of a man in that moment that he was fuming in the 10 minute drive home in the back seat to the point that he sucker punched me as soon as we got out of the car.

I guess mistook is a better word than misheard.

I didn't press charges, didn't want to deal with it.

At my previous job I greeted a coworker with “Hey how’s it goin’?” Her response was “Why?”

She later reported me for asking personal questions.

I watched a friend of a friend pop the nose of the home owners cat for something very innocuous, she was just sniffing something. It stunned me because I would never hit someone else's animals! I don't hit my OWN animals. I wasn't surprised to find out she was also mean and talks about people behind their backs. I made sure to not let her around my own cats, my cranky old lady Kali would bite her for that kind of stuff lol.

Went to dinner with a bunch of friends including someone I hadn’t met before but was part of the larger social circle.

It was a casual dinner, everyone had 2 courses and a soft drink so we decided to split the bill evenly (there was no alcohol or extra courses to make this unfair to anyone).

I dealt with the bill and told everyone they owed £18. This girl hands me £15 and I said she was £3 short and if she didn’t want to split the bill her actual total was £20. She *threw* the coins down the table at me.

I’ve refused to acknowledge she exists ever since.

When someone says they hate books/reading.

This girl that kept telling me every time I saw her "I could totally beat you up if I wanted to." I was like, what the hell is wrong with this person?

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I think I said this to people when I was in kindergarten.

He knowingly and intentionally parked in a handicap reserved space. As if that wasn’t bad enough, then he made a disparaging remark about people with disabilities. Nope.

I have the appearance of a regular white straight dude (not actually straight, the rest is correct) and the amount of white straight dudes who will try to instantly bond to you over "so women are annoying, huh" or "so we hate gay stuff, huh" or "so we love racism, huh" is pretty upsetting.

Meet a doctor who said people sometimes come to them to get medical notes for sick days off from work, "but when they say it's stress or anxiety related I don't give them the note because they're always faking it".

In hanging out with another new mom, she mentioned how she hated shopping for her baby (4 month) daughter because she looked so fat in everything.

My wife and I did a couples date with a friend in college and her new boyfriend of like a week. We went out for sushi, me and my wife ordered 1 roll each and a roll to split and some waters (we prefer to drink water, not a cheap thing). She orders 1 roll and asks him if he wants to share one and he says he prefers to 'order on the spot'. Waiter comes around, he asks to go last. We all order, then he busts out an order of 2 rolls for him, 3 rolls to share with out friend and an alcoholic beverage for him and one for the friend. She insists it's too much, and he holds his hand up, smiles, and says "Don't worry about the cost, let's just have fun". So we eat, they end up so full they have like 2.5 rolls left over and he had 2 more beers over the course of the chatting and eating. Honestly he seemed pretty normal up to that point.

Then they brought us the receipt. The waiter asked the usual, "separate checks?". Dude holds his hand up and says "that's too much work, just split it evenly". I held up my hand and said, "actually do me and her together" (gesturing at my wife). Dude looks at me like a deer in headlights "are you sure? It's going to be pretty expensive if we do it that way". I looked at him and tried to not show the shock on my face, while I responded "Yeah, I would prefer to do it this way". There was no pre-discussion about how to pay, so maybe this is just a culture difference, but he didn't talk to us for the remainder of our event.

A guy i know told me he understands why Israel is bombing Gaza, he lives in a building with a lot of immigrants and their kids are rude and they frighten him and he would be okay with them being bombed.

Now, that would be enough of a “you 100% have no idea what the thing you just said means IRL and the only merciful way to deal with it is to never talk to you again” moment, all by itself, to end the conversation right there. But here’s the kicker.

He lives in the same building as me. He was talking about my neighbors.

My neighbors are sweet people. Our neighborhood is not rich, but it’s nice, peaceful.

More even than the hate, it was the delusion i just couldn’t respond to without some sort of medical professional to help me find words.