According to dating expert Lillian Czolbe, being open-minded is very important when you date. If you come onto the scene with a list of must-haves and expect each partner to tick all the boxes, you’ll be missing out on a lot of great experiences and fun connections.
Still, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t have standards. Sure, it’s good to give people a chance, but once you have a feeling it’s not going anywhere, letting go is the best way to deal with the situation.
Sometimes, one single thing can be a good indicator of a potential relationship’s future. The people who listed their opinions below know that first-hand. Scroll down to read all the deal-breakers and see if you agree.
#1
She started talking about being allergic to cats. I have a cat. She said I could get rid of the cat if it would be getting serious. I ended the date on the spot.
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280points
While it’s hard to cater to everyone’s wishes, knowing the most common deal-breakers out there can be useful for those looking to improve their second date chances. Some scientists did everyone a favor and put it all in a paper.
They determined 6 different deal-breaker types and surveyed a bunch of people to know the trends. The types are:
- Being gross – having poor hygiene, being unattractive, STDs.
- Being addicted – having substance abuse issues, smoking, having a criminal past.
- Being clingy – acting jealous and controlling.
- Being promiscuous – having too many casual or serious partners.
- Being apathetic – showing a lack of attention and trustworthiness, dismissing a partner’s interests.
- Being unmotivated – lacking ambition or financial prospects, having different worldviews.
#2
How they discuss animals.
How one talks about, discusses and treats animals is very indicative of someones levels of empathy.
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198points
#3
One time a guy showed up to pick me up and was already drunk. I did not let him drive me.
And another time I was on a date, getting to know each other, and I was talking about my brother and his husband, and the guy literally had his face flush and said "you have a gay brother? And you support that?" Date over.
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167points
While the deal-breakers varied depending on whether people were looking for a short-term relationship or a long-term commitment, the worst offender was the same, and that is being apathetic. In other words, even if you have forgotten to put some deodorant on, you might still get a pass if you show genuine interest in your date.
But don’t expect to get too far while being stinky. Being gross is the second red flag on the list, followed by being clingy, addicted, unmotivated, and promiscuous. So, take a shower, relax, quit smoking, sort out your goals in life, and be selective with who you date, and you’ll be the perfect date. Honestly, after doing so much work on yourself, you’ll probably be too perfect for dating, so enjoy single life!
#4
Calling themselves "Alpha" and complaining about "Beta male culture" unprompted. Big ol red flag.
163points
#6
Talking over me. Telling me what to think. Trying to explain my experiences and/or field to me.
143points
#7
When guys sexualize my job.
I’m a nanny/babysitter. I hate when guys talk about it sexually. Like “hmm I wish you were my babysitter”.
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141points
#8
How they treat other people like servers or bartenders. Went on a date with a girl and took her to my old work place where i used to be a server. She treated my old coworker like absolute s**t and tried telling me not to tip her cause she was so bad and she doesn’t need it. When i put $40 on the table she tried taking it so I picked it up and walked over to my old coworker and gave it to her
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136points
#9
Uses the word “females” like their a different species.
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131points
#10
Bringing up zodiac signs and assuming my personality based on my birth date rather than actually trying to getting to know me.
Real story. The guy spent half an hour straight checking up my ascendant sign after my zodiac sign to make assumptions about me right to my face. Boy, get a life first please.
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129points
#11
She literally said to me "If you can't handle me on my worst day, then you don't deserve me on my BEST DAY!"
I just got up and left.
Handle your own damn self.....pft!
Handle your own damn self.....pft!
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127points
#12
Also, the "mysterious" type. The "come and find out", the "you'll have to wait and see", the "you're not ready yet". It tells me this person is waaaay less interesting than they want to look like, and/or they are hiding something sordid
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126points
#13
Sexual double entendres when you’ve literally just met and aren’t quite comfortable with each other yet.
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122points
#16
When they try to casually mention how much money they make or how much money their family has. There's nothing wrong with making good money or coming from money, but I don't like it when I get the vibe that someone is using it to try to impress me.
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113points
#17
"I'm a God fearing, virtuous woman..."
Just about every Christian woman I've met turned out to be anything but God fearing and virtuous.
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108points
#18
If they complain nonstop about how miserable they are, they're not going to get better in a relationship. It will only get worse.
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106points
#20
When they trying to control everything. From drinks to food in a second or third date cuz they think I would like what they’ve chosen for me. Or when they still talk about that ex from years ago or trying to find me as their “replacement”
No, I’m not her.
No, I’m not her.
93points