From the outside looking in it's always easier to say what you will and will not allow, but sometimes you could have been abused in a relationship for so long that you have managed to convince yourself that, that is his way of showing you he loves you. You have been mentally abused and manipulated into believing his abusive form of love.
Women who have never been physically abused tend to pass judgement on women who stay before they find themselves in that same predicament. Being swept off of their feet by a man who seems so perfect, always attentive, charming, and his romantic gestures make you fall deeper in love. After months of dating you start to notice his attentiveness is lacking along with his charm and romantic gestures he won you over with. At times he seems annoyed by you and no longer does he call you those little cute pet names he use to. He has grown somewhat distant and you don't understand but rather make excuses as to why it might be. You start to question yourself wondering if maybe you're not pretty enough, good enough, gained some weight etc...little do you know the mental abuse
Anytime you start to question yourself it gives them the power to manipulate you. The mental abuse becomes constant that you start to feel worthless, but you're not worthless, you're just unappreciated. Once they have managed to mentally rip you apart the physical abuse comes into play, and it is so hard for a woman who has been brainwashed into believing she is not good enough to be loved to walk away. The only love she knows is the abusive type and so she stays not realizing that love is not abusive, love is meant to bring out a better version of herself not the worst. Love is meant to protect you, not hurt you. Love is meant to bring you joy, not sadness. Love is suppose to make you feel happy, not stressed. Love is so suppose to give you a glow, not bruises. You have to gather up the strength to leave someone who hurts you, and once you walk away never look back.
If they ever contact you don't let "I'm sorry" make you think about walking back to that party. The longer you dance with the devil, the longer you remain in hell. Don't sell yourself short by settling for what they have to offer. You owe so much better to yourself. Remember you left for a reason. Remember the abuse that caused you to leave them. Remember that you gave your best, and got their worst in return.
