There are bad parents, and there are those whose existence revolves around ruining their children’s lives. Many of these cases are usually brought on by unwanted pregnancies that later evolve into spite and resentment.
This is what a man went through with his mom and dad, who threw him out of the house at a young age. He was then forced to live with his grandfather, who left him a hefty inheritance upon his passing.
His parents wanted in on the money, which he immediately shut down. What followed was an ugly court battle that further deepened their bitterness toward each other.
Some parents are horrible to the point of wanting to ruin their children’s lives
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For this man, life with his mother and father was a living hell
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His folks eventually threw him out of the house, forcing him to live with his grandparents
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He developed a close relationship with his grandfather
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He became the sole heir of his grandfather's possessions and money, which his parents didn't appreciate
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They ended up going to battle in court over the inheritance
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His parents lost the case, as the man went on to enjoy a more peaceful life after cutting contact with them
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The causes of parental entitlement run deep into the person’s broken psyche
After reading that story, many of you likely asked under your breath, “Why? How could the parents be that cruel?” According to licensed psychotherapist Isabel Diamond, the causes of neglectful and entitled behavior among parents could be a narcissistic personality disorder or possible substance dependence.
However, one of the bigger reasons is that they pass on their own pain onto their children, whether knowingly or otherwise.
“Sometimes, a parent’s sense of entitlement can be fueled by feelings of resentment over their own childhood hurts, neglect, mistreatment, or unfulfilled dreams. In essence, the parent is likely one person in a long line of intergenerational trauma,” she told Bored Panda.
“They didn’t receive what they needed. Then they became demanding, treating others as objects rather than as full people with their own subjectivity, feelings, and needs.”
Diamond spoke about the potential long-term repercussions of having such hurtful parents, the biggest one being that the person may believe that something is fundamentally wrong with themselves.
This may result in a variety of relationship patterns, from people-pleasing to avoiding conflict and withholding their true feelings or needs. Diamond notes that other manifestations may include impostor syndrome, anxiety, depression, or complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD).
In such cases, expecting an apology from parents who wronged you would be a lost cause. The next best approach, according to Diamond, is to allow and validate feelings.
“It’s natural and healthy to feel anger about an estranged parent suddenly reaching out with a request, or demand, for support. It might help to remind themselves that the parent is an adult who is ultimately responsible for their own life,” she said, noting that feeling guilt from saying no is natural and can stem from old childhood trauma.
But in the story’s case, the situation had escalated into an ugly legal battle. The father also doubled down on his resentment, essentially eliminating any chance of reconciliation.
Fortunately for him, he was able to distance himself and live a fruitful life.
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