87 Myths About Men And Women That People Refuse To Let Go Of

That there is such a grand difference in how men vs women think. Outside of the chemistry influencing our thoughts, and conditioning brought by tribalism, is there really such a difference between how men and women process information? I feel like it more has to do with the genetic makeup of each individual and how they were brought up.

That we're all dropping hints on purpose. Sometimes we're not being mysterious, we're just tired, hungry, or overthinking everything.

That being persistent after the first "no" will somehow garner a different response.

You will get a different response eventually, directly to the nuts or face.

That we are "too emotional" for the hard jobs and that we aren't strong enough to lead.

That we’re all miserable if we don’t have a man in our life and our one life goal is to get married.

An ex bought me Rush Hour 3 on dvd because “All men like these movies”

So that.

The idea that we’re never nervous about walking outside at night time.

That they can change us and still like us afterward.

That going to the gym will make a man look like a roided body builder.

Female coworker, "you have beautful hands! So manly!" Feb 12 2009. lol.

We're all hopeless romantics. Nope. I'm very aloof and don't attach easily. When I do, I'm still not much of a romance type. My love language is food. If I'm feeding you a home-cooked meal while wearing a sundress, that's as romantic as I get.

Oh… and let me add that they can’t seem to conceive that we may actually know things about car and home repairs, tools, taxes, etc.

I battled this in my marriage more than I will ever stand for again. My Wasband couldn’t tell you the difference between a broom and a hammer but always had an opinion on the right way to do things. All the tools in the house are mine.

He never did a single load of laundry in all the years we were together, but always had a speech about the ‘right’ way to do it, same as the dinners he never once ever made. I would get a NYT-style food critic review for meals he had no idea how much work and love I poured in to them. He only ever ordered pizza when I wasn’t there to feed everyone. But what I always got was an essay about how I could have improved this or that about my cooking. The man burns toast ffs.

I’m a trained chef. 😳

That we all value men on wealth,

I don’t personally.

That women on the internet are real.

If you give us a compliment we will remember it for months. Maybe even years.


Be honest with us. Don’t hide stuff, and don’t lie about it.  We’d rather disagree than be gaslit and find out later.


If we often seem closed off or stoic, it's not because we don't have emotions. On the contrary. We feel things and feel them DEEPLY. But we're often afraid to actually be vulnerable and EXPRESS those feelings. Reason being, when we're frank about how we feel...


A.) It's almost a guarantee that those feelings will be weaponized and used against us at a later time.   

B.) If what we're feeling is in any way negative or upsetting, we run the risk of upsetting YOU. At which point our feelings are brushed aside, and we have to flip to "consolation mode" and comfort you over how OUR feelings made YOU feel.   

C.) In a worst-case scenario, our feelings are dismissed on the grounds that patriarchy and misogyny mean that women's feelings are ALWAYS more important, because women are marginalized and oppressed and have it worse in every possible way than the men "playing life on easy mode." 


After all of this plays out a few times, we learn fast. If we have feelings, it's safer and easier on everyone if we just clam up and shove it down and do whatever it takes to keep the women in our lives happy, because we prize peace and harmony more so than a free expression of emotion that's only going to circle back and bite us in the a*s. And this means we stew and we repress and we bottle it aaaaalllll up. Forever.  


All men are individuals, but I 100% PROMISE YOU THAT THIS IS SOMETHING WE ALL HAVE IN COMMON.

That men aren't sensitive or in tune with emotion. We just get chastised for showing it, even when we are told we should open up.

That we dont feel unsure, afraid, fear, ashamed, inferior sometimes, that we dont worry that we're taking up too much space, worried about being too assertive, that we all feel we're simply entitled to things, that any male failing is a simple failure to take advantage of his privilege, we dont experience the full gamut of human emotions...

Many things like this

I feel that in this respect, a lot of what women believe about men is based on the worst caricature of a man, created as a figure they can justifiably hate and argue against when it comes to speaking about problems women have with men, rather than what 99% of men are actually like as real human beings.

Its easier to argue against a boogeyman, than have to realise that men are just as human as they are.

That men are totally fearless and never get anxious. We stress about the same stuff as anyone else but hide it better.

That the hot women they're following on Instagram are natural. I have asked multiple men to show me their idea of a "natural looking" woman, and every time without fail, they show me a woman who is wearing heavy make-up, is using filters, and has clearly had work done.

That we have pillow fights in negligee when we sleep at a friend's house.