Many of us have grown up on a steady diet of chintzy romance movies, happily ever afters, and, if that wasn't enough, romance novels that would keep us awake late at night dreaming of our Prince Charming. However, one of the biggest misconceptions about love is that, with the right person, it feels like a fairy tale, not like the one where Little Red Riding Hood is simply eaten by the wolf, but the Disney-ified versions.
This is ironic, considering that the 'original' fairy tale versions are much closer to reality than the altered ones. Hence the idea of a fairy tale has also shifted, suggesting that a fairy tale is better than reality. This is also where many relationship myths stem from—the belief that the prince of a faraway kingdom will save you from all the travail in life. To think of it like that is simply delusional. The many myths about love and relationships are either black or white, leaving no room for grey areas. Well, this is not how life works. These marriage myths and common misconceptions about love have very little (or nothing) to back their factuality. Even water doesn't exist in just a single shape. It's a shape-shifter. And so is love. And so are relationships. Hence, these myths about love and relationships should never be taken at face value. That which proved true for someone might not work for others simply because there are no universal solutions to fit everyone.
Below, we've compiled a list of some of the most common misconceptions about love and relationships that need to be debunked ASAP. What relationship myths have you heard that sounded absurd or proved themselves wrong? Let us know in the comments. Also, if you are interested in the subject, be sure to check out our previous article featuring bad relationship advice that you should probably think twice about before applying to your life.
#21
You must be “100% sure” when you get married.
None of us can ever be 100% sure about anything. There's a misconception that having second thoughts implies you shouldn't get married, but in most cases, these fears and anxieties are very normal. It takes a lot of commitment to become married. Why wouldn't that worry you a little bit? And if you feel, let's say, 80% ready before you go down the aisle, you should know you're in the majority.
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#22
The ring needs to cost approximately 3-4 months’ salary.
An old wives' tale states that the man (or the one making the proposal) should spend three to four months' worth of wages on the engagement ring. Why this exact amount? How come it shows your devotion to your partner or your readiness to get hitched? Reduce that amount by one-fourth and use the remaining money to pay for your next big outlay, the wedding, as a favor to both you and your future partner. Or put money down for the future.
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#23
Marriage is just a piece of paper.
We are aware that marriage isn't for everyone. Perhaps you tried, and it was different from what you had hoped it would be. Or maybe you and your partner believe it won't make a difference in your relationship. Yet, for many, it's more than just a paper. The vows—the "I will," "I do," and "till death do us part"—they all count. A public statement of love and commitment is only one aspect of marriage. It goes beyond a ritual, a symbol, or a tradition. That piece of paper is an affirmation. A promise. It's not a guarantee for a happy marriage. Yet that paper carries a heavy load of devotion, love, and sacrifice.
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#24
People in happy relationships don't flirt. If they do, they are unhappy and looking for someone else.
Flirting has little to do with your dissatisfaction with a relationship; it is a construct. Yet, as is frequently the case, context is essential. A single instance of flirting is not a warning indication that something is amiss. Still, if your partner flirts in front of you frequently and ignores you, it is more indicative of disrespect. In the bar, casual conversation with another person is usually not a reason for alarm. Still, everything we do can be harmful depending on how we go about it. That might be a simple blunder or a sign of something more serious.
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