Don't let the person who didn't love you keep you from the one that will. Don’t lose yourself by trying to fix what’s meant to stay broken. You can’t get the relationship you need from someone who’s not ready to give it to you. You can't force someone to care for you or be loyal to you. You can't force them to be the person you need them to be. Let it go and take your time to heal. Everyone heals differently and at a different pace.
When a relationship ends due to brokenness, brokenness will either become your truth or your teacher. If brokenness becomes your truth, you will take the same broken bricks and try to build another house. In time, you will either do the work to heal or continue your search until you find a co-dependent. You cannot produce a healthy relationship from an unhealthy heart. The heart cannot let go of what the mind cannot accept. Staring at the grave you were buried in, the relationship that stole your life, that denied your future with sadness is evidence that your soul is in need of repair. Even though you're no longer there, you're no longer with them, you're suffering from post traumatic relationship disorder. People have to recover from people sometimes depending on the depth and the effect of the damage or the condition of our mind. This is not a quick fix, this will take faith therapy, emotional healing, work, time and a will to recover. One thing that you will always find to be true when we suffer from history relationship trauma the present is managed by replays and we struggle to walk into our redo.
Spend time with yourself, learn to love you all over again. The damaged pieces you now carry due to the break up need to be released. When you learn and love to spend time alone you will rediscover the beauty in you. When you heal correctly and learn how to value yourself it will determine the value you give to the love that is being proposed to you. Think that through before you accept what they're offering. What you accept says more about you than it does about them. Anybody can offer love that looks like, feels like, smells like garbage, but acceptance is on us. Don't get mad at them for not loving you right, don't resent them for what you let them get away with. You will know you're not healed if you're still talking about them, and your future is still looking like your past. You've been set free from that toxic relationship. Before you can walk, you have to take off the emotional grave clothes. Take them off, you're not there anymore.
You are not your past and you are not your failed relationship. Stand up and claim your power back. The heart that is meant to love you is waiting for you. Stop replaying the should've, could've, and would've and start walking in power. You deserve exceptional love, anything less should be dismissed.
