33 People Share The Life-Changing Relationship Advice That Stuck With Them Forever

I read a version of this somewhere and it's helped a lot:

"When life gives you challenges, remember that it isn't 'you two against each other', it's 'you two against the problem' "

And that's really stayed with me.

“Never stop dating your partner. Do something every day for no other reason than to make her smile”.

50/50 doesn't work. It has to be 100/100.

The grass will always be greener where it is watered.

Don’t bring up divorce unless you’re really ready to leave.

Give at least one compliment a day.

I once saw advice on Reddit that was along the lines of this: each person in a relationship should strive to do 60% of the work.

This is what you guys were doing.

Cheating and hitting should instantly and irreversibly end any relationship. There is no reason to do anything but leave.

For anyone wondering, what OP did was take something away from his wife's emotional labor.

It's not about doing chores, it's about totally taking things off your spouse's plate. Being a full participant in the home.

Communication be open and honest? Do not withdraw in your own world. Your wife is your partner in life. Keep the conversation going in a positive light. Always try and be positive before and negativity comes into the conversation. Most importantly respect.
You do those things your relationship will stay strong and together you will be a force.

Whomever loves the least, controls the relationship.

You both are settling to different degrees at different times throughout the entirety of your relationship. Keep that in mind during the rough times.

++woman Never make someone a priority who only sees you as an option.

If you're not grown up enough to handle a relationship then don't enter a relationship. So many relationships fall apart because of emotional immaturity on one or both parties behalf.

Don’t keep score.

You’re on the same team. If you’re worried about winning or losing, or who is doing more or less, or what’s fair to you, you’re keeping score. You’re on the same team.

++woman Just because you love someone doesn't mean you should be with them.

Compromise and self reflection. Understand when you're wrong and learn from it, and find a way to come to an agreement. Meet in the middle.

I thought the take featured in the movie Ira and Abby was pretty good. The gist of it is that relationships are work and settling down and being in a relationship with someone is a choice, and it's a choice you have to (re)make regularly. Fun movie, would recommend it.

Don’t fix, just listen.

Never take back a cheater. That is all. That is the post.