“Absolutely Bloody Tragic”: 50 People Reveal Where The Smartest Kid Of Their Class Ended Up

Book smarts, while certainly powerful and impressive, tend to be overhyped. It is far from the only worthwhile attribute that a person can have. Emotional intelligence, the ability to work in a team, confidence, self-discipline, diligence, patience, and even common sense play very important roles throughout our lives, too.

In the narrow sense, an intelligent person is someone who gets good grades, easily understands new information, quickly sees patterns, and has a good memory. In the broad sense, intelligence means that someone is able to apply the knowledge they have to reach the goals they want or need. Knowing lots of trivia and doing well on tests, while certainly something to brag about, is worthless if it’s not applied in a meaningful way.

The MIT Technology Review points out that the most successful people (in terms of wealth) are not the most talented. Rather, they are the luckiest. This idea is supported by research done by Alessandro Pluchino and his colleagues at the University of Catania. The computer model they created found that, in simulations, “the maximum success never coincides with the maximum talent, and vice-versa.”

They explain that luck plays the biggest factor in wealth distribution. “Our simulation clearly shows that such a factor is just pure luck.” They add: “It is evident that the most successful individuals are also the luckiest ones. And the less successful individuals are also the unluckiest ones.”

However, success doesn’t have to correlate with income, assets, and financial prowess at all. It could mean having an active social life, finding time to create and express ourselves, being fit and healthy, or traveling the globe.

An 85-year Harvard study found that by proactively investing in positive relationships, we become more resilient to stress. This leads to us living healthier, happier, and far longer lives. The impact of these relationships is even bigger than exercising or eating well (which are, nonetheless, important, too!). 

So, if you reframe success as happiness and longevity, then your main focus shouldn’t be on earning more money, but on deepening your relationships with the people you care about!