When you're a kid, you're not used to hearing the word 'No' often. As you grow older, it becomes more and more familiar. You get rejected after a job interview, for a scholarship, and, of course, even during a date.
In fact, 70% of Americans claim they've been rejected at least once in their dating lives. Interestingly, about 60% of all rejections happen during the first few minutes of a meeting.
Bored Panda has scoured the internet and found the most brutal rejection stories that people have shared on Reddit. From childhood crushes and sibling affairs to divorces and first dates – rejection is lurking for us everywhere, it seems.
#1
Standing in the rain at night, after two years of dating, I think she is about to tell me that she loves me. Nope. She tells me that she is in love with my brother and has been dating me to get closer to him. I told my brother and he said "Hell no!".
bobmcadoo9088:
Good brother you got.
Anon:
Something tells me you ignored two years worth of signs and whatnot. Must have been very blinded. Happens to the best of us :/
bobmcadoo9088:
Good brother you got.
Anon:
Something tells me you ignored two years worth of signs and whatnot. Must have been very blinded. Happens to the best of us :/
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35points
#2
Many years ago, after getting divorced at 30, I hit the online dating scene. I had essentially never dated as an adult having met my ex-wife in college. I was not prepared for how brutal online dating was. This was in the match/eharmony days, not the apps. First online date, we meet up at a restaurant. She walks in, sees me, and says "Oh, you are much uglier in person" and walks out. Doesn't even sit down.
Everything turned out fine, been happily married for 10 years again. But I thought that was pretty unnecessarily brutal and strange. Dodged a bullet there.
Lvcivs2311:
Dodget a bullet, was my thought. Who would want to date someone like that? At least you found out quickly before she ruined your life or something. Good for you and many happy anniversaries.
cheeseburgerparty100:
I have a similar story. I was in a nightclub, and i saw this girl i thought was quite attractive. I eventually got the courage to go up and approach her, and when i did she said "ewww" and walked away.
Everything turned out fine, been happily married for 10 years again. But I thought that was pretty unnecessarily brutal and strange. Dodged a bullet there.
Lvcivs2311:
Dodget a bullet, was my thought. Who would want to date someone like that? At least you found out quickly before she ruined your life or something. Good for you and many happy anniversaries.
cheeseburgerparty100:
I have a similar story. I was in a nightclub, and i saw this girl i thought was quite attractive. I eventually got the courage to go up and approach her, and when i did she said "ewww" and walked away.
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28points
#3
When I was eight I was on a road trip with my family and my dad got lost. He got REALLY angry when he got lost. So to vent his frustration, he pulled over to a Jack in the Box, had me come in with him (he demanded that only I come with him-- no one else) and to relieve his tensions he sat me down and told me for ten minutes why he didn't like me. From the way I cleaned my room, to the way I did in school, to the way I SPOKE-- he told me how he despised everything about eight year old me. I'll never forget him saying, "I don't like a g*****n thing about you." Hard to take when you're eight and your dad is still Superman to you.
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27points
#4
Dude I was friends with in my teens reached out to me when we were both adults. Flirted, told me he could see something real with me. Invited me out to his place for a weekend. Felt me up, kissed me, told me how much he loved my b***s and spending time with me.
Halfway through I asked what this meant for us (relationship wise) and he said “sorry but you just need to get hotter. I want a trophy wife and you are too fat.”
Broke my heart, since years prior I was bulimic and nearly k**** myself (he knew).
Well, now I’m no longer fat, and he’s happy with some girl.
Only_Taro1118:
Trophy wife?? Girlll that bullet dodged..
throwawaygrosso (OP):
Yep. His ex wife (who was no trophy) cheated on him twice and he was still hung up on her. Now he’s got a new girl and I have no idea what her deal is but man I hope she gets out before it’s too late.
Halfway through I asked what this meant for us (relationship wise) and he said “sorry but you just need to get hotter. I want a trophy wife and you are too fat.”
Broke my heart, since years prior I was bulimic and nearly k**** myself (he knew).
Well, now I’m no longer fat, and he’s happy with some girl.
Only_Taro1118:
Trophy wife?? Girlll that bullet dodged..
throwawaygrosso (OP):
Yep. His ex wife (who was no trophy) cheated on him twice and he was still hung up on her. Now he’s got a new girl and I have no idea what her deal is but man I hope she gets out before it’s too late.
21points
#5
In third grade I wasn't very popular. I was the skinny white kid that wore what his mother made him wear and had no confidence. The bullies were real.
I had two girls in my class suddenly come up to me one day, link arms with me on each side and tell me how 'cute' I was and how they both wanted to be my girlfriend. This went on for days. I was so happy and surprised that any girl liked me, let alone two. We would go to recess together, eat lunch, talk about our day, it was great. I vividly remember both of them mentioning wanting to 'have s*x with' me once. All of this came crashing down though when the girls original boyfriend announced to them their work was done and everyone proceeded to laugh at me while they left and went with him. He had set me up with them just for this moment of humiliation. The girls took turns saying things like 'you think any of us would like you?'
Looking back it was very traumatizing and I'm surprised this occurred at such a young age. It wasn't until I was a junior In highschool that I actually gained some confidence and self worth.
Anon:
They said they wanted to have s*x with you? Makes you wonder what their home life was like if they knew all about that at such a young age.
Anon (OP):
That part always stuck out to me. I had no idea what s*x really was at that time but they obviously had a clue. Kids grow up very differently and it makes me appreciate my parents even more. Yeah it was absolutely inappropriate and cruel but it makes me feel sad for them in a strange way.
I had two girls in my class suddenly come up to me one day, link arms with me on each side and tell me how 'cute' I was and how they both wanted to be my girlfriend. This went on for days. I was so happy and surprised that any girl liked me, let alone two. We would go to recess together, eat lunch, talk about our day, it was great. I vividly remember both of them mentioning wanting to 'have s*x with' me once. All of this came crashing down though when the girls original boyfriend announced to them their work was done and everyone proceeded to laugh at me while they left and went with him. He had set me up with them just for this moment of humiliation. The girls took turns saying things like 'you think any of us would like you?'
Looking back it was very traumatizing and I'm surprised this occurred at such a young age. It wasn't until I was a junior In highschool that I actually gained some confidence and self worth.
Anon:
They said they wanted to have s*x with you? Makes you wonder what their home life was like if they knew all about that at such a young age.
Anon (OP):
That part always stuck out to me. I had no idea what s*x really was at that time but they obviously had a clue. Kids grow up very differently and it makes me appreciate my parents even more. Yeah it was absolutely inappropriate and cruel but it makes me feel sad for them in a strange way.
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#6
Got dumped by the girl I was going to propose to in a foreign city, halfway through a two week vacation. She just disappeared on me. Knew something was up when her luggage disappeared from our hotel room, she ignored every text I sent her, didn't hear from her for six months when she finally sent me a message: "How are you doing?"
I guess she got concerned, or as concerned as a heartless reptile can be, when I stopped updating Facebook, Instagram, and changed all my statuses. She never got a response from me, and went on permanent block. She then tried to blow up my Facebook, until I unfriended her. I may have talked to her had she provided an explanation, but she never did.
Anon:
That's sociopathic behaviour. You deserve so much better.
Tokenvoice:
Would it be similar to say that my ex-wife left me for another bloke and then a few months later discovered that I was about to go to the states for my mates bucks party and just went maniac on me because I didnt tell her, despite deciding it because she had left me.
I guess she got concerned, or as concerned as a heartless reptile can be, when I stopped updating Facebook, Instagram, and changed all my statuses. She never got a response from me, and went on permanent block. She then tried to blow up my Facebook, until I unfriended her. I may have talked to her had she provided an explanation, but she never did.
Anon:
That's sociopathic behaviour. You deserve so much better.
Tokenvoice:
Would it be similar to say that my ex-wife left me for another bloke and then a few months later discovered that I was about to go to the states for my mates bucks party and just went maniac on me because I didnt tell her, despite deciding it because she had left me.
20points
#7
Maybe not BRUTAL, but it definitely makes me laugh in hindsight.
Met up with a girl from Match and we sat down at a restaurant and grabbed the first round of drinks. So far, so good. Decent conversation ten minutes in. She then asks if she can excuse herself a second while she goes to the bathroom. No problem. She walks away and two minutes later, the waitress comes over with the check. I gave her a confused look. Waitress says that she thought we were leaving because my date just walked out the front door and got in her car. Sure enough, ten minutes in was all this woman needed to decide to just back out, not even have the human decency to finish her drink and just run away.
Never even bothered to text her to ask what was up. Finished her drink and then headed back home.
nubosis:
I was on a blind date. Date was going well. On her way to the restroom she met anouther guy, and snuck out the back with him. The bartender saw everything, and gave me free drinks for the night, so at least I had that.
captcorncob:
Bartenders, the heroes we all need.
Met up with a girl from Match and we sat down at a restaurant and grabbed the first round of drinks. So far, so good. Decent conversation ten minutes in. She then asks if she can excuse herself a second while she goes to the bathroom. No problem. She walks away and two minutes later, the waitress comes over with the check. I gave her a confused look. Waitress says that she thought we were leaving because my date just walked out the front door and got in her car. Sure enough, ten minutes in was all this woman needed to decide to just back out, not even have the human decency to finish her drink and just run away.
Never even bothered to text her to ask what was up. Finished her drink and then headed back home.
nubosis:
I was on a blind date. Date was going well. On her way to the restroom she met anouther guy, and snuck out the back with him. The bartender saw everything, and gave me free drinks for the night, so at least I had that.
captcorncob:
Bartenders, the heroes we all need.
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20points
#8
I was in fourth grade. It was my first (and last for many years) time asking someone out. I wrote him a letter (do you want to be my boyfriend?)
He showed at least ten people, they all laughed as I walked away and one of them made sure to point and stare as he laughed. He crumpled up the paper and smirked as he handed it to me.
Not gonna lie... Still hurts a little.
Anon:
I thought people only behaved like this in high school movies as 'Jocks'. What an a*shat. His loss.
Anon:
What's up with all these girls asking guys out... That never happened to anyone I know... Maybe cause I was hideous as f**k at the time.
He showed at least ten people, they all laughed as I walked away and one of them made sure to point and stare as he laughed. He crumpled up the paper and smirked as he handed it to me.
Not gonna lie... Still hurts a little.
Anon:
I thought people only behaved like this in high school movies as 'Jocks'. What an a*shat. His loss.
Anon:
What's up with all these girls asking guys out... That never happened to anyone I know... Maybe cause I was hideous as f**k at the time.
18points
#9
In middle school, there was this morbidly obese girl that liked me and was aggressive about it. I tried to be polite about my disinterest. It wasn't just her size but her personality as well. She was crass and rude and talked about idiotic and disgusting things and just not someone I wanted to associate with. We had the same group of friends and she constantly wrote me notes and hung around my locker and tried to be everywhere I was while pawing at me and putting her arms around me and telling everyone how much she wanted to be my girlfriend. The whole time I never lost it and I just tried to be nice and keep distance between us and let my disinterest be known. It sorta became a joke amongst my friends with them always ribbing me about it.
Flash forward and I move to where I go to a different local high school than most of the kids in my middle school and lost touch with many of them when this girl drives by my new place one weekend and sees me hanging out front and stops and tells me that there is a party at her house and most of my old friends are there and she was just driving to pick up a friend who ended up not being able to come. I think about it and decide I really want to see my old friends (including a couple of girls I *did* have crushes on) so I jump in her truck and go with her as I didn't have a car yet.
When we get there no one else was there and she keeps telling me they were coming as the party is supposed to start later and I am just very early. It was mid afternoon so it was kinda believable. Her parents were gone and she kept trying to give me more and more alcohol while becoming more and more aggressive. She would sit next to me and start touching me inappropriately and I would politely move and she would then try to sit on me (dear god). No matter where I moved she was on top of me and she was a little drunk making her that much braver and inappropriate to where I finally asked where the restroom was and went in and locked the door and climbed out the window and walked home. As I climbed out the window she was knocking on the door asking me to hurry because she had a surprise for me. To this day I shudder to think what it was. I sprinted the first several blocks and then winded my way through odd streets afraid she would show up in her truck. I felt bad about it. For dissing someone so hard for just liking me but realized it was more than that.
I didn't see her for years after that until one night I was in a club and the waitress kept bringing me drinks from someone but would not say who. Drinks with names like Sloe Comfortable Screw and Orgasm and S*x On The Beach with the waitress making a note of the name of the drink when she dropped it off. The hint was very clear albeit very forward. I scoured the place hoping to get a clue who was flirting with me to no avail. Finally after no one revealed themselves I figured it was just some shy girl being bold with her flirtations or a joke of some kind so I got ready to leave and she showed up looking and acting the same and said it was her (I have no idea where she was that I didn't see her but this was a two story club) and wanted me to go home with her to which I made excuses and left. I have never seen or heard from her since.
TLDR: Climbed out a bathroom window to get away from an admirer.
Flash forward and I move to where I go to a different local high school than most of the kids in my middle school and lost touch with many of them when this girl drives by my new place one weekend and sees me hanging out front and stops and tells me that there is a party at her house and most of my old friends are there and she was just driving to pick up a friend who ended up not being able to come. I think about it and decide I really want to see my old friends (including a couple of girls I *did* have crushes on) so I jump in her truck and go with her as I didn't have a car yet.
When we get there no one else was there and she keeps telling me they were coming as the party is supposed to start later and I am just very early. It was mid afternoon so it was kinda believable. Her parents were gone and she kept trying to give me more and more alcohol while becoming more and more aggressive. She would sit next to me and start touching me inappropriately and I would politely move and she would then try to sit on me (dear god). No matter where I moved she was on top of me and she was a little drunk making her that much braver and inappropriate to where I finally asked where the restroom was and went in and locked the door and climbed out the window and walked home. As I climbed out the window she was knocking on the door asking me to hurry because she had a surprise for me. To this day I shudder to think what it was. I sprinted the first several blocks and then winded my way through odd streets afraid she would show up in her truck. I felt bad about it. For dissing someone so hard for just liking me but realized it was more than that.
I didn't see her for years after that until one night I was in a club and the waitress kept bringing me drinks from someone but would not say who. Drinks with names like Sloe Comfortable Screw and Orgasm and S*x On The Beach with the waitress making a note of the name of the drink when she dropped it off. The hint was very clear albeit very forward. I scoured the place hoping to get a clue who was flirting with me to no avail. Finally after no one revealed themselves I figured it was just some shy girl being bold with her flirtations or a joke of some kind so I got ready to leave and she showed up looking and acting the same and said it was her (I have no idea where she was that I didn't see her but this was a two story club) and wanted me to go home with her to which I made excuses and left. I have never seen or heard from her since.
TLDR: Climbed out a bathroom window to get away from an admirer.
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#10
In 7th grade, I asked a girl out in front of her friends in the hallway after school so I guess she decided to have some fun. She said she had a boyfriend named Waikiki. I was kind of bummed but I gracefully walked away and thought that was that. Then, she later revealed, in front of the whole class, that he was made up (guess the name should have given it away) and that I was a total loser she didn't want in her life period.
I would not relive elementary or middle school even if I was offered a trillion dollars. Kids can be the most vile creatures in the world before they develop empathy.
I would not relive elementary or middle school even if I was offered a trillion dollars. Kids can be the most vile creatures in the world before they develop empathy.
16points
#11
I got rejected when I wasn't even trying to hit on the guy. A few years ago in December, I was at a bar with a friend when a guy dressed as Santa Claus was walking around. He walked up to my friend and said something like "Santa's giving out gifts, and all the pretty girls get one for free!" and handed her a trinket.
Then he looked at me up-and-down and added, "Yeah, you'd have to pay.".
CornbreadMonsta:
You missed out on the gift of STD's he was offering. Shame.
ramblinator:
This reminds me of when I was 12, I had just bought myself a bunch of Reeses minis and I knew my little sister would want some. So I went up to her and said "hello! I'm giving away candy to ugly poor children! Did you want any?" I thought it was hilarious.
Then he looked at me up-and-down and added, "Yeah, you'd have to pay.".
CornbreadMonsta:
You missed out on the gift of STD's he was offering. Shame.
ramblinator:
This reminds me of when I was 12, I had just bought myself a bunch of Reeses minis and I knew my little sister would want some. So I went up to her and said "hello! I'm giving away candy to ugly poor children! Did you want any?" I thought it was hilarious.
15points
#12
I had someone come up to me and say they liked me. I smiled, then they said "hahahaha just kidding. You're a loser."
That s**t stings for months, man.
Edit: I was 11. Although I still know people who would do this.
lollollollol12:
The ones where it hurts your heart but you keep smiling.
That s**t stings for months, man.
Edit: I was 11. Although I still know people who would do this.
lollollollol12:
The ones where it hurts your heart but you keep smiling.
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#13
Kid I was low key crushing on in elementary school said, "Hey, Hyde, you're pretty." Followed swiftly by, "Pretty *ugly*." Pretended it was hilarious.
F**k you, Will.
Alashazz:
Well, I find it funny. Sorry for you tho.
F**k you, Will.
Alashazz:
Well, I find it funny. Sorry for you tho.
15points
#14
I was going through a real tough spot emotionally after my wife left me, and after a few weeks of pouting alone in my apartment I got talked into going out to a dance club with some friends. One of my friends found this group of girls who were all pretty and we all danced together until we closed the place down. There was one girl that I liked in particular and she seemed to like me too... We danced a lot. Even when the DJ played a slow dance song. After we all closed the place down I asked if we could see each other again and she said, "Sure! I bowl every Wednesday night at the bowling alley". We had talked earlier and had a love of bowling in common, so this was great. I told her I'd meet her there a 7pm and we went our separate ways.
Wednesday night I get to the bowling alley, and she's on lane 17 with like 4 other girls and two guys. I walk over with my bowling ball bag and stand near her until she makes eye contact, and when she does it conveys a look of *who the f**k are you?*
ME: Hi Emily
Her: Hi?
**awkward silence**
ME: It's Michael. We met at the dance club last Saturday...
Her: Oh, how are you?
ME: Good, ready to bowl!
Her: Actually, we don't want any other people on our lane because we won't be able to get two full games in if we do. Why don't you get the lane next to us?
ME (already starting to dread this): OK.
So I go up and pay the hourly rental fee for lane 18, get a pitcher of beer and head back. As I'm entering my name a bowling alley employee came up and said, "Sir, we cannot have just one person on a lane, there's a two person minimum, and a larger group just came in. I need you to bowl on another lane, or ask the group waiting if you can join them".
ME (looking at Emily): Emily, would you like to bowl on this lane with me? Apparently the other guy at the counter made a mistake. It's a two person minimum per lane.
Emily: Ummm, no, I came here to bowl with my friends, I don't think it'd be right to leave them... Sorry.
Me: Ok, maybe another time.
I got my things together, and told the employee that the new group could apply my paid lane fee to their bill, and offered them my unpoured pitcher of Mack and Jack's African Amber beer (it's delicious).
I was completely emotionally broken AGAIN for a while, and it led to spending a lot of time looking out of my apartment bedroom window overlooking a Kmart parking lot.
Wednesday night I get to the bowling alley, and she's on lane 17 with like 4 other girls and two guys. I walk over with my bowling ball bag and stand near her until she makes eye contact, and when she does it conveys a look of *who the f**k are you?*
ME: Hi Emily
Her: Hi?
**awkward silence**
ME: It's Michael. We met at the dance club last Saturday...
Her: Oh, how are you?
ME: Good, ready to bowl!
Her: Actually, we don't want any other people on our lane because we won't be able to get two full games in if we do. Why don't you get the lane next to us?
ME (already starting to dread this): OK.
So I go up and pay the hourly rental fee for lane 18, get a pitcher of beer and head back. As I'm entering my name a bowling alley employee came up and said, "Sir, we cannot have just one person on a lane, there's a two person minimum, and a larger group just came in. I need you to bowl on another lane, or ask the group waiting if you can join them".
ME (looking at Emily): Emily, would you like to bowl on this lane with me? Apparently the other guy at the counter made a mistake. It's a two person minimum per lane.
Emily: Ummm, no, I came here to bowl with my friends, I don't think it'd be right to leave them... Sorry.
Me: Ok, maybe another time.
I got my things together, and told the employee that the new group could apply my paid lane fee to their bill, and offered them my unpoured pitcher of Mack and Jack's African Amber beer (it's delicious).
I was completely emotionally broken AGAIN for a while, and it led to spending a lot of time looking out of my apartment bedroom window overlooking a Kmart parking lot.
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#15
Not me but I was setting up a female friend of mine with a guy I knew and I got her to agree then I told him and he said "Did you send her a picture of me?"
I hadn't, because he's a normal looking guy and she'd already agreed. Then I sent her a picture and she responds "Left swipe".
I hadn't, because he's a normal looking guy and she'd already agreed. Then I sent her a picture and she responds "Left swipe".
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#16
History class in 6th grade. teacher made the class pair up for an assignment. i was paired with this girl who looked at me and immediately put her hands near her upper chest and went "eeeeeeeeeew" like she just saw a mouse run by. i was chubby and wore s****y clothes so it wasn't confusing as to why.
bloodbruise:
6th grade I bought a Valentine's present for my crush, put it on her desk during lunch while she was out. She came back and for whatever reason didn't understand it was hers. Instead she took it to the teacher who stood in front of class and said "who's is this?". I replied that I wanted to give it to my crush, my crush looked at me, her face twisted into disgust, and she said the same thing, "eeeeeeew". Needless to say I was embarrassed in front of my whole class and felt like a dweeb. I wasn't chubby, I was super skinny and had 0 confidence.
bloodbruise:
6th grade I bought a Valentine's present for my crush, put it on her desk during lunch while she was out. She came back and for whatever reason didn't understand it was hers. Instead she took it to the teacher who stood in front of class and said "who's is this?". I replied that I wanted to give it to my crush, my crush looked at me, her face twisted into disgust, and she said the same thing, "eeeeeeew". Needless to say I was embarrassed in front of my whole class and felt like a dweeb. I wasn't chubby, I was super skinny and had 0 confidence.
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#17
I was at a party in high school and I made a move on my crush at the time. She turned me down quickly, and that was that...until the next school day. She apparently went around telling everyone that we hooked up, but I had a tiny p***s and I had trouble getting it up.
She not only refused my request, but assured no one at the high school would ever think about getting with me.
She not only refused my request, but assured no one at the high school would ever think about getting with me.
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#18
High School dance, I decided to try to put together a little get together with some friends and some friends of the girl I was taking to the dance. Had numerous people say they were going to come by and thought everything was solid.
After dinner and the dance, she said she wasn't feeling well and I took her home.
I went home to prepare for the guests because I figured this would still be an OK evening.
Not a single person showed up.
I found out later that the girl wanted to go do something else afterward with another guy, and everyone just had something else (better) to do.
I felt like I was rejected by the girl and numerous friends, and it felt like a gut punch.
I went to a dark place for a while after that, and haven't really had any significant friendships since then.
I am currently happily married, have a great family, and may do some after-work stuff with co-workers, but I still don't have any significant friendships that I could call dependable.
Still quite happy though.
After dinner and the dance, she said she wasn't feeling well and I took her home.
I went home to prepare for the guests because I figured this would still be an OK evening.
Not a single person showed up.
I found out later that the girl wanted to go do something else afterward with another guy, and everyone just had something else (better) to do.
I felt like I was rejected by the girl and numerous friends, and it felt like a gut punch.
I went to a dark place for a while after that, and haven't really had any significant friendships since then.
I am currently happily married, have a great family, and may do some after-work stuff with co-workers, but I still don't have any significant friendships that I could call dependable.
Still quite happy though.
12points
#19
I've told this story in other threads, but perhaps this is the most appropriate of them all.
Ask female friend of mine to be my date to an upcoming dance, she declines, and I don't see it as big of a deal. In the coming days, I found that she and her friends had spread gossip/rumors about me being a creep/stalker, even to the point where women I had never even spoken a word to gave me a disgusted snarl if I so much as glanced at them.
Of course, the salt in the wound is that literally every single one of my friends were able to snag dates, and I was literally the only guy among that group of friends to never get asked to the next dance (a dance where the tradition had the girl asking the guy to be her date).
Needless to say, it shattered whatever confidence I may have had, and has me rolling my eyes at "The worst she can do is say no"
Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't have said yes to me either back then. I was a desperate kid just wanting to be accepted and not be treated like I was some sort of monster. A simple "no" would have sufficed however.
Feltica:
Oh my god, I did this in middle school. I am so sorry. I even told his mom I thought he was stalking me. To be fair, he would follow me to like every class.
Ask female friend of mine to be my date to an upcoming dance, she declines, and I don't see it as big of a deal. In the coming days, I found that she and her friends had spread gossip/rumors about me being a creep/stalker, even to the point where women I had never even spoken a word to gave me a disgusted snarl if I so much as glanced at them.
Of course, the salt in the wound is that literally every single one of my friends were able to snag dates, and I was literally the only guy among that group of friends to never get asked to the next dance (a dance where the tradition had the girl asking the guy to be her date).
Needless to say, it shattered whatever confidence I may have had, and has me rolling my eyes at "The worst she can do is say no"
Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't have said yes to me either back then. I was a desperate kid just wanting to be accepted and not be treated like I was some sort of monster. A simple "no" would have sufficed however.
Feltica:
Oh my god, I did this in middle school. I am so sorry. I even told his mom I thought he was stalking me. To be fair, he would follow me to like every class.
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#20
More "weird and funny" in hindsight, but felt weird and brutal at the time:
University years, I'm nerdy, loser-y girl, in a hopeless crush, yadda yadda. Then, suddenly, one guy asks me on a date. And on a second one. I almost start thinking that maybe I'm not that much of a loser.
Then he - a bit arbitrary - asks me what is my Rh factor. I have no idea and reply, "negative". He sighs, "you know you gonna have pregnancy problems if your man is Rh-positive, right?"
I'm trying to process that a random guy plans my pregnancy. What? Should I joke? Should I run? He continues:
"Oh well. You know, actually, I have a girlfrend, sorry, let's just be friends".
We never talked again, so, alas, I still don't know whether he actually cared about Rh-factor or maybe he just likes weird excuses.
Or maybe he's a vampire of very particular tastes. Who knows.
University years, I'm nerdy, loser-y girl, in a hopeless crush, yadda yadda. Then, suddenly, one guy asks me on a date. And on a second one. I almost start thinking that maybe I'm not that much of a loser.
Then he - a bit arbitrary - asks me what is my Rh factor. I have no idea and reply, "negative". He sighs, "you know you gonna have pregnancy problems if your man is Rh-positive, right?"
I'm trying to process that a random guy plans my pregnancy. What? Should I joke? Should I run? He continues:
"Oh well. You know, actually, I have a girlfrend, sorry, let's just be friends".
We never talked again, so, alas, I still don't know whether he actually cared about Rh-factor or maybe he just likes weird excuses.
Or maybe he's a vampire of very particular tastes. Who knows.
11points