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“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them

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There are very few things as annoying as people so arrogant and narcissistic that they think they’re far smarter than they think they are. Sadly, the world is full of men who have embraced the Dunning-Kruger effect and can’t wait to show off their ‘knowledge,’ only to end up embarrassing themselves in public.
Women vented their frustrations in a viral thread, where they shamed toxic men for the most absurd things that they have ever mansplained to them. If you think that nobody would be shameless enough to tell someone that their own name was spelled wrong, think again.

#1

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
How menstruation worked and why I should be happy to be (at the time 54) and still having regular periods.
I'm an actual Dr. who completed medical school and residency but he knew more because his wife had gone through menopause and it was terrible for him. FOR HIM.
39points

#2

My (then) husband telling me when I was pregnant, that morning sickness was all in my head and not throwing up was mind over matter. The next day he stepped in cat vomit and ran to the bathroom to puke. I lovingly shouted "Mind over matter!" through the bathroom door.
32points

#3

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
When I was lecturing on a bar review book 1 wrote a male student insisted I didn't understand it and should talk to the man who wrote it.
I explained I was a co-author.
He refused to believe me. He assumed the two surnames on the cover were the name of the man who wrote it, instead of surnames the two women who wrote it.
When I opened up the book, turned to the back page and showed him my photo (and my co-author's) he was furious.
30points

Put simply, the Dunning-Kruger effect means that people overestimate their knowledge or ability in a specific area. This cognitive bias tends to have its roots in people’s general lack of self-awareness, which means that they can’t accurately gauge their skills.

“Confidence is so highly prized that many people would rather pretend to be smart or skilled than risk looking inadequate and losing face. Even smart people can be affected by the Dunning-Kruger effect, because having intelligence isn’t the same thing as learning and developing a specific skill. Many individuals mistakenly believe that their experience and skills in one particular area are transferable to another, which can worsen overconfidence,” Psychology Today explains.

Appearing confident creates the illusion of competence and persuasiveness. And seeing as many people are driven by the desire for status, power, and looking smarter than others, it is no surprise that they’ll project this (fake) sense of confidence.

However, overestimating your competence can be dangerous because it can lead you to push yourself beyond your limits, potentially injuring yourself.

#4

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
I'd just gotten back from vacation and was showing my friends some of my souvenirs, when the guy who sat across the aisle decided to explain to me what the TARDIS is and how it works.
Gentle Readers, my vacation was to attend a Doctor Who convention. My souvenirs included a mini TARDIS figurine and a sonic screwdriver toy.
I KNOW WHAT A TARDIS IS, POINTEXTER.
26points

#5

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
A guy didn't know what mansplaining was so I went to tell him and another guy spoke over me to explain mansplaining. So I pointed and him and said 'this is mansplaining'
24points

#6

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
My chronic illness, that hes never suffered from. Started to tell me how I could've "avoided" it. Never wanted to punch a random man in the face so bad lol
25points

“Many people would describe themselves as above average in intelligence, humor, and a variety of skills. They can’t accurately judge their own competence, because they lack metacognition, or the ability to step back and examine oneself objectively. In fact, those who are the least skilled are also the most likely to overestimate their abilities.”

Ironically, the effect is found even in individuals who are rated highly in knowledge of a skill. Even they overestimate their ability to some degree.

Staying humble and grounded requires that you continue exploring a topic you think you’re already an expert in. This way, you can recognize how much you still have to master.

#7

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
I was on the train talking to a friend about the day I had volunteering in a prison. I was a criminology student at the time working toward a master's degree. A man sitting across from me piped up and started to explain my own degree to me. He was all kinds of wrong and I just turned to him and said, "I'm curious as to when you were invited into this discussion?"
Shut him up real quick.
26points

#8

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
A guy once argued with me for a good few minutes that the name Tina is not short for anything. My commonly used name is Tina. People around us started chuckling whenever he stated "you CANNOT lengthen it!". I let him dig his hole a bit. Then showed him my driving licence. Christina. He just sort of stood there looking like a fish...uh... yes... well...
22points

#9

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
I know I'm not the target market for this question, but I once watched a guy mansplain to my VERY pregnant wife what the experience of being pregnant was like because he'd read a book about it. We were with a group of friends and all shut him down pretty quick.
20points

Something else that you can do is to regularly question your knowledge base. Challenge yourself and look for ways that you might be wrong. In other words, you have to be willing to second-guess your conclusions instead of automatically accepting them.

It also helps if you actively reach out to actual experts who can help you fill in your knowledge blind spots. And if you’re willing to ask for and weather constructive criticism from your colleagues and friends, you’re well on your way to improving.

#10

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
In a comment section back-and-forth, a man kept telling me I didn't understand feminism. I finally asked him what he thought it was. He copied a link into a thread to an article, a definition of feminism.
I responded: "Check that byline." He had sent me a link TO AN ARTICLE I WROTE. He disappeared quickly.
19points

#11

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
A white man once explained to me, A brown woman who speaks 9 languages and has a degree in linguistics, how my mother tongue ( a language he did not speak) works. He was very wrong.
19points

#12

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
A man explained to me how Tara, Ontario was named after Tara, the plantation in Gone with the Wind. I was studying Celtic mythology at the time & didn't bother to correct him & damn near gave myself an aneurysm not rolling my eyes.
19points

When is the last time someone tried to mansplain something to you, and how did that go? We all have some knowledge blind spots, but do you know anyone who is the walking, talking representation of the Dunning-Kruger effect?

How do you try to improve your self-awareness of your blind spots despite being so busy with so many responsibilities every day?

Share your stories about toxic and ignorant people, as well as any advice you have for dealing with them, in the comments.

#13

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
My husband the other day explained to me, as we were ordering pizza (which admittedly we don't do very often) that if there was something I didn't like or something I wanted on a pizza, I could just ask when we order. I looked at him in silence... he stopped... "This is mansplaining, isn't it?" "No, no, do go on. How does one order pizza? This WILL become a meme in our house.
21points

#14

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
My most recent ex told me I was wrong about Texas ever having been an independent country. I have been saturated in Texas history my entire 44 years and have been on a private tour of the Texas State Archives and seen the original maps of the Republic of Texas: 1836-1845
16points

#15

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
My new young male manager tried to explain to me the HR reporting system that I single handedly built for company-wide use.
16points

#16

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
Years ago I had a guy mansplain that menstrual cramps were all in our heads and we women make them up for attention
16points

#17

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
I was in Prague and my friend's Russian roommate was trying to explain how the US welfare system works to me.
I'm from the US.
I have a masters in social work. That I earned in the US.
16points

#18

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
A man tried to convince me that my house number was wrong. I was born and had lived all my life at the same address, the house number was 9, but no, ! was definitely wrong because he was sure it was 10.
(There wasn't even a number 10 in my street.)
15points

#19

“So Confident In His Wrongness”: Women Are Calling Out 61 Absurd Things Men Mansplained To Them
Not to me but I saw with my own eyes as I stood in the TSA line last week: an old guy behind me (beside me as the line snaked around) stood there and mansplained Jesus to ... wait for it. Two nuns.
14points

#20

A man told me once how much women love to wear bras.
15points
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