“I Saw The Separate Group Chat”: 50 Horrible Realizations That Ended Friendships

When I stopped reaching out or checking in first . No one has checked in on me in months even though they new exactly what ive been going through.

When I became disabled and they disappeared.

People can like you, but not care about you. It was eye opening the day I learned that.

When I realised I was an afterthought.

When we were in 7th grade, a girl in our friend group was hospitalized for a serious condition. I went down to visit her several times with my dad, brought her a Frappuccino etc. One Saturday, I showed up with my dad with her frappe and there was all the other girls visiting her. It sucked knowing I wasn’t invited as a part of the group. I just assumed all the rest were going down alone with their parents as well. They were all very awkward and stand-offish towards me at the hospital, including the mom who brought them all down to visit.

Shortly after, the entire group stopped texting me or answering my phone calls. I would call the sick girl’s landline and ask for her and you could tell her mom or sister who answered the phone asked if she wanted to speak to me then pretended my friend wasn’t there and she’d call me back. She never called me back. So I stopped texting them or calling them after that. None of them ever tried to contact me except years later one of them tried to friend me on Facebook but I declined. Not sure what I did wrong.

I nearly died, was in the hospital seriously injured, then was in a wheelchair for months. I’m fully healed now, but anyone who didn’t reach out to me during that time is no longer considered a friend. I do not reach out on their birthdays or holidays. It seems like they haven’t even noticed.

I moved countries. 6 months in, I realised while I'd been calling them every week, they hadn't called me once. I decided to stop calling them and wait for them to ring me. Haven't heard from any of them for 2 months and counting.

Had what I thought was a very close, friend. Believed him to be an honorable person.

But… When I saw a coworker at a restaurant. He pulled me aside and told me my so called friend was s**t talking about me. I couldn’t believe it.

I helped him fix his home. Built his deck. Spoke highly of him and his wife.

The coworker called over another guy and he confirmed the story.

Heart breaking to say the least.

Realized people weren’t my friends when they put in more work to put me down than lift me up. Also seeing how they would turn against me around others. I cut everyone off and I stay away from people as much as I can now.

When I chose to stop reaching out to see how long it would take them to do it. They didnt.

After I lost my best friend I started drinking quite a lot. After trying to take a break my friends persuaded me to go out for a friends birthday. After being encouraged to drink loads before we went into town, I ended up drinking so much I could barely walk. Saying I was going to go home, obviously when everyone’s having fun..that wasn’t going to happen. Long story short we had to pull over in the taxi so I could be sick. Basically I was told another taxi would get me and take me home. I was left passed out on the side of the road in a bush. No phone, no money (my friends accidentally took it with them) and nothing but a little dress I was wearing. All I remember was the taxi never showed, woke up with my dress around my waist. And sadly at the time being depressed and s******l, I can only remember trying to jump infront of cars. Until ‘apparently’ these 2 women found me and somehow managed to drive me home back to my mum safely. Then to have my stuff dropped off the next day by a friend. About 10 of my friends left me almost half naked, unconscious, mentally unstable and with no money/contacts to get home. Didn’t even get an apology as ‘it was my own fault’.
My long a*s story of when I realised my ‘friends’ weren’t who I thought they were.
P.s. in a better place now with completely new and real friends 🤣🤷🏻‍♀️.

When I realised I was getting burnt out from seeing them or hearing from them. They would always come to me and would constantly have problems, never want to do anything fun. Always ask for a lift or money, etc, without paying me back. It was like I was an ATM and chauffeur. One of my so-called friends actually tried to make me feel bad for being unable to drive him somewhere at the drop of a hat because I was more than 70 miles away at the time.

When you feel better away from them than with them.

When I saw the separate group chat by accident.

When I quit drinking.

They started saying "Libtards" unironically and sent me an uncomfortable amount of Ben Shapiro memes, also unironically.

When they started to become racist to people of color. Pretty much dropped them after that.

At age 22 when my father died and only one of them showed up to the funeral. I immediately wrote the others off.

I have always been the *foster friend*

Aka their friend until they get their s**t together and no longer need me.

I realised when no one could be bothered to celebrate my 30th birthday... Now I keep a few "friends" but they're really just acquaintances who also ignore my birthday every year.

When I heard my so-called "friends" talking trash about me behind my back. I always advise people now **look at the pattern of actions people do, not their words, to see their true feelings.**.