We’ve all encountered that one person we thought we knew well enough, only to have them show their true colors. Such revelations can be disheartening, especially if someone close is involved.
This was the discussion in a recent Reddit thread when one user asked, “What’s a moment where you realized someone around you was actually a terrible person?” People candidly spoke about friends and family members whom they’ve since seen in a much worse light.
If you have a similar experience that sticks out, feel free to share it in the comments below.
#41
Mother of my daughter's friend. It started with me saying I felt so bad because I sent a PB&J to school with my daughter. It's not a peanut free school but their police is to isolate the kid with allergies if there is someone with peanuts at their table. I didn't know that and I felt bad. This woman laughed and said her kids only ate peanut butter and she didn't feel bad at all. Her kids have ASD and she was adamant that they deserve all the accomodations but she was literally laughing about potentially causing an allergic reaction in another kid. Then she made fun of "welfare queens" which is bad enough but in the next breath told me her inlaws support her family because her husband has been going back to school for 12 years but they're "not like those people". Then came Covid and I assume I don't even have to say it but suffice it to say, she doesn't care if your Grandma died because Mama needed to get her Little Debbies and masks aren't cute. I was really glad when my daughter and this girl started moving in different social circles. I actually liked the daughter a lot but her mom was not my people.
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22points
#42
Nye. Random young drunk girl knocks on my door sobbing, not making sense, clearly distressed… “friend” says “shut the door in her face, not our problem.” Hmmm you are no longer my problem, this kid is.
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22points
#43
I told them I was buying a house and the guy started talking about how that was a bad idea and how he and his girlfriend (who both lived with his grandparent) had a lot expensive musical equipment to record her stuff because they didn't spend money to do stuff like *owning their own house*.
For the record, I wasn't spending money I didn't have or anything. My musical carreer was doing fine and not once since that day I've struggled.
He just wanted to take that moment away from me because it was probably the first time in years I was achieving something they hadn't.
For the record, I wasn't spending money I didn't have or anything. My musical carreer was doing fine and not once since that day I've struggled.
He just wanted to take that moment away from me because it was probably the first time in years I was achieving something they hadn't.
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21points
#44
When I was maybe 14 or 15 I was watching TV and a PSA for drinking and driving came on. Not a new one I had never seen, but I actually saw it this time, ya know? Then I thought about all the times my Dad drank and drove me and my brother home from the bar he dragged us to, I was there so often I had a tab. I was back living with Mom at that point, for good.
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20points
#45
My mother threatened to kick me out and disown me for not skipping work to drive her to a liposuction appointment.
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20points
#46
I thought we were best friends, but looking back she wasn’t a really good friend. She would make situations focused on herself even if they weren’t about her. For example, I really wanted a prom date to get the full experience, but she told me she felt insulted because she offered for me to go in the limo she was going in with her boyfriend. Yeah, she invited me to third wheel. She also refused to ever visit me or stay at my place. Even when she got her license and we graduated HS, she would make plans for us to hang out and then cancel day of saying she couldn’t drive to mine. Our friendship ended on my 20th birthday. I had invited her to come to my family’s house to swim and eat. She would’ve been the only friend there except for family because my friends in nursing school had clinicals and my other friend was sick. She had work in the morning, so I texted her to verify that she was coming. She said that she felt too tired from work and wanted to rest at home. I told her we weren’t even doing anything, just hanging out in the hot tub. She still refused. I told her whatever. That was the last we really talked. I still wonder from time to time what went wrong.
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17points
#47
Couldn’t ever be happy for friends around them. Got a raise? Why couldn’t *they* get a raise?
Got a relationship? Why couldn’t *they* get a relationship? Everything was woe is me why can’t *I* get those things without ever working at it?! It should all be willing and ready to be given to me!!
Got a relationship? Why couldn’t *they* get a relationship? Everything was woe is me why can’t *I* get those things without ever working at it?! It should all be willing and ready to be given to me!!
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17points
#48
God. These are all awful!
So...uhmm...my boss just acts super nice and then threw me under the bus in a major client enquiry when the company was under scrutiny for insider trading. I had to fix it as a junior social media manager. She didn't have my back. Not once. So, I quit.
So...uhmm...my boss just acts super nice and then threw me under the bus in a major client enquiry when the company was under scrutiny for insider trading. I had to fix it as a junior social media manager. She didn't have my back. Not once. So, I quit.
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17points
#49
Mom's now boyfriend, destroyed the marriage she had with a great guy that I was happy to call my step-dad. Then after the divorce they started dating after a few months of dating mfr cheated on her. My mom keeps bringing him back even after all the things he's done to her. At one point I punched him bcs of the things coming out of his mouth. He sexualizes everything he even made a dirty joke after my 5 year old daughter made a comment on his white hairs.
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17points
#50
My partner at the time started waking me up in the middle of the night for different reasons "you're on my side of the bed", "you keep grinding your teeth" etc. never kindly, sometimes yelling. I asked her firmly to please stop it as it was making me tired and irritable.
She did, but then I started getting these mysterious bruises on my arm.
A couple of nights after noticing the first bruise I woke up right as I saw her hitting me while I had been asleep. She quickly rolled away pretending she was already asleep.
She did, but then I started getting these mysterious bruises on my arm.
A couple of nights after noticing the first bruise I woke up right as I saw her hitting me while I had been asleep. She quickly rolled away pretending she was already asleep.
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16points
#51
When talking about being depressed they said “want me to read you a bible verse?” Knowing the depressed person is a raging atheist.
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16points
#52
I wouldn't say I judged people as terrible. But I would say some people showed me their true colors and it changed the way I saw them.
I always used to think one friend on mine was the victim in her relationships. I felt so sorry for her hearing about how guys always left her behind and betrayed her trust. Until I saw the pattern, that she was always the victim, no matter how many times she settled down and found a new partner that really respected her.
But all of her relationships ended the same way. Her partner left, she claimed they were evil incarnate. Not one of those guys ever beat her, but somehow they were all toxic or gaslighting her. And like 5-10 guys? You're telling me they were all terrible?
I guess I still sort of pity her, and I wouldn't say she's terrible. She had a hard life. But now I would keep my distance from her and would not necessarily judge all of her exes without hearing their side of it. I wish her well, I really do, but at some point you should take responsibility for your own life and stop blaming everyone else.
I always used to think one friend on mine was the victim in her relationships. I felt so sorry for her hearing about how guys always left her behind and betrayed her trust. Until I saw the pattern, that she was always the victim, no matter how many times she settled down and found a new partner that really respected her.
But all of her relationships ended the same way. Her partner left, she claimed they were evil incarnate. Not one of those guys ever beat her, but somehow they were all toxic or gaslighting her. And like 5-10 guys? You're telling me they were all terrible?
I guess I still sort of pity her, and I wouldn't say she's terrible. She had a hard life. But now I would keep my distance from her and would not necessarily judge all of her exes without hearing their side of it. I wish her well, I really do, but at some point you should take responsibility for your own life and stop blaming everyone else.
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15points
#53
When I told a close friend I worked with that I resigned, and she said ‘good, it’s been painful working with you’. She wasn’t joking.
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15points
#54
They were laughing and said they loved to annoy me after saying something mean to me. - I wrote it down but waited a day or two to tell them to get out. They were a narcissist and made excuses for dozens of cruel jokes but forgot that one moment when the truth leaked out of their nasty mouth. I got rid of them but they still stole a few of my things-but it was worth it.
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14points
#55
I realized a friend was a terrible person when they laughed at someone getting genuinely hurt just to make a joke. Like a silly scene from a movie.
That moment stuck with me.
That moment stuck with me.
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14points
#56
My ‘step grandmother’ couldn’t understand why my brother didn’t just leave his kids with his ex wife and start a new life, rather than fighting for custody.
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13points
#57
When I told my husband of 28 years that I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him and for that to happen he needs to be with only me and he immediately said no.
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10points
#58
He went off on how he did not need to be made a part of trans people's mental issues and how it was grammatically incorrect to call a person by a pronoun that did not agree with their birth certificate. The he sent me a video from Matt Walsh to make his argument so I found out he was also racist. I cut him off not long after.
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9points
#59
A friend of mine had been very overweight her entire life. At her heaviest she was probably close to 300 pounds. She got married to a very sweet guy, and I feel like she essentially forced him into the marriage. After they got married she did keto and exercised a lot and probably lost close to 150 pounds. She then filed for divorce and had a boyfriend weeks after filing.
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6points


