Despite someone’s best efforts, not every relationship is destined to actually work out. Possibly one of the saddest feelings are the one-sided texts, the constant need to initiate, and the feeling that something is off. Still, many people persist, often deluding themselves that all will be ok.
Someone asked men “When did you realize that she's not into you and you should move on?” and netizens shared their moments of clarity. So settle in, prepare to get a little uncomfortable as you read through, and be sure to upvote the most interesting examples. If you’ve been in a similar situation, feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section below.
#21
Usually either:
I am putting all the work into making conversation
I've tried to arrange something concrete in terms of going on a date and I've been dodged
Either are a good indication that things are going nowhere and it's time to move on.
14points
#22
When I asked her out and she said "Sure, we could go on a date. I don't know what the point would be" Ice cold. I didn't mind the pain of the rejection, because the rejection was so well played.
14points
#23
When my friends told me she was using me to get back at her ex.
They were right.
14points
#24
Got ghosted for weeks at a time, but stayed because I was emotionally vulnerable and belittled into staying
Don’t worry she’s long gone.
14points
#25
When she emptied my bank account and got pregnant by another man, I finally figured it out -- after she left with all her stuff
13points
#26
After she said she liked me but couldn’t get into a relationship at the time, then a couple weeks later she was in a relationship with someone else.
12points
#27
Once upon a time, I matched with a girl on OKCupid and we set up a date. We get there sit down and order drinks. Once the drinks arrive she sllooks at me, "I'm glad we had a chance to get together but if I'm being honest? I just don't think I could ever be sexually attracted to you." I finished my drink quickly, put money on the table and walked the hell out.
In hindsight, I appreciate the honesty, but geeze. You knew what I looked like. Why did you agree to the date in the first place?
12points
#28
She basically turned me into one of her girlfriends and started telling me about her "h*e phase" she was having at 40 years old. Took me a few months to realize that she's a giant walking red flag.
11points
#29
She invited me to meet her at a bar by her job. We had been planning to meet after a few days of talking. I had met her in person and we exchanged numbers, this was well before tinder or POF. We met up, I was really thrilled to be drinking with her.
She had a boyfriend and was complaining about him. Then asked for "male advice" on some matters. I stayed an hour then made a sad drunk subway ride home. It happened again a few years later with a different woman, almost same situation exactly. She began complaining her BF plays too many video games and has no job. Yikes.
11points
#30
When my texts were ignored for a few days and when she sees me now she gives a smile but it's not the one she used to give me. It's that half grin when it used to be an eye roll leading into looking down smiling and then looking at me and scrunching her nose.
7points
#31
She spontaneously made out with this other dude and asked me for advice. I knew then I was never leaving the friend zone. Moved on instantly.
7points
#32
She came to me upset about falling out with her friend. She shared a screenshot of the conversation and it became quite clear that they had been talking to the same guy. That guy wasn't me. Made much more sense on why she was reluctant to meet me in person.
6points
#33
When she messaged me suddenly at 2 AM and said she was cutting me out of her life because I "wasn't respecting her boundaries despite her repeatedly asking me to stop." Spoiler alert, I went back and looked through literally our entire conversation history on every communication platform we had, no boundaries had ever been mentioned and no requests for me to stop anything I was doing every happened.
5points
